Mankind is made up of diverse personalities and traits - each person is different from each other. However, there are those who can't seem to take the uniqueness of others - and hope that they can change these "unacceptable" qualities to conform to their own twisted concept of reality. The funny thing is, these very people who view themselves as the "perfect ones" are those who end up miserable in the process of trying to change other people.
Why must we learn to accept people? Who will end up more benefitted in such a situation? Do we end up happier, or get frustrated in the process of taking people as they are?
Below are five reasons why acceptance is better than change:
It brings closeness. When people know that you truly accept them, trust develops, they open up more to you, and a closer bond develops. In particular, it improves relationships with your children, your loved one, colleagues and family members.
We simply don't have the right to dictate on others. People are who they are and for the most part, are happy with the person they have become. No one has given us the right to try to change who they are, or try to make them into someone they are not. We tend to get carried away by thinking that we are right and our way is the only way to do things. Just because our way works for us, it does not mean that we have the right to force it onto others. By not accepting people for who they are in essence saying that we are not only better, but smarter than them. People have faults and either you can accept and live with their faults or not. If it is not family whom you have an obligation to support, then you have the choice to move on.
People are far too judgmental, and place their prejudices on others, without stopping to think how the victim of their prejudices feels. We gain a kind of 'false superiority over others, based on how we perceive them in our own mind. It seems such a simple thing to do, to accept people for who they are…as simply 'people'. We should go by this premise: that we should all treat each other the way we, ourselves, would like to be treated. Only then will harmony reign upon the earth.
You experience greater personal growth. When you accept others, your focus changes from them to you, which allows you to work on fostering your unique skills and talents as well as improving your shortcomings.
Inability to accept others is most often a reflection of a person's own inability to accept himself / herself. Acceptance is a conviction or an assurance about something. It takes self-confidence and a belief in oneself and objectivity to accept others as they are. One must know who he or she is before they can accept others. Many people who find fault in others impute certain behavior or judgments based on their own inability to accept themselves. When they cast aspersion, attention is taken off them. To accept people for who they are means reaching out to them in positive ways. It means making connections with them, perhaps learning something about them that will change stereotypical attitudes. If this is not the motive for reaching out, the whole notion becomes an exercise in futility.
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Michael Griffiths is the CEO and Founder of Secrets Of A Super Life, providing individuals with personal development strategies to increase their purpose, passion, happiness and life fulfilment. For your free life success pack please visit http://www.mysuperlifetoday.com
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