It is sad to note that there are actually a lot of people who are pessimistic - and are comfortable being so. They see themselves as practical - not expecting too much from life or from people, and not putting on a fake smile especially when they feel sad.
They believe that the secret to survival is being realistic - that life is more disappointment than it is enjoyment. Actually, although pessimists are not entirely wrong, it is still debilitating to always feel negative. They say you become what you think - so unknowingly, pessimists may be attracting bad vibes (which make them feel even worse) with their negativity, thus disenabling any form of happiness from entering their lives. We think it's all a matter of perspective.
You cannot appreciate joy without pain, happiness without disappointment. The key to enjoying life is how to properly manage the good with the bad, and how to pick yourself up after failure.
Here are a few ways to resist the urge to think negatively.
Learn to manage your stress. Concealing your anxiety and sorrows is not a good way to battle pessimism.
The more you keep it pent up inside, the more frustrated you will feel. Cry when you need to - it's a great way to release stress. But, don't spend the rest of the year crying! Each person has his or her own way of letting off frustrations - you may opt to listen to good, relaxing music, or read a great book, or even exercise. Stress management is essential in battling not just negativity but also in maintaining great physical and mental health.
Constant reality checks Debate the validity of your concerns by determining if they are rational or not.
When you find yourself thinking of the worst situation, next step is to think if it is indeed most likely to happen. Sometimes, pessimists fill their minds with thoughts of worst-case scenarios which are not even logical, and therefore quite improbable. You will find that negative thinkers spend a good time conjuring up the most morbid of situations that they allow these to cloud their judgment and ways of thinking. Now isn't it silly worrying that the most impossible of things happening? To battle pessimism - try to be more realistic. Go easy on over-thinking and imagining what isn't really there. You never want to leap to conclusions and cause yourself unnecessary stress.
Seek the support of friends and family Never underestimate the power of love.
Friends and family will offer you the comfort you need when you feel debilitated by your stress and pessimism. They are also more than often the ones who will give you a dose of reality check. If you have a really great family and/or friends, confide in them your worries and anxieties. They will listen when no one else would. Most other people only like to hear happy stories, but your real friends will be there to support you even when you cry your heart out to them. Sometimes all it takes is another person's point of view to put things into perspective.
Own your feelings.
Accept the fact that only you have complete control over what you feel - and how your body reacts. Like what they say, you may not be able to control events, but you can control how you react to them. You can decide to let small things bring you down, or completely set them aside as simply "one of those things that don't matter." Remember - it's your body, your mind, your emotions - no one else has full reign over it but you alone. Your rehabilitation from pessimist to optimist is entirely in your heart and hands.
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Michael Griffiths is the CEO and Founder of Secrets Of A Super Life, providing individuals with personal development strategies to increase their purpose, passion, happiness and life fulfilment. For your free life success pack please visit http://www.mysuperlifetoday.com
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