Would you believe that even a Politician can exhibit a tremendous lack of skills for communication?
I was part of a small group standing in a field next to an industrial complex, and the subject being discussed - - - was building another accompanying complex ...
The individuals in this group consisted of" Two Developers Two Politicians One Stock Broker One Realtor
The interesting thing about the 'after the meeting 'was when I shared an automobile with one of the participants, and we began discussing the meeting. We came to the same conclusion - and that was: One of the individuals seemed 'not to belong 'there, by virtue of his demeanor.
He was a great study in what happens when you have never entertained the subject of, 'how to improve the confidence level 'of his (our) (your) circumstances.
It was so interesting that we we came to the same conclusion - simultaneously - without any prior conversation.
This was not merely gossiping; it was two students of human nature discussing a fascinating subject-- the perception of power, or lack of power! It really centered around the subject of how to build a confidence so that you are at home in any and all environments -
When we began the discussion, the first thing we looked at was clothing-- was this person dressed any differently than the others?
No. In fact he was probably dressed better than the others. One of the developers had on a sweater, and the other had on a windbreaker. Our subject had a blazer and tie. No, it was not the clothing.
Was it the posture? Yes, but only partially. His posture seemed to indicate that he was eager to please. That is a real killer for the subject of: How do you build confidence.
His overall demeanor and attitude was doubly interesting, because the developers were coming to him for the city's blessing. They needed him-- and yet, he was so eager to please. He was very willing to laugh at the slightest provocation-- and seemed to need their approval.
To top off the mix, he was the oldest of the group-- complete with white wavy hair, and the looks (until he expressed himself through speaking or posture) of the 'older gentleman '.
Yet, he did not carry his age with dignity.
So, what was it that made this politician-- appear to be lacking something? Isn't that a strange phrase-- stand out by a lack?
The more we discussed this individual, it became apparent that he did not have the simple confidence necessary to develop skills for communication.
Now - how does this pertain to a Dinner Party?
Remember that the entire premise of a Dinner Party is that it is a microcosm of our lives. If you can not portray yourself with dignity as a skilled conversationalist - in every day life - you will be missing out on the fun, joys, and who knows 'what else 'at the next Dinner Party.
So very easy to fix !!
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Ron is a master communicator and has extensive experience in being in social situations where many are strangers to one another. It is this type of environment that offers the most opportunities at many levels. His sites deal with conversation in and around a Dinner Party environment. You will find his site: http://funpartygamesforadults.com both enlightening and entertaining.
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