It is difficult to achieve anything worthwhile if you do not believe in yourself. Sometimes, it's our own thoughts, which prevent us from being successful. The secret is to improve one's feelings of self-worth.
Below are 3 ways you can improve the quality of your thoughts, which have a huge effect on your actions and success.
Think Better Thoughts
Begin to notice your automatic thoughts. Are you inner voices supportive and loving, or critical and abusive? Consciously watch your thoughts as a detached observer. There is no need to fight your thoughts, pretend to ignore them, or even judge them. Instead, bring your thoughts out into the open. Acknowledge their existence, write them down, and speak them aloud. Sit back and say to yourself, "Isn't that interesting that I am thinking these thoughts." It's okay to feel insecure or anxious, and you still love yourself. It is also okay to add the supportive and loving thoughts you really want to hear. Your thoughts are your responsibility and while you cannot erase negative thoughts, you certainly can learn to challenge them.
Learn to overcome a fear of self-love.
Self-love is often equated with narcissism, egotism, and some kind of one-way trip to introversion. This is probably partly because the English language has a hard time dealing with the word "love" - it has to cover a lot of territory for the many different types of love out there. It is also mired in the confusion people feel about the messaging to do good unto others, to always be charitable, and to give, give, give, of oneself. While these are noble intentions, they can often be taken out of proportion and used to downplay putting one's own needs and wants beneath those of others out of a fear of being perceived as selfish or inward looking. Again, this is about getting the balance right.
Healthy self-love is about being your own best friend. Self- love is expressed not through preening oneself all day and constantly announcing how great you are (those are signs of intense insecurity); rather, self-love is about treating yourself with the same care, tolerance, generosity, and compassion as you would treat a special friend. Treat yourself with care, compassion, and respect.
Take Responsibility for your Actions, Without Judgment
If we can see the value in our past experiences we can accept responsibility without judgment for our part in the drama. Taking responsibility for our own part can be very freeing. We can start to see our future experiences as opportunities to learn and grow, even the uncomfortable ones. Forgive yourself. Once we see that many of our uncomfortable experiences taught us valuable lessons, we can start to accept ourselves and practice forgiveness. If we find toxic behaviour, we can purge it, thank the Universe for the awareness, forgive ourselves for any perceived indiscretion, defuse any disabling beliefs and move on. Once we forgive ourselves, forgiving others becomes second nature. We start to accept that everyone is right where they need to be.
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Michael Griffiths is the CEO and Founder of Secrets Of A Super Life, providing individuals with personal development strategies to increase their purpose, passion, happiness and life fulfilment. For your free life success pack please visit http://www.mysuperlifetoday.com
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