Online Dating Communication Advice For Men

So you've searched your favorite dating site and finally found someone that you'd like to spend the time writing a message to - that's great! Sending that first message can be a lot like approaching someone for the first time - a little nerve racking. Don't beat yourself up and check, then re-check the message you just sent like our friend Socially Awkward Penguin - check out our helpful advice to increase your chances of receiving a reply.

Read the profile before you send a message.

A lot of Internet daters use the "fire and forget" method of messaging people they're interested in. They'll enter their search criteria and message the people who pique their interest. If you expect to receive a message back, read the profile thoroughly and say something about it in the message. It's best to speak about the things you have in common and make sure to ask questions to show genuine interest.

Discuss specific interests and hobbies.

Making a connection through commonalities is quite possibly the best way to do so. Again, read the persons dating profile and find something in common with the person you're interested in. If there doesn't seem to be anything you have in common specifically (you both like watching movies), look for things that are similar. For example, if she likes biking and you like snowboarding, ask her if she has ever tried it. Spark his/her interest!

Avoid talking about looks and talk about common points.

Understand that while talking to a girl/guy, "Hey you're sexy," may be flattering in your mind, it groups you with all the other guys/girls who message the same thing. Physical compliments and viewed a lot like pick-up lines and doesn't leave a very good impression with the person you're trying to hook up with and may hurt your online dating presence.

Don't use automated winks or emoticons.

Show him that she's special and worth the time to talk to. Chances are that if the woman or man you're sending them to receives a lot of them from different guys or girls and as I said before, you don't want to be just another fish in the sea - you want to be someone who appears interested.

I hope that these communication tips will help you out in your online dating adventures. If you're still looking for an Internet dating site that fits your needs, try free online dating at Romanticity. Romanticity features customizable profiles and interest groups to find exactly who you're looking for.

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This article was written by David Planck. If you're looking for more advice from online dating users like yourself, check out this forum: http://romanticity.com/forum/new

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