The Pit of Depression - How Does It Feel?

Many people would like to assist a loved one who's battling with depression but simply don't really know what it's like, so take a short trip with me to "The Pit". Possibly it can help you to understand a little more.

Imagine ...

Picture yourself inside a dark pit, you really don't know how on earth you arrived there. You just appeared to land on a slippy slope and straight down you went. It is extremely scary, nothing seems to make any sense, and you simply cannot see anything. Thoughts bombard you from the inside, a bit like bats zooming around you in a very dark cave, you are useless, you are guilty, you're unlovable, life's of no value. You become stressed and also quickly irritated. You can't get to sleep. You're exhausted but sleep just doesn't come. Your appetite is gone and you simply can't eat. Things that you used to love hold absolutely no attraction now you are in the pit. You try to find your way out, it is such a battle, possibly death would be a welcome way out. It is very distressing and you know that you will need someone to help you get out. Yet this thought can also be distressing since it is hard to rely on anybody, you've learnt to be incredibly self-reliant, people can easily hurt. You get a grip on the edge of the pit and hope a friend will offer you a helping hand and pull you out of the pit. Someone does come along and your hopes rise. People look over the side and you notice remarks like:

- What exactly is your complaint?
- I'm disappointed, I figured that you were stronger than that.
- No-one ever said life was fair.
- Pull yourself together.
- Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
- There are lots of people far worse off than you.
- You feel yourself loosing your grasp on the edge of the pit.
- You truly have a countless number of things to be thankful for, what possible reason do you have to be down in the dumps?
- You feel you have troubles ...!
- Brighten up!
- You really need to get out more.
- Well, everybody gets depressed from time to time.
- You seldom consider anyone but yourself.
- You're just looking for people's attention.
- You don't look depressed.
- Maybe you must get some supplements, or perhaps chamomile tea for your stress and anxiety.

All these comments injure you so much, perhaps you were right in not trusting people.

Then some other people come along and hear you battling to get out of the pit. Perhaps these people are going to help. You hear these words.

- I love you, allow me to give you a hand.
- I do care for you, let's go out for a cup of coffee.
- You're not alone in this situation.
- I'm certainly not going to abandon you.
- Hey, you're definitely not crazy.
- I cannot fully grasp what you're feeling, however I will try.
- You are extremely important to me.
- Just about all I want to do right now is give you a hug and a shoulder to weep on.
- When all this has ended, I'll still be here and so will you.
- This will pass. We can easily ride it out as a team.

Love your disheartened friend. That is certainly everything they really want. Don't try and correct them up, they would fix themselves up if they were able to. Get them to a doctor if they have not already been. Take them out for a cup of coffee or a stroll and make certain they fully understand that they're well loved!

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If you wish to know more details on overcoming depression and also how to help a friend, make sure you head on over to http://overcoming-depression.org for more info.

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