Too often, our own poor feelings of self-worth cause us to be pessimistic about our real capabilities. The sad thing is, whatever we think slowly becomes reality - because all aspects of our being follows suit. When we think we will fail, we will. When we think we are incapable, then we won't be successful. When we think we are losers, we eventually will be.
But there's hope - because if we do the opposite, which is to think that we can, we will, and we are capable, then our thoughts take over the way we think and act - thus bringing us closer to success.
So how do we make positive affirmations? Here are the steps:
Identify your negative self-talk and beliefs.
Do this in handwriting, not with a computer. Connecting your physical self with your neurons and psyche and intuition is important here. What our bodies do, our subconscious learns from. Fold a piece of lined paper in half lengthwise, and then unfold it. Down the left side, write a list of those self-limiting statements you've been thinking. Stick to one theme or personal issue on this first list. Write everything that comes to mind on the topic. Don't think, just be spontaneous and real. It needs to be a stream-of-consciousness set of statements. Then spend a few days listening closely to yourself, to what you're saying, thinking. Ask a friend to listen, too. Add every negative self-talk statement to your list as it comes up. After you think you've written them all, wait. More will come. As you empty out the top layer in your mind, the next layer will be revealed and released.
Create some affirmations out of those beliefs.
You are going to write some new statements. You may feel huge resistance as you do it. Maybe you won't believe a thing you write. Perhaps you'll feel discouraged. You'll probably think it's weird. But humor me, just like my students did. Down the right side of your paper, across from each left-side statement, write a new one that transforms that negative statement into a positive.
Examples:
** "It's hard to lose weight" becomes "Losing weight is easy for me."
** "I can't save any money" becomes "I'm good at saving money."
** "I'll never meet the right guy/woman" could become
** "I'm open to new relationships" or "I'm ready to meet my perfect mate."
The new statements must be in the present tense. Write "I am…" rather than "I will be…" or "I'm going to be…" Avoid using the word "try" because "I'm trying" is a self-perpetuating statement. To get around your disbelief about writing something that feels untrue and seems impossible, you can write things like "I'm learning to…." and "I'm getting better at…." It's still present tense, still a positive affirmation. Something like "I'm getting better at saving money" might feel better than "I'm good at saving money."
Repetition.
In order to bring about significant changes in your life, affirmations have to be done several times a day till such time that they become a reality. If you do them for a few days only, the expected results may not come. Be bull doggish about them, i.e. continue doing them till your goals are accomplished. Do them till you get your desired results?
Visualization
Creative visualizations are extremely useful for helping with your affirmations. If you visualize the goal of your affirmation, or rather its success it can have a huge impact. I would suggest visualizing from a first person perspective. For instance, if you're affirmation is that "I will do 10 pull-ups straight by the end of the month." Then visualizing yourself actually doing pull-ups can have a significant effect on your end results.
Leave Reminders
Using post it notes, having a piece of paper in your wallet, having a screen saver, or anything similar with your affirmations written on it can be very helpful. The entire idea is to change the way you think to improve your quality of life or help you reach a goal, being reminded of your affirmations on a regular basis will only cement the ideas, goals, or drive within' you to be successful.
Reversing the negative beliefs into positive affirmations:
The final thing you want to do is turn our negative beliefs into positive affirmations. Now that you understand the belief should be true or not, you can now start the healing process. All you simply want to do is take your negative belief and reverse it into a present day statement as though it is already true. In all understanding the power of words will drastically improve your quality of life and you will be to live a life of true meaning and ultimate purpose.
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Michael Griffiths is the CEO and Founder of Secrets of a Super Life, providing individuals with personal development strategies to increase their purpose, passion, happiness and life fulfilment. For your free life success pack please visit http://www.mysuperlifetoday.com
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