It should be reassuring to know that good conversation starters don't have to be amazingly clever. In fact, to be so can often be counter productive. Too clever statements and questions can come off as contrived.
Conversation topics do not have to be prearranged and memorized. They can and should be something natural and not contrived.
Just think about it for a moment, and consider the following possibilities:
• Where was the last place you went on vacation?
• Where do you plan on going for your next vacation?
• If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
• What countries have you traveled to?
• What was your worst vacation experience?
Simple, isn't it? Asking friendly questions where there are no simple 'yes 'and 'no 'answers are easy to ask. In the case of vacations - who wouldn't be eager to tell you of their adventures in a Greek Island - or Las Vegas, or Detroit? (Good grief, did I just say 'Detroit 'as a vacation spot?)
'How to start a conversation? 'should not be a difficult question.
As you can readily see, each of these questions is a natural follow-up to the previous question. There is no special talent involved here. It is just a natural progression of questions that can open up to lots of avenues. The trick is to ask questions that can't be easily answered with a quick 'yes 'or 'no '.
And another much more important consideration is to have the sensitivity not to ask any personal questions at this juncture. And, also be aware that you might be catching the person at a very bad time (not really too likely in a social environment such as a dinner party-- but still possible).
If you do sense that, it may be prudent to find another person of interest. After all-- with your charm (you do have charm, don't you?) it will be easy to find someone else.
When you really think about it-- it is so easy to ask questions of a person you are interested in getting to know. You obviously want to get to know him or her, so what is more natural than to ask questions?
Conversation is a funny thing. You want to be good at it. Conversation topics should come natural-- and above all it should be second nature to visit comfortably, and confidently.
Have you ever noticed that conversation is the backbone of all communication? You can see that most people who rely exclusively on twitter, texting, etc. are missing out on the pleasure of simple face to face communication
. On the other hand, those that are proficient in conversation find it much easier to make new friends wherever they go.
Isn't that a goal worthy of a little effort? And a little effort is all that it takes to become truly proficient in making yourself over into a person who can effortlessly converse in any set of circumstances.
Yes, conversing is a skill-- some would call it an art-- that can be easily acquired. It is not like playing a piano, or baseball, or violin. It does not call for a 'natural aptitude 'of some unique ability. It is truly a proficiency that is yours for the taking, with just a little effort to learn the techniques.
Regardless of your objectives:
• Business Connection
• Relationship Enhancement
• Flirting Tips
• General Social Pleasure
• Etc
. The ability to converse well opens many pleasurable doors!
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Ron is a master communicator and has extensive experience in being in social situations where many are strangers to one another. It is this type of environment that offers the most opportunities at many levels. His sites deal with conversation in and around a Dinner Party environment. You will find his site: http://interestingconversationtopics.com both enlightening and entertaining.
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