Loneliness is the byproduct of ending a relationship. But it doesn't have to last forever. Do you know how to find your way out of loneliness?
"The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven out of hell, a hell out of heaven." -John Milton
What you're left with when your marriage ends or your relationship is over is a whole lot of negative emotions and painful feelings that can overwhelm you. But one of the worst things you're left with is loneliness.
The feeling of being lonely can be almost too much to bear at times. The house is so quiet, when you roll over in bed and they aren't there and when you now do everything by yourself; it feels like you just landed on a darkened, deserted planet. You are in another world. And, you are all alone!
So, how do you find your way through this barren, isolated, cold place to find life again and live where the sun shines?
First you have to understand that grief is a process and one that you will get through in time. As difficult as it may be to believe, this pain won't last forever.
Next you need to know that any kind of transition takes time to adjust to. You went from sharing your life with someone to nothing at all, literally overnight! So how on earth do you think you're going to feel?
But the good news is each baby step you take forward will be one step closer to finding yourself again and creating a life without feeling lonely anymore.
Start to surround yourself with the people you love. There's a reason they say friends and family are a gift. They will be your greatest support through one of your darkest times so allow them to be there for you.
Second begin to rediscover all the things that you may have put on the back burner while you were in a relationship that you can now freely do with pleasure. Oh, I know, pleasure doesn't seem possible right now but it will, just give it some time.
Keeping active in whatever capacity you can is a key to losing the loneliness. Now granted you can't be active 24/7, but there are tons of things to do, places to go and people to see. And as time passes what you will find is that you will actually begin to appreciate your alone time!
The reality is that we will all face heartache and adversities in some form or another in life. And when this happens we have a choice as to how we will react to it. Your interpretation of the events and crisis in your life will determine how you experience them.
Your attitude is the number one factor that will make all the difference in how you go through anything life hands you. It can pull you up or pull you down. It can make you a victim or a victor. It can help you move on or keep you stuck living in the past.
Remember, you can make heaven out of hell or hell out of heaven. What do you choose?
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