And one more important factor: mentorship.
The key, the ultimate secret to creating success, the shortcut, the long cut, the essential ingredient - you need to have a mentor, someone who has gone before. We all need someone to follow, no matter at what distance. We all need to know it can be done, so that we can do it. We may create the most original invention in the world, but only because someone told us we could. We need to stand in some shoes, or reach higher because we can stand on their shoulders. We need a teacher we can trust.
Now it can be indirect, that is through an association with individuals or a group that has attained the success you are aiming at, or direct, with a leader or someone who you can work with one on one.
True Mentorship or Association is not usually found at a teaching institution, especially if you are looking at entrepreneurial success. Yes, of course there now hundreds of courses from such figures as Tony Robbins and Brian Tracy that 'teach' success, usually for a large fee, and usually because they are very good at teaching.
However the ideal way to create your success, in whatever area you are committed to, is to do like those teachers did - search out and find the leaders you wish to emulate, and then, by associating with them as they interact with their own lives and accomplishments. Get around them, and their ideas. And remember their ideas, how they think will always be more important than the specifics they do. Action is great, but it's the ideas that create our realities.
This leads to two important questions;
1) How do you identify a mentor, or group of people who will truly be worth following and emulating?
This is the simplest.
Find people who have what you want. Find a group, who has the lifestyle you want to have, and ideally have created it by becoming successful in the vehicle you want to succeed in.
Now you may only want to be good or great at what you do and couldn't really care about the 'life' it gets you, or who you get it. But be careful with that. As they say bad trees cannot create good fruit, and vice versa. That is if the result is misery or fraudulent, it's really not worth it.
2) How do you actually get around these people, as they are probably not people you find in your everyday life?
Most successful people are open to helping individuals who are genuine in their own search for success. Most successful people, given the opportunity, like to talk about their successes.
However what do you offer in return? They have spent their lives learning their way to their own success - what are you offering them in return for their knowledge. Money is not the answer. Sometimes it's just the attention you pay, and the genuine enthusiasm for learning what they know. Display your dedication to their knowledge and effort. Sometimes its offering to help them in some way they need, almost like an apprentice or intern.
If the people you want to be mentored by or at least associate with are physically close to you, in terms of location, offer to be a helper for them, get their coffee, carry bags, open doors, small things that nevertheless help them. If they are giving a seminar can you ride along with them, carry their notes, prepare the way for them? Be a disciple. After all if they have what you want in terms of the information for success, it is well worth the apprenticing. This is not lowering yourself. This is subordinating yourself to the fast train.
If they want their privacy then only approach them in public venues. All industries have seminars and networking events, and the leaders of that industry are always there, and open, at those events to communicating with attendees. In all probability that's how they got started by finding a mastermind trust through seminars and industry meetings.
Therefore take advantage of these seminars - make sure you contact the speakers, the leaders, identify people you can relate to, and make a point of introducing yourself. Don't be shy, this is how it's done. Every seminar go and introduce yourself again, say your name each time (pretend you have no name tag) - it's not to them to remember your name - it's up to you to imprint your name in their world.
Be serious about building a network. After all the average MBA costs about $100,000 - and that is public mentorship - so be serious about this your private mentorship.
(NOTE: -Do not be a pest, and find that line that allows you contact without becoming a stalker. If you were in that person's position, what would you want, what would make you pay attention?)
If the person has no wish to be available, and makes it clear that he or she has no wish to share anything, that is absolutely their choice and like any other relationship advance, there are plenty of successful people out there - move on and find someone who is open to working with you, in one form or another.
If this is success in the internet marketing field, or an industry where the person you wish to follow has programs or books or DVDs out there that they market, make sure you BUY them.
Be a great customer before you become their student. Show appreciation of what is being offered. Again if a Master's in Business costs at least $100,000, think then that this exclusive personal association or even at length mentorship is, to quote the phrase, 'priceless'.
You are building a relationship with your future, be as attentive and considerate as you would courting your future partner.
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author martin gover - writes for http://moreincomezone.com - a website that will kick start your Interent Business. Info, freebies, and help for the internet entrepreneur
He also has been know to idle aways days at http://martingover.com
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