Emotions are part of what make us all human. It is what fuels our actions, and influences our decisions.
However, there are a number of human emotions that destroy our minds and distract us from being truly happy. They bring out our bad side - making us sometime irrational and uncontrollably unreasonable. Instead of feeling happy about events, they make us crawl back into our comfort zones. In short, these emotions are those which rob us of our happiness.
Remember that the mind is influenced by emotions, which then affects the way we act. Most often, it is our inability to control these negative emotions which bring us loneliness, depression and failure.
Here are the 4 most common emotions that do us more bad than good that we all must stay clear of:
GUILT - Although guilt dictates to us what is right or wrong, too much of it definitely hinders people from being truly happy. Feeling guilt, for example, for telling someone that he is mean and self-centred is bad. Informing someone of how he can be a better person - even if it means hurting him - should never make people feel guilty. If you feel discomfort when you see this person hurt, try and think of all the people he has and will hurt in future, if ever you knew he was doing wrong, yet you never spoke up. There is always a right and wrong time to feel guilt - it is right when it keeps your actions at bay, always thinking of how you will affect others, but extremely wrong when you are debilitated by guilt into non-action. For as long as you know that what you're doing is above board, keep guilt hidden at the back of your mind. Doing so is crucial in attaining happiness and success. Also, when you know you have done wrong in the past, don't let your guilt take over your entire present. Make amends for what you have done, move on, and never let your troubled past affect your bright future.
ANGER - In today's society, it is very easy to lose control over one's temper - thus leading to anger. It is natural and so human to be mad for a short period of time, but to hang on to anger and resentment, and allowing it to influence all your actions and thinking is extremely detrimental to your life fulfilment and ability to be happy. Holding on to pain, regardless of where it stemmed from, hurts our own selves, and definitely hinders us from feeling joy. Being always angry also causes our bodies to be too stressed out, paving the way for illnesses to take cover in your heart and mind.
FEAR - Fear is that unexplainable feeling of nervousness and anxiety we feel before we even start doing something. Fear can completely freeze a person into non-action. In fact, most unsuccessful people are people who are too scared to make wrong actions or decisions - thus forcing them to do nothing. Associated with fear is RISK - which is actually what most people fear encountering. But the inability to take risks never results in anything good. To be a success, you must be willing to take risks, control your fear, bite the bullet and just go! If you want to be happy, you must be willing to encounter sadness somewhere along the way. Remember - we experience failure to fully appreciate success, sadness to appreciate joy, tears to appreciate a smile.
CONSTANTLY SEEKING APPROVAL FROM OTHERS - It is natural to want to be appreciated for what you are. It is human to want to fit in. But it is never good when all your life, you forget about how you actually feel, and just focus on making the people around you happy. You base your decisions on the approval and happiness of others. Reality check: it is your life, so you must enjoy it. Provided that you do not step on others' toes, what you make of yourself should be someone who makes the YOU proud and joyous. Stop listening to what others are saying. Stop living in fear of constant disapproval by others. You were given brains, use it. When you are in a constant struggle to seek approval, you rob yourself of all the joy in living a free life. There is a proper time to be self-centred. It is when you focus on making decisions, and acting in ways that make you happy - without offending others. Don't be happy and contented with being one with the crowd - dare to step out and do your thing. Who knows, you just might stumble into a whole new you who does not seek approval from others, but is otherwise acceptable and welcome in your uniqueness.
The key to happiness is to banish all these emotions from your being. Use your own judgment to decide which ones to throw out the door. Make it one of your ultimate goals in life.
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Michael Griffiths is the CEO and Founder of Secrets of a Super Life, providing individuals with personal development strategies to increase their purpose, passion, happiness and life fulfilment. For your free life success pack please visit http://www.mysuperlifetoday.com
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