Anger is a natural part of life. Even the most gentle of people are not immune from being angry. Pain is inevitable, and sometimes, one of the most common ways to react to it is by being angry.
But anger is not comfortable. It causes our stomachs to tighten up, we sweat and react instead of thinking rationally. The sad truth is nothing ever gets resolved when we let anger rule our judgment.
But the reason for feeling anger is more mental than we think it is. Our reactions are triggered by external situations - influenced by our own interpretation or perception. Each person has been subjected to different experiences and conditions, that our reaction to adverse situations is totally different from any other's.
Anger is usually triggered by 5 things:
The feeling of we have been treated or judged unfairly.
The feeling of loss
The feeling that we are being blamed, or that we blame ourselves for any bad developments in our lives
Pain - and how we are physiologically tuned to react when we feel pain
Being shaken up from our primary focus. It's disheartening when we are so dead-set on something yet get another adverse result.
So, how do we deal with pain positively?
When you're upset - breathe and pause. We get an adrenaline rush when we encounter things that trigger our anger. So train yourself not to quickly react impulsively. Think, count to ten, be silent - hopefully these moments of non-reaction will help you ponder on the possible repercussions of something you might say or do - which you may possibly regret.
Take time to cool off. It is quite logical that when you're steaming mad, you need to temporarily check-out from a potentially-stressful situation in order to appease your nerves. Remember that you can suffer a damaging stroke or heart and panic attack by feeding your anger. Anger is natural, but it must not be bred. Go to a quiet place, listen to soothing music, and if possible, stay away from other people who may back-up your anger even more.
Don't rush into a decision when you're angry. Allow enough time to address the situation. Don't make hurriedly-made decisions. Assess the situation, and wait until your judgment is no longer clouded by violent stormy skies. Allow the air to clear and the sun shine in before tackling the cause. Take note - a lot of criminals are in their current situations because they decided to do what they did at the wrongest time.
Don't try to address your anger when you're tired or sleepy. You need to be most alert for major decisions. Don't make them just when you can't think clearly. Anger is a rush of adrenaline which causes you to think out of the norm. With this, you won't be able to rest, have a good night's sleep or some peace of mind. Remember, there are also some people who never wake up from their sleep because they suffered a heart attack in the middle of the night. You multiply this possibility by going off to bed irritated and upset.
Don't let your anger own you - know how to deal with it correctly. Respond correctly, and not react quickly. Some repercussions of anger may last a lifetime - ask those locked up and remorseful - they will give you the most inspiring and thought-provoking thoughts on the value of controlling your anger. No sense destroying a lifetime of possibilities with a few moments of extreme uncontrollable frustration. Pause, and think about it.
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Michael Griffiths is the CEO and Founder of Secrets of a Super Life, providing individuals with personal development strategies to increase their purpose, passion, happiness and life fulfilment. For your free life success pack please visit http://www.mysuperlifetoday.com
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