Here's the dirty secret - happiness comes from achievement, whether financial, artistic, personal, athletic, relationships, all happiness comes from creating something. You cannot just 'be happy' (even with drugs)(maybe if you sing the song…while you are singing it!)
When you are young there is a large world to experience, and you have the appearance of time stretching out to infinity, plenty of time and space to drift from one experience, or from one country, or from one job, or one partner to another (this is the personal bit).
After the late say 30 years of age - life starts to become a little more serious. And there are definite things you start to want, and there are limits you start to notice, and if you have left yourself with few options say by not completing a decent education, by not learning how to live with others (social Network ) by not stretching any part of your psyche - it's a hard place to start from. Being 30 or 35 or 55 and being nowhere.
I know that, because that's what I did. Almost. At 35
I had no 'career' goals, I had no great desires or pull to do any one thing, I was never interested in 'getting rich'. But I did have a good education, I did put myself in many situations that required concentrated effort to get myself extracted from, and I had in many small ways achieved short term goals that brought a sense of satisfaction. So I wasn't ahead, but I knew what it felt like.
Maybe you are 40 or 50 and wondering what happened and you are looking for ways to create some life for yourself, with what's left.
Maybe you're 65 and staring at the end of a work life that has left you nowhere.
No matter when or what -there are always boatloads of life and opportunities left. It's just a matter of putting yourself in a place where you can find them (and they can find you)
REPEAT There's always life left, whatever age you are. As they say in Oceans 11 - boatloads. Boatloads of boatloads of opportunity
(JOSH: Any money in Incan Matrimonial--?
DANNY: - Head masks. Some…
RUSTY: Don't let him fool you. There's boatloads.)
REMEMBER TO START FROM WHERE YOU ARE. PREVENTS FALLING ON THE FIRST MOVE
Wherever ever you are, whatever age you are, you can only and always only start from where you are. And wherever that is you can set a goal, or make a plan. And when you do, create your life plan or dream, or goal - do so with the strict criteria that whatever you can plan will succeed, and whatever you need for capital to do it - is available.
I can personally attest to that strange fact. When you are focused and directed, you find what you need to move to the next step always. Always. By directing your energy you come across the right connection, or that extra piece of money you need today, or that friend who helps, or that book that leads you to the next step. .
This isn't magic. The things, people and money you need is always available. Life is a full place not a scarcity place. But when we are drifting through our days and life, they pass us by. When we are focused, we notice. It's the same as when you 'gaze' out of a window at a landscape, unfocused, drifting - not much gets you attention. But if you are scanning on full alert - you see everything you need to see
Make a plan
Set your goals
Make yourself proactive, active, ready.
Luck comes to those who are in motion - always.
No one can steer a parked car
Build in value to others. The more you can create value for others from your plans and goals - the larger the personal return.
PLANNING and SCHEMING (in a good way)- cautions
1) When setting goals - do not try and save the world in a week- realize in the end there are only certain things you can affect. There is your circle of influence - which you can over time expand, and then there is the rest of the world. Remember even Mother Teresa said she could only save the world, one person at a time. Understand what you can affect, and what is beyond you, let what is beyond you do whatever it likes - you work to effect/affect what is within your circle. Going mad, or becoming frustrated and bitter is not a great career choice.
2) Don't whine. Don't look for someone or something to blame. Blame is irrelevant and unhelpful. You wish to achieve, blaming, regret, guilt etc. are anchors. Unhelpful, heavy anchors. Self Pity is an empty sport.
3) Whining and blame is compulsive, we all know that. We all want to blame someone or something for every apparent misstep or bad thing that befalls us. It's the default action, like scratching a scab. But scratching a scab doesn't help healing. Using restraint and forcing yourself to move on despite the scab (and the genuine) stupid actions of yourself and others is the way to achieve. Whining is and self-pity is good for a few minutes or when you were four. But now it's time to make a life.
WEALTH
If you do want to be wealthy -here's a tip: - create massive value in a marketplace or a community. Do some research into what seem to be major concerns, that you have a connection with - think about what you can offer , that is not out there. Then, be bold, and create something that solves or alleviates that problem of a community or society. If you want to acquire wealth (as opposed to say stealing it) then offer some massive value item that attracts wealth. As Steve Jobs did or Bill Gates with computers. It doesn't have to be world changing, but it has to be bold.
Does that sound too simple? It is, and it isn't. Attracting wealth is always done by creating massive value. The work is in making sure the value you have to offer is seen for what it is. That it gets enough attention. And of course that the value idea, or product, or information - truly is of value, and not a scheme, or a flop. And that's a whole other topic
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This is an extract from martin gover's new book - "Making Your Life Work - How to make Money in any Economy" - available on Amazon/Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B007KBR5N2
martin gover - writes for http://moreincomezone.com - a website that will kick start your On-line Business. Info, freebies, and help for the internet entrepreneur
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