The natural progression of a relationship is marriage, is it not? That is the next step. So, what is wrong with asking your man to pop the question now? When you go to him and ask him to make that commitment you should be ready to accept the answer that he will give you. Whatever it may be, you should bravely face it and take it with the attitude of having "No Regrets!"
But as in all of life's battles or challenges, you do not go there without being prepared. You do not demand a commitment without setting the stage. Charging without ample preparation would be your downfall.
Take a good and honest look at your relationship. There is no need to go through a lengthy discussion about him being ready to take the next step since you have decided that now is the time. Before making this drastic move, you have thought about this so many times and have assessed your relationship that it is the proper time.
But to ease things, have you thought about the economic implications of settling down? This might be one of his possible concerns why he hasn't popped the question. Men are supposed to be the providers in the family. So before you do ask him the big question, either wait for him to settle his monetary obligations or come up with a plan to settle any monetary concern that he may have.
The next is to drop subtle hints without actually making demands. Be creative. Some would leave magazines on top of the table that is open to pages on wedding rings. Some would ask their partner to enter the jewelry store as they walk about in the mall; just an unplanned and unexpected side trip. Some would even go to the extent of trying out rings. Make it appear as a role play. Just get him into a merry and nothing serious mood. Then drop hints on how he sees this happening in the future. Some would lead their partner to visit the exact place where he first expressed his feelings. Try to get him to reminisce and renew pledges of love.
During this time tell him you love him and assure him that you are ready to commit. You need not dwell on it. Just say it and make him feel your sincerity. He might have just been waiting for you to say something all along.
The key is to be subtle. Not to over express your desire to be married. Most men see this as a big turn off. But,if this does not work. Move to the next plan.
Find ways to show him how important you are in his life. Some would just suddenly go on an emergency trip and leave their partner disoriented to handle things around the home or do shared commitments alone. Think of ways for him to miss you and make him realize that you are a necessary part of his life. Sometimes relationships become too comfortable that there is no longer a need to take it to the next level. Do something to rock this safe, secure and comfortable world your partner lives in so that he can see your worth. If you need the help of friends to mediate, then seek their assistance. Sometimes you need their support to pull this off.
If, still, this does not work, you can either take the hint or just go and ask him directly. This is understandable. Sometimes we need to hear it and see the words come out of his mouth before we accept the reality that has been staring at us all along. This is therapeutic so do not back down now. Be brave! You have come this far! You are strong! If things do not work out at least you can say that you did it all with no regrets! Ask him and give him the final ultimatum,but be prepared for the answer even if it is not what you wanted to hear, but at least you now know where you stand ,and must decide whether to move on or invest more time in the same relationship.
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