No couple, or at least very few couples, escape the occasional problems the come up in everyday life. It is not the problems, but how they are handled that cause a disruption in the happy life that we all strive to live.
Among the top problems that couples face - young or not so young - are the following:
1. Communication
2. Sex -
3. Money
4. Consideration for each other -
5. Not making your relationship the most important priority in your life
I know that there are no surprises for you here, but keep in mind the techniques in handling these common problems are absolutely paramount in the keeping of the lasting affectionate and loving environment in which you want to live.
The one thread that runs through all five of these potential problem areas is: communication. There is no dispute in that claim, for without good clear communication, none of the above is solvable. And yet, with good dialogue, all the above potential problems are solvable, and usually quite easily.
It is not by coincidence that communication is #1 - by a long shot.
Let's assume that you accept that, and move on to everyone's favorite subject - Sex. Now we are moving into interesting waters. Suppose that you find incompatibility is a problem. Yes, I am talking about incompatibility in sex, and yes, there is indeed such an animal. Easily solved? Maybe!
Here is a great example of how good communication can ride to the rescue. A prominent California psychotherapist suggested a personal `Sexy List`. It is simply a list to be exchanged by each partner stating their favorite `turn on`. Isn't that great? Simple, yet eloquent in its simplicity! And it will work! Try it.
Now, face it - isn't that easy?
You don't need:
1. To Sulk,
2. To become an alcoholic,
3. Look for a good divorce attorney
4. To take out your frustration on your Facebook page
5. To tell all your friends about your problems.
Take the communication approach, per above! Chances are good it will work!!
Now, let's tackle money.
Be honest about your financial situation. If things have gone south, (as is pretty common in today's economic climate) continuing the same lifestyle that was possible before the loss of income is simply unrealistic.
Don't:
1. Approach the subject in the heat of battle
2. Approach the subject with the inten of blaming one another
3. Forget to decide which person will be responsible for paying the monthly bills.
4. Forget to allow each person to have independence by setting aside money to be spent at his or her discretion.
Now. Let's combine #4 and #5:
• Consideration for each other, and
• Not making your relationship the most important priority in your life.
Now, I ask you, "Can you separate these two items?" No, you can't. If you indeed have as your top priority - your relationship - you automatically will have consideration for each other.
Easy, but perhaps not so simple, are the questions:
1. Just how do express that commitment to your other,
2. And how do you maintain that attitude?
Well, luckily there have been relationship experts who have studied these questions very carefully. You know, you can't be an expert in everything - and though you may be great in your profession, career, or ???????..........No one can do it all.
There are tools, techniques, and strategies (too strong a word?) to address such things as:
• How to understand men
• Does he love me
• What men want
• How to keep a man
• How to keep a man interested
Well, if you are looking to solve a lack of affection, to head off a lack of interest, to solve the common problems that all couples face, and truly want to get some spice in your love life - - Take a look at this free video!
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Ron Vicari is a skilled conversationalist - and brings the art of communication to a simple, fun adventure. He firmly believes that everything we do in our lives revolves around effective communication - whether it be in a social setting such as a dinner party, or in a boardroom - or in a bedroom.
Good Conversation Skills make Good Relationships!
Find him at: http://relationshipsadvices.org
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