Make a bad first impression - and it hangs around forever. You can't hardly get rid of it. So, there is no good alternative for a favorable first impression.
When we realize the above is compound by the fact that most people have great faith in the accuracy of a first impression, we realize we have to darn well make the first impression a good one. It rates well over the impact of conversation starters or funny pick up lines
So, let's start there.
1. Presentation: The body language you present to 'the person' carries a lot of weight. So, focus on your smiling, your voice (speak in a clear, well-modulated manner), you want to stand tall, and you above all need to appear calm and in control. Don't be afraid to give a compliment. They are often warranted, and always appreciated!
2. Belong There: You don't want to appear alone and lonely. Make friends, speak to the friends you have just met, speak with the waiter in a friendly manner, likewise the bouncer. If you look lonely, you will be marked as a non-starter. Good conversation starters will come easily if you just look around. Just think, every time someone sees you laughing or seeming to enjoy yourself, your social value just went up-- significantly. Leave shyness at home. It doesn't belong with you if you are set to have a good time. Remember, you belong there!
3. Mirroring: I know you have heard of this term. It simply means duplicating the person to whom you are speaking-- leaning in, crossing legs, etc. And that is desirable and valuable. a. But, in this venue-- let us put another meaning to it. If you are nervous, ill at ease-- that may well be mirrored by the person to whom you are speaking with. And that, my friend, is not what you want. b. Conversely, if you are relaxed, open, and inviting by a smile and posture, the other person will mirror you.
4. Your physical appearance: Now, I can almost hear you thinking, "Hey, I can't do anything about the way I look." Baloney! Of course you can! If you follow good healthy habits-- and don't go for days without exercising-- you will find you do stand straighter, taller, and more confidently. Isn't that what you want? If so, of course you can control the way you appear to others.
5. Be You: If you think you are not unique, or precious-- Think again! You certainly are. Realize your value, relish it-- and treasure yourself. You don't have to fawn over someone for any reason. You are of tremendous value-- and act like you are-- because it is true.
Now, that you have made a great impression, what next? You know that you can make a good impression if you do above-- but the evening is still young. You are just getting warmed up! And, if you are a man - the evening is still young!
You know that conversation is a great enjoyment for intelligent people. They, and you are in this company, take great joy in meeting new interesting people-- and, let's be honest, flirting is a heck of a lot of fun.
Is there a way for women to learn it?
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Ron is a master communicator and has extensive experience in being in social situations where many are strangers to one another. It is this type of environment that offers the most opportunities at many levels. His sites deal with conversation in and around a Dinner Party environment. You will find his site both enlightening and entertaining.
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