When You Ask Yourself Why

"Everything that irritates us about others can lead to an understanding of ourselves."

-Carl Jung

The question I hear most often is, Why? And the why typically encompasses all events or circumstances in our lives. Why did he leave me? Why did they do this? Why don't they love me? Why did I lose my job? Why can't I find someone? And on and on.

Last night while lying in bed at 3:00 a.m I found myself asking: Why did this have to happen to my mom this way? I have been by her bedside for 3 weeks watching her go through a lot to say the least. I'll spare the details. I'm watching her becoming weaker every day and keeping an attitude that would seem impossible to most people. She has never once complained and jokes with the nurses and is her usual kind, warm self.

I try to be as strong as I can but the thought of losing her becomes overwhelming since she is my best friend, my biggest supporter and has loved me, encouraged me and I can't imagine not having her in my life. She is an angel from heaven and I have been truly blessed to have her as my mother.

I was talking with my good friend in Australia last night Lorraine Grace. We were discussing many things including my mom and my pain with it. Anyone in AU, look her up if you need a great counselor. www.gracecounsellingservice.com.au) Anyway, she said when you ask "why" instead ask yourself "how". (Even coaches need coaches!)

Instead of asking why did he leave me, ask how do I deal with this going forward? Why did I lose my job? Instead ask how am I going to find a new one? Why did this happen to my mom this way? Instead, ask how can I make her comfortable while she is still here?

When you ask why, it causes you to stay stuck in what is wrong which you have no control over anyway. It is what it is. Remember, when we resist what is, we suffer. When you ask how, it allows you to move forward. By asking how instead of why it rids you of feeling helpless and being a victim and it gives you direction and purpose.

Lorraine also loves the works of Eckert Tolle. She told me that Eckert Tolle explains that pain comes from the past and future. We cry over the past and wish things were different and we suffer because of it. And when we fear the future and what will happen or not happen, we suffer.

All we have is right now and we need to deal with the present moment. Let go of the past and don't worry about tomorrow. Take it a day at a time or a step at a time and have faith that God is with you carrying you through your pain when you can no longer walk.

When adversity knocks at your door answer with the divine strength and courage that will pull your through any challenge. Allow your spiritual self lead the way in healing your pain so you can have peace from within.


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