Does it really make sense to flirt with your wife / husband?
Let's look at facts, first:
Did you know that:
1. Married Adults now divorce 2 ½ times as often as adults did 20 years ago? 2. Married Adults now divorce FOUR times what they did 50 years ago 3. Now - between 40%-60% of new marriages will eventually end in divorce.
Now, that is a little scary, isn't it? If you are married - does that worry you a little? What are you to think?
Bottom line - Are you having fun in your marriage? If not, shouldn't you be? And, if not, whose fault is it?
There are lots of `experts` in the field of marriage - some are actually married themselves - but some are not. Most often, they will tell you to look at:
1. Money Matters 2. Financial Strain 3. How you were brought up 4. Differences of attitudes while growing up 5. Your mother didn't treat you right 6. Your father didn't give you warm feelings 7. Your parents were divorced - and you hated your step-father (step-mother) 8. Attitudes of Sex.
Is it possible that all those things can be just used as `excuses` and not really relevant (unless you are a `blame your mother for everything` person. Consider these:
1. A questioning of true, actual love 2. A decline of open affection 3. A doubting of one's responsiveness 4. An increasing of ambivalence 5. A lack of fun
These are symptoms that things are cooling off. Do you really want them to cool off? Weren't you having a great time while you were both single? Wasn't there a lot of excitement in the dating process - the thrill of the hunt (lousy analogy, but you know what I mean).
You don't really want that feeling to go away completely, do you? It can't be like that all the time, but to surrender those feelings permanently and completely, can be a huge mistake - -- and the reason why most marriages end up in divorce.
So, how about forgetting your background - and all the reasons why your marriage isn't working - and get on with creating excitement in your life?
Do you know how many books there are which go into Flirting? The same techniques that led you to him / her in the first place - (Flirting, etc.) can now lead you to a lot of fun in your married life.
You know, all `flirting` is - is skillful use of conversation. When you think about it - a skilled conversationalist has a much easier time going through life than almost anyone else. You can employ that skill in almost any endeavor.
So, become skillful in conversing, and you will find that that will open up so many avenues - from flirting in your marriage, to concluding business deals……. and everything in between. Your life can change in many marvelous ways - once you master the art of conversation - and the many uses you can put it to..
Everything revolves around communication - and the more skillful you are - the richer your life (and marriage or romantic adventures) will become.
You know, that there are flirting tips and techniques for romantic liaisons that I'll bet you enjoyed the heck out of when you were not married, so how about renewing some of those activities?
If you just reinvigorate some of the intimacy and plain fun you had when you were dating - you may not need the services of a marriage counselor, or psychotherapy.
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Ron Vicari is a skilled conversationalist - and brings the art of communication to a simple, fun adventure. He firmly believes that everything we do in our lives revolves around effective communication - whether it be in a social setting such as a dinner party, or in a boardroom - or in a bedroom.
Good Conversation Skills make Good Relationships!
Find him at: http://relationshipsadvices.org
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