Sooner or later we have to face the truth that we live in a world that is, in many ways, imperfect and unjust.
We will need to come to terms with this if we are to face life with emotional and psychological stability.
We may set out on our voyage with the highest intentions, thinking we really can change the world--and, indeed, each one of us can change the world, though only some of us will--but we will never alter the way that life is.
Life will continue to be life, regardless of our desires and remonstrations. It is under no obligation to be fair, it does not have to be just, and it does not have to always make sense. All it need do is all that it can do: It has to be itself.
In the wise words of Lao Tzu, originator of Taoism, what we have to do is 'let reality be reality'. This is the case, also, as it applies to each of us: We need to permit ourselves to be ourselves. discovering who that self is, or more accurately who those selves are - because each person is a composite of many different aspects - is a very big part of becoming authentic, of becoming real.
When we comprehend and accept this, when we stop demanding that life be something other than it is and that we become something different than we are, then we stop swimming against the current, and our passage through life becomes so much easier.
There are times when we have to adjust our sails and steer a course that leads to the shores of compromise. We may not like this, but then again there is no 'Great Law' that says we have to like everything in existence. The trick, of course, lies in knowing when to compromise and when not to.
When something cannot be altered, it is senseless to keep on banging our head against it.
The lucky ones amongst us find the serenity to accept the things that we cannot change, the courage to change the things that we can, and the wisdom to know the difference, to paraphrase Reinhold Niebuhr's Serenity Prayer, so wisely adopted by AA and other 12-Step groups.
As long as we do our very best, then we will have done all we can--even if, at times, the best we can really do is to keep our head above the water and keep right on breathing.
Our feet will always find secure land provided we do not abandon hope. Who knows how many people we might one day help because of our own difficult experiences?
Though we may not see it at the time, nothing need ever really be wasted. Everything has its value. Our real solutions, like so many of our problems, lie within. We need to work from the inside out, not from the outside in, to bring about true change and restore an inner balance that will endure.
As a therapist, I believe that advanced hypnotherapy provides the most effective way to do this that there is.
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Peter Field is a British hypno-psychotherapist with offices in London and Birmingham. He is the author of 'The Chi of Change - How hypnotherapy can help you rapidly heal and turn your life around -- regardless of your past'. Please visit http://www.chiofchange.com for more information and special offers.
For 1-2-1 therapy please visit http://www.peterfieldhypnotherapy.co.uk
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