So, you've separated. The relationship has ended. Now what? How does an individual move forward in a healthy way? Separations are surely not easy, no matter what the circumstances, but you can find ways to reduce your suffering.
-- Allow yourself time to grieve.
No matter how committed you may be to moving forward, you have to give yourself time to mourn the relationship. Whether you were the one who left or your partner was, breakups are nearly always painful. Adjustments must be made as well as feelings dealt with, and this naturally usually takes time.
Sometimes people make the mistake of attempting to bury their difficult feelings, but by doing this they are trying to circumvent the healing process as a whole. Indeed no one likes to feel miserable. We naturally want to feel better as fast as possible. However, the best way to feel better is usually to face your feelings directly.
Allow yourself to feel hurt, miserable, upset, puzzled, and many other emotions that so frequently come with breakups. When you allow yourself to feel these things now, you're less likely to see those feelings resurface later on when you are least expecting it.
-- Form some sort of help network
You've gone from sharing a regular part of your life with somebody else to being single yet again. For lots of people, this is probably the hardest of transitions. Maybe you feel alone, but in all probability you're surely not. Now may well be the time to get in touch with your good friends and loved ones for help. Phone them when you really need someone to talk to. Invite some over when you need to have a good laugh, weep, get your mind off these things, get out of the house, vent, and do any other activity you need to do.
-- Get out and about
Just as much as you might want to shut the whole world and everyone in it out from time to time, you have to get out of the house and be social as well. Go out with family, some of your close friends and others from your trusted support circle.
In the event you really don't have such a circle, then now is the time to work towards getting one.
Get involved in some new hobbies or activities and also meet some new people. Instead of looking at the separation being a entire loss, try looking at it from a different view. You have been given the opportunity at this point to dedicate time to other things, making new friends, acquiring new knowledge, developing newpastimes and focusing on yourself.
-- Move things around
You're starting a new chapter in your life, and a good way to remind yourself of this is by rearranging your surroundings. Change the position of a chair, your bed, a table. Move a photo or hang a new one. Create these types of changes to your home and things may really feel different in a better, newer way.
-- Give back
You may be going through a particularly rough time right now, but why don't you put things in perspective a bit, do some volunteer work, or have a go at a charity. It feels great to do things for others, particularly those who're really in need.
Think about what sort of activities you can get involved in. If you like animals, you may volunteer at an animal shelter. If you're someone of faith, you can get involved in charity work done by your place of worship. There's an array of different choices, but you need to select something which is meaningful to you yourself. You will feel wonderful after assisting, AND it will help you to place your loss into perspective.
Above all, give yourself time to make the adjustments necessary, time to process your emotions, and time to heal. No need to be harsh with yourself and you'll find yourself moving forward right into a happier day.
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Peter Field is a Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psycholtherapy, and a Fellow of the Royal Society of Health. His Birmingham hypnotherapy practice provides hypnosis services in London and throughout the West Midlands. For more information please visit his hypnotherapy website at http://www.peterfieldhypnotherapy.co.uk His book 'The Chi of Change' explores the fascinating world of hypnotherapy http://www.chiofchange.com
Thursday, December 25, 2014
Tuesday, October 28, 2014
Top 6 Questions People Have Before they Begin to think about Personal Development for Themselves
For most people, personal growth or personal development is not only a process in itself, but getting to the point of realizing that it may be something they want to incorporate into their lives is also a process. Most people don't wake up one day out of the blue and decide that they want to focus on their own personal growth. There are usually questions and recurring situations they one continues to struggle with that will be the catalyst in starting them off in that direction. So what could those questions be?
1) How to stop the feelings of guilt and fear of the loss of those you love
This one is very common as most people are brought up do deal with situations through guilt or fear. However, because it is not our normal status quo way of being, over time, we begin to show the effects of carrying the guilt and fear through the deterioration of our health, wealth, or relationships.
2) How to silence the thoughts that carry you over self destruction
All of our thoughts were created and reinforced through our perceptions of experiences that we went through. Many of these thoughts are based on false perceptions, so therefor the thoughts will only reinforce these false perceptions and cause us to recreate the same types of experiences over and over again. False thoughts can only lead to destruction, which is why it is important to replace them with constructive thoughts based on the truth.
3) How do I find my passion and direction to live love no matter what
Many of us become so overwhelmed with false perceptions of ourselves, that over time, we begin to lose ourselves and what brings us joy in this world. Those of us that are lucky enough to realize that we are going through the motions and not living our lives through our love, have time to rekindle that passion and truly make a difference in our lives and those around us.
4) How do I overcome adversities and animosities without allowing them to devour me?
Live brings us challenges and experiences that we sometimes feel are not desirable. So how can we move through these experiences and see the silver lining in each situation so we can continue to move forward and not get stuck and mired in disappointments and doubts that can creep up.
5) How do I find and maintain lasting happiness?
To most of us, this is very important. many of us are not automatically happy in our lives. Most of us are pessimistic and see the wrong in things instead of the right. Seeing the wrong in things does not allow us to be happy and empower us into really creating the life we love.
6) How do I allow myself to live the real me?
If you have ever made a decision based on the approval of someone else in spite of what you wanted, you are not living the real you. If you have ever felt you had to hide a part of yourself because of what someone else may think about you, you are not living the real you. Finding the courage to live your life is one that many of us lack.
These are some of the most popular questions we ask ourselves that we want the answers to, and the desire to have the answers to these questions is the first step in our personal development journey.
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Enhance your life with the innovative course The Choice Is Mine. The power in this work teaches you how to look at life circumstances so you can know the depth of your potential and act positively on that awareness... to live "your dream life" sooner rather than later. Take that first step go to: http://thechoiceismine.com & begin reprogramming your subconscious today so you can have what you say you want tomorrow.
1) How to stop the feelings of guilt and fear of the loss of those you love
This one is very common as most people are brought up do deal with situations through guilt or fear. However, because it is not our normal status quo way of being, over time, we begin to show the effects of carrying the guilt and fear through the deterioration of our health, wealth, or relationships.
2) How to silence the thoughts that carry you over self destruction
All of our thoughts were created and reinforced through our perceptions of experiences that we went through. Many of these thoughts are based on false perceptions, so therefor the thoughts will only reinforce these false perceptions and cause us to recreate the same types of experiences over and over again. False thoughts can only lead to destruction, which is why it is important to replace them with constructive thoughts based on the truth.
3) How do I find my passion and direction to live love no matter what
Many of us become so overwhelmed with false perceptions of ourselves, that over time, we begin to lose ourselves and what brings us joy in this world. Those of us that are lucky enough to realize that we are going through the motions and not living our lives through our love, have time to rekindle that passion and truly make a difference in our lives and those around us.
4) How do I overcome adversities and animosities without allowing them to devour me?
Live brings us challenges and experiences that we sometimes feel are not desirable. So how can we move through these experiences and see the silver lining in each situation so we can continue to move forward and not get stuck and mired in disappointments and doubts that can creep up.
5) How do I find and maintain lasting happiness?
To most of us, this is very important. many of us are not automatically happy in our lives. Most of us are pessimistic and see the wrong in things instead of the right. Seeing the wrong in things does not allow us to be happy and empower us into really creating the life we love.
6) How do I allow myself to live the real me?
If you have ever made a decision based on the approval of someone else in spite of what you wanted, you are not living the real you. If you have ever felt you had to hide a part of yourself because of what someone else may think about you, you are not living the real you. Finding the courage to live your life is one that many of us lack.
These are some of the most popular questions we ask ourselves that we want the answers to, and the desire to have the answers to these questions is the first step in our personal development journey.
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Enhance your life with the innovative course The Choice Is Mine. The power in this work teaches you how to look at life circumstances so you can know the depth of your potential and act positively on that awareness... to live "your dream life" sooner rather than later. Take that first step go to: http://thechoiceismine.com & begin reprogramming your subconscious today so you can have what you say you want tomorrow.
Tuesday, October 14, 2014
The Sixth Virtue: Comprimise
In any difficult negotiation where splitting partners believe intently about the passions at risk, occasional predicaments are inescapable. Two influential but seemingly opposing proposals can create an impasse-- a standstill. Knowing ways to conquer impasses is the practical negotiators most important talent. Consider the following example that has significance to all Americans.
The Constitutional Congress of 1787 was at an impasse that endangered the nascent of the United States: Should each state have a number of Congressional reps correlative to its population or should every state get the exact same amount of votes? Others claimed: How could the much larger states secure their bigger contributions of funds and useful resources if teach state had the very same amount of votes?
And there the problem lay, threatening to sink the launching of a new country.
Who prevented the impasse?
The idealistic and brilliant Jefferson? Nope.
The ethical and remarkably well read John Adams? No again.
It took a rationalist, someone with a reasonable turn of mind and the utmost regard for assorted points of view: Benjamin Franklin. Drawing upon his long experience with Philadelphia specialists, Franklin reminded the disputants that "when a broad table is to be made, and the edges of planks do not fit, the artist takes a little from both and makes a good joint. In like manner here, both sides must part with some of their demands." He then popped the question: Why not two bodies of representatives, one with comparable representation and one with equivalent representation?
The resulting dialogue, of course, assembled the Senate and the House of Representatives, institutionalising the innovative pressures between state and federal interests with no pushing either side to yield entirely to the other or to give up basic concepts. A remedy was found, not by revolutionaries recommending steadfast bureaucratic concepts but by a man with equally heavy-duty beliefs in humility, understanding, and regard for differing points of view.
Oftentimes, to reach acceptable answers:.
"The two sides must split with a few of their needs." Benjamin Franklin.
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The Constitutional Congress of 1787 was at an impasse that endangered the nascent of the United States: Should each state have a number of Congressional reps correlative to its population or should every state get the exact same amount of votes? Others claimed: How could the much larger states secure their bigger contributions of funds and useful resources if teach state had the very same amount of votes?
And there the problem lay, threatening to sink the launching of a new country.
Who prevented the impasse?
The idealistic and brilliant Jefferson? Nope.
The ethical and remarkably well read John Adams? No again.
It took a rationalist, someone with a reasonable turn of mind and the utmost regard for assorted points of view: Benjamin Franklin. Drawing upon his long experience with Philadelphia specialists, Franklin reminded the disputants that "when a broad table is to be made, and the edges of planks do not fit, the artist takes a little from both and makes a good joint. In like manner here, both sides must part with some of their demands." He then popped the question: Why not two bodies of representatives, one with comparable representation and one with equivalent representation?
The resulting dialogue, of course, assembled the Senate and the House of Representatives, institutionalising the innovative pressures between state and federal interests with no pushing either side to yield entirely to the other or to give up basic concepts. A remedy was found, not by revolutionaries recommending steadfast bureaucratic concepts but by a man with equally heavy-duty beliefs in humility, understanding, and regard for differing points of view.
Oftentimes, to reach acceptable answers:.
"The two sides must split with a few of their needs." Benjamin Franklin.
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This piece was written by Sarah Murchison. Sarah is a wealth of understanding. She loves to make distinct content that individuals can learn and grow from. A large fan of efficient interaction and agreement, Sarah Murchison knows the importance of companies, such as Negotiated Divorce, who strive to make people's lifespans simpler. http://www.negotiateddivorce.com
Sunday, September 28, 2014
How To Enjoy Home Spa Massage Therapy For Health And Wellness Benefits
Anyone who has had the pleasure of receiving a full body massage would agree that <a href="http://www.myspashop.com/passions/spa-menu.html?world=passions">massage therapy</a> is one of life's most delicious experiences. And since it is said that giving is better than receiving, here's a little guidance on how you can deliver the delights of a good rub. Even without the help of an anatomy book or class, giving a massage works every time. And the reason is simple, people love to be touched. "Feel good" factor aside, there are plenty of medical benefits to receiving a massage. Not only does it increase circulation, thereby allowing the body to pump more oxygen and nutrients into tissues and vital organs, it also stimulates the body's natural defenses and alleviates symptoms of depression and stress. If you follow these basic massage tips, you will realize the benefits of home spa wellness solutions.
If you have a massage table, great, else you can start with a firm mattress covered with a massage towel. This will work nicely along with lighting a few aromatherapy candlesand choose some calming spa music. Next have your partner remove his or her clothing, jewelry and contact lenses, then ask them to slip between the sheets or blankets.
Inexpensive <a href="http://www.myspashop.com/shopping.html?world=shopping">home spa products</a> can be leveraged to complete the massage treatments. Applying essential oils in massage therapy relieves stress and anxiety, increases lymph production, detoxifies, and soothes sore muscles. Start by pouring the massage oil into your palm to warm the oil, then proceed with massage.
There are many different types of massage techniques to choose from, which includes the following: kneading, deep friction, skin rolling, compression and more. Since kneading is the centerpiece of a full-body massage, we will cover this technique in more detail. The kneading technique requires you to uncover and gently grasp an area of the body that can include: shoulders, back, calves, thighs or fleshy area over the hip. Use both hands and knead the skin as though kneading dough. Keep your strokes smooth and rhythmic.
Keeping your partner warm during the massage is important as it keeps the muscles relaxed. Make sure the room stays warm and keep a few blankets nearby. An electric blanket or heating pad is a welcome touch. Following the massage, have your partner relax for about 20 minutes while keeping warm. Body fluids should be replenished by offering your partner some drinking water or a cup of herbal tea. Enjoy your new found bliss by giving and receiving massage treatments.
If you have a massage table, great, else you can start with a firm mattress covered with a massage towel. This will work nicely along with lighting a few aromatherapy candlesand choose some calming spa music. Next have your partner remove his or her clothing, jewelry and contact lenses, then ask them to slip between the sheets or blankets.
Inexpensive <a href="http://www.myspashop.com/shopping.html?world=shopping">home spa products</a> can be leveraged to complete the massage treatments. Applying essential oils in massage therapy relieves stress and anxiety, increases lymph production, detoxifies, and soothes sore muscles. Start by pouring the massage oil into your palm to warm the oil, then proceed with massage.
There are many different types of massage techniques to choose from, which includes the following: kneading, deep friction, skin rolling, compression and more. Since kneading is the centerpiece of a full-body massage, we will cover this technique in more detail. The kneading technique requires you to uncover and gently grasp an area of the body that can include: shoulders, back, calves, thighs or fleshy area over the hip. Use both hands and knead the skin as though kneading dough. Keep your strokes smooth and rhythmic.
Keeping your partner warm during the massage is important as it keeps the muscles relaxed. Make sure the room stays warm and keep a few blankets nearby. An electric blanket or heating pad is a welcome touch. Following the massage, have your partner relax for about 20 minutes while keeping warm. Body fluids should be replenished by offering your partner some drinking water or a cup of herbal tea. Enjoy your new found bliss by giving and receiving massage treatments.
Saturday, September 27, 2014
Dealing With Pornography Addiction
Pornography addiction is an increasing problem, one that is receiving growing attention in the media. It is an issue that is bringing more and more people to our therapy clinics here in the UK.
The Internet places pornography at the tip of our fingers. With the click of a mouse anyone can access all manner of porn.
What happens when looking at online pornography gets out of control? At what point does it become an addiction? How can someone struggling with a pornography addiction get the help they need?
Pornography addiction is not yet recognized by the American Psychological Association as a mental disorder (as many other addictions are), but this does not mean that the problem doesn't exist.
The criteria for identifying pornography addiction is very similar to other addictions. Does reading, watching, thinking about, and/or viewing pornography interfere with a person's work, personal life, relationships, social interactions or family life? If this question is answered in the affirmative, then the person may well have a pornography addiction.
What are some of the main things that make porn addiction a greater problem than in the past?
Accessibility
It's easier than ever before to view pornography. Before the advent of Internet porn, a person had to actually enter an adult video store, or buy an adult magazine in a shop. Now, with a quick Internet search, anyone can have practically instant access to almost unlimited, free porn in the privacy of their own home.
Early Exposure
A recent study reported that 42% of children have been exposed to pornography on the Internet before the age of 18. In times passed, access to porn was more difficult, but with the advent of the Internet, children have a far greater probability of being exposed to it from an early age.
Tolerance
Some experts believe that tolerance to pornography is built up in a similar manner to alcohol and other substances. The more porn the addict consumes, the more they require in order to get the same degree of satisfaction. The Internet offers an unlimited supply of content with around 420 million different pornography websites available.
How can someone struggling with a pornography addiction get the help they need?
As pornography addiction becomes more common and receives more attention, our understanding of it grows. As our understanding improves, so does our ability to successfully treat this issue.
The first step to recovery lies in ending the denial and recognizing that there is a problem and that the person is addicted. This accomplished, there are numerous effective ways to treat porn addiction.
There are a number of 12-Step programs, both on and offline that offer help with this addiction. Sex Addicts Anonymous and Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous are two of the most popular. A person can also seek individual therapy and counseling, and hypnotherapy can be of enormous help in managing this addiction. Working with a professional who has experience in this area, the addict can learn to control their addiction and return to a freer way of life.
If you are experiencing an addiction to pornography, or know someone who might be, any of these therapeutic options can be helpful in conquering it.
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Peter Field is a U.K. based counselor and a hypnotherapist with clinics in London and Birmingham. He is Fellow of the Royal Society of Health, Member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy, and Member of the National Guild of Hypnotists. For 1-2-1 sessions please visit http://www.peterfieldhypnotherapy.co.uk Peter's self hypnosis recordings are now available at: http://www.hypnosiscdmp3downloads.com
The Internet places pornography at the tip of our fingers. With the click of a mouse anyone can access all manner of porn.
What happens when looking at online pornography gets out of control? At what point does it become an addiction? How can someone struggling with a pornography addiction get the help they need?
Pornography addiction is not yet recognized by the American Psychological Association as a mental disorder (as many other addictions are), but this does not mean that the problem doesn't exist.
The criteria for identifying pornography addiction is very similar to other addictions. Does reading, watching, thinking about, and/or viewing pornography interfere with a person's work, personal life, relationships, social interactions or family life? If this question is answered in the affirmative, then the person may well have a pornography addiction.
What are some of the main things that make porn addiction a greater problem than in the past?
Accessibility
It's easier than ever before to view pornography. Before the advent of Internet porn, a person had to actually enter an adult video store, or buy an adult magazine in a shop. Now, with a quick Internet search, anyone can have practically instant access to almost unlimited, free porn in the privacy of their own home.
Early Exposure
A recent study reported that 42% of children have been exposed to pornography on the Internet before the age of 18. In times passed, access to porn was more difficult, but with the advent of the Internet, children have a far greater probability of being exposed to it from an early age.
Tolerance
Some experts believe that tolerance to pornography is built up in a similar manner to alcohol and other substances. The more porn the addict consumes, the more they require in order to get the same degree of satisfaction. The Internet offers an unlimited supply of content with around 420 million different pornography websites available.
How can someone struggling with a pornography addiction get the help they need?
As pornography addiction becomes more common and receives more attention, our understanding of it grows. As our understanding improves, so does our ability to successfully treat this issue.
The first step to recovery lies in ending the denial and recognizing that there is a problem and that the person is addicted. This accomplished, there are numerous effective ways to treat porn addiction.
There are a number of 12-Step programs, both on and offline that offer help with this addiction. Sex Addicts Anonymous and Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous are two of the most popular. A person can also seek individual therapy and counseling, and hypnotherapy can be of enormous help in managing this addiction. Working with a professional who has experience in this area, the addict can learn to control their addiction and return to a freer way of life.
If you are experiencing an addiction to pornography, or know someone who might be, any of these therapeutic options can be helpful in conquering it.
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Peter Field is a U.K. based counselor and a hypnotherapist with clinics in London and Birmingham. He is Fellow of the Royal Society of Health, Member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy, and Member of the National Guild of Hypnotists. For 1-2-1 sessions please visit http://www.peterfieldhypnotherapy.co.uk Peter's self hypnosis recordings are now available at: http://www.hypnosiscdmp3downloads.com
Monday, September 22, 2014
Reasons for Seeking Marriage Counselors
Many couples believe that marriage counseling should only come when relationships are about to fall apart. This is actually a mistaken notion. Counselors can be sources of strength and inspiration for spouses. Mentors cannot perform miracles or save marriages. However, these advisers can help problematic partners to resolve differences. When is the right time to ask the help of a marriage counselor?
It may be necessary to seek professional advice if communications between couples have floundered. This happens when husband and wife refuse to talk to each other. Negative interaction can result to depression, serious quarrels, abuse, and separation. Someone who has experience with such problems should come in. The counselor can guide partners to settle squabbles. The best time to get a third party for mediation is when quarrels begin to get out of control.
Coaches can also help if one of the partners starts acting out on pessimistic feelings. These are not healthy for relationships. Adverse emotions and thoughts like bitterness can lead to upsetting or even injurious behavior. For instance, if a wife is offended by the husband's wrongdoing may still cling on to a shaky relationship. Yet, this can bond be fruitless since the trust and sincerity deteriorates and eventually gets lost.
Counselors should also come in if there are quarrels regarding money matters and each one starts to become dishonest when it comes to financial issues. Upsetting situations can happen such as the death of a child, loss of employment, serious illness, or illicit affair of one of the spouses. Again, the counselor's advice is valuable.
Many couples look up to marriage counseling as beneficial especially for those going through problems in their relationships. The objective is to keep relationships from becoming unpleasant. It can even make the bond stronger for many years to come. Professional advice prior to any formal union identifies the spouses' strong points and weaknesses. It proposes to help you enhance awareness regarding benefits of the bond with your partner.
One major benefit of counseling is to manifest your commitment in contributing to the success of your marriage. This provides a medium for developing strategies and back-up plans so you can cope with any crisis and look forward to more satisfaction in the matrimony. You can work in enriching your lives as a couple. It recommends different ways to bring shared benefits to the relationship and prepare you to be a contented husband or wife.
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If you are looking for psychological services for your problems, visit VCPS to compassionate counselling and psychological services by clicking on the links below:
http://clinicalpsychologistsmelbourne.wordpress.com/2014/04/15/131/ http://relationshipcounsellingmelbourne.jigsy.com/entries/general/tips-to-remember-when-talking-to-your-teenage-child
It may be necessary to seek professional advice if communications between couples have floundered. This happens when husband and wife refuse to talk to each other. Negative interaction can result to depression, serious quarrels, abuse, and separation. Someone who has experience with such problems should come in. The counselor can guide partners to settle squabbles. The best time to get a third party for mediation is when quarrels begin to get out of control.
Coaches can also help if one of the partners starts acting out on pessimistic feelings. These are not healthy for relationships. Adverse emotions and thoughts like bitterness can lead to upsetting or even injurious behavior. For instance, if a wife is offended by the husband's wrongdoing may still cling on to a shaky relationship. Yet, this can bond be fruitless since the trust and sincerity deteriorates and eventually gets lost.
Counselors should also come in if there are quarrels regarding money matters and each one starts to become dishonest when it comes to financial issues. Upsetting situations can happen such as the death of a child, loss of employment, serious illness, or illicit affair of one of the spouses. Again, the counselor's advice is valuable.
Many couples look up to marriage counseling as beneficial especially for those going through problems in their relationships. The objective is to keep relationships from becoming unpleasant. It can even make the bond stronger for many years to come. Professional advice prior to any formal union identifies the spouses' strong points and weaknesses. It proposes to help you enhance awareness regarding benefits of the bond with your partner.
One major benefit of counseling is to manifest your commitment in contributing to the success of your marriage. This provides a medium for developing strategies and back-up plans so you can cope with any crisis and look forward to more satisfaction in the matrimony. You can work in enriching your lives as a couple. It recommends different ways to bring shared benefits to the relationship and prepare you to be a contented husband or wife.
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If you are looking for psychological services for your problems, visit VCPS to compassionate counselling and psychological services by clicking on the links below:
http://clinicalpsychologistsmelbourne.wordpress.com/2014/04/15/131/ http://relationshipcounsellingmelbourne.jigsy.com/entries/general/tips-to-remember-when-talking-to-your-teenage-child
Tuesday, September 16, 2014
Don't Let Criticism Stop You From Reaching Your Dreams
It's been said that if you're not receiving criticism, then you're not really trying very hard. Criticism will come in different forms and from various directions. There are two ways to handle criticism: you can let it distract you or you deal with it and move on. Let's take a look at how to deal with criticism in a positive way.
Take a deep breath and alter your perspective.
We know that's it's very easy to get defensive and to automatically feel like you're being attacked when faced with criticism. If you adjust your outlook when receiving this negative feedback, it will be easier to hear what the person is actually saying.
Step Two: Take time to evaluate and judge the criticism.
If you're in the middle of a project or job that requires your full attention, you will want to develop the ability to set the criticism and how you react to it aside until you're able to think clearly about it and without much feeling. When you are able to give the criticism space in your thoughts, make an effort to divide your emotional reaction from your logical one. Often times, <a href="http://1693373j-8rriqd-qqpgqc1wfd.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=SUBART">criticism</a> does have validity. Certainly no one is perfect and even if you're think you're close, I'm sure there's probably room for improvement.
Step Three: Be aware of your thoughts.
For the most part, we are great as emotional beings at letting our thoughts takeover. After you receive criticism, it's very easy to become affected by negative emotions. We may feel angry with the person criticizing us and disappointed that our efforts weren't received better. Our self-esteem can take a hit and we may even feel as if our goals and dreams are never going to be reached.
Being the emotional beings we are, we also have control over our thoughts. The main thing is to become conscious of them first, acknowledge the thoughts you're having and change them. You can decide to put your attention on the positive. Decide that yes your dreams and goals are worth achieving and when you receive that criticism, don't let it devastate your day. I wouldn't even let it ruin the moment.
Lastly, take that criticism and place it where it belongs.
If there is some truth to it, find out what it is that needs improving. If there is some doubt about the validity of the criticism, then by all means, get a second or third opinion. Do this only if the criticism is important. If it is way off base, toss it in the garbage along with the rest of the trash and move on.
When you <a href="http://5ce7bfretmnx9-10hbigxybz1y.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=SUBART">receive criticism</a>, it means you're taking some sort of action. You're doing something bold, beneficial, and challenging. Good for you, that's always a good thing!
Take a deep breath and alter your perspective.
We know that's it's very easy to get defensive and to automatically feel like you're being attacked when faced with criticism. If you adjust your outlook when receiving this negative feedback, it will be easier to hear what the person is actually saying.
Step Two: Take time to evaluate and judge the criticism.
If you're in the middle of a project or job that requires your full attention, you will want to develop the ability to set the criticism and how you react to it aside until you're able to think clearly about it and without much feeling. When you are able to give the criticism space in your thoughts, make an effort to divide your emotional reaction from your logical one. Often times, <a href="http://1693373j-8rriqd-qqpgqc1wfd.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=SUBART">criticism</a> does have validity. Certainly no one is perfect and even if you're think you're close, I'm sure there's probably room for improvement.
Step Three: Be aware of your thoughts.
For the most part, we are great as emotional beings at letting our thoughts takeover. After you receive criticism, it's very easy to become affected by negative emotions. We may feel angry with the person criticizing us and disappointed that our efforts weren't received better. Our self-esteem can take a hit and we may even feel as if our goals and dreams are never going to be reached.
Being the emotional beings we are, we also have control over our thoughts. The main thing is to become conscious of them first, acknowledge the thoughts you're having and change them. You can decide to put your attention on the positive. Decide that yes your dreams and goals are worth achieving and when you receive that criticism, don't let it devastate your day. I wouldn't even let it ruin the moment.
Lastly, take that criticism and place it where it belongs.
If there is some truth to it, find out what it is that needs improving. If there is some doubt about the validity of the criticism, then by all means, get a second or third opinion. Do this only if the criticism is important. If it is way off base, toss it in the garbage along with the rest of the trash and move on.
When you <a href="http://5ce7bfretmnx9-10hbigxybz1y.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=SUBART">receive criticism</a>, it means you're taking some sort of action. You're doing something bold, beneficial, and challenging. Good for you, that's always a good thing!
Monday, September 15, 2014
Ladybug's Sign
Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
The other day my Subliminal Manifestation partner Mark Ryan and my Inspired Marketing coauthor Craig Perrine got to experience the exhilaration of a ride in Steven Tyler (Aerosmith)'s rare 1998 Panoz AIV Roadster, which I now own and call Ladybug.
They also got to drive the car.
They were like little kids experiencing their first roller coaster thrill ride.
But the really interesting experience took place after we were done driving and drooling and stood around the car, admiring her.
Craig noticed that a ladybug landed on the car.
When I first received the car a few months ago, and wondered what to name it, a ladybug landed on it.
I rarely see ladybugs here in Texas. I'm sure they're here; I just don't look for them. Seeing one land on Steven Tyler's car seemed telling. So I named the Roadster "Ladybug" right then and there.
Craig and Mark took turns trying to take a clear picture of the bug on my Ladybug. (That's Craig above.) They both knew it would be great blog material. :)
Synchronicities like these are how I learn I'm on the right path. They are green flags.
Whenever I have a decision to make, I look for signs that I'm making the right one. "Right" meaning appropriate for me, not necessarily for you or anyone else.
I've written about signs and green/red flags before, of course. In The Attractor Factor I told the story of seeing a street sign that helped me decide what to do when I worked at a job I disliked.
The road sign was "Quitman."
My mind read it as a command: "Quit man" as in "Quit the job, man!"
Here's an example from today:
I heard comedian Steve Martin just published a new book, his autobiography, titled Born Standing Up. I like Martin and was curious about the book, but I didn't run out and buy it.
But then I saw a review of it in a magic magazine.
And then another review in another magazine.
And then someone sent me an Amazon gift certificate.
I bought the book, and something curious happened.
Amazon sent it to me overnight - and they sent two copies.
I guess I'm supposed to read it twice.
Turns out the book is riveting. It shows how much hard work goes into creating an "overnight" success.
But that's not the point of this blog post.
The point is to watch for the "ladybugs" in your life.
Try this: When you are considering getting a gift for someone for the holiday next week, see if there are signs that resonate with you suggesting what to get or affirming a choice you already made.
This is a fun way to enjoy each moment, as the signs remind you that you are one with all there is.
Enjoy.
PS - If you celebrate Christmas, please have a merry one. And if you don't, please have a merry one anyway.
Note: I have no idea what kind of ladybug landed on my car. Coccinellids are found worldwide, with over 5,000 species and more than 450 native to North America alone. Who knows what kind Texas has. So don't ask. :)
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Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
The other day my Subliminal Manifestation partner Mark Ryan and my Inspired Marketing coauthor Craig Perrine got to experience the exhilaration of a ride in Steven Tyler (Aerosmith)'s rare 1998 Panoz AIV Roadster, which I now own and call Ladybug.
They also got to drive the car.
They were like little kids experiencing their first roller coaster thrill ride.
But the really interesting experience took place after we were done driving and drooling and stood around the car, admiring her.
Craig noticed that a ladybug landed on the car.
When I first received the car a few months ago, and wondered what to name it, a ladybug landed on it.
I rarely see ladybugs here in Texas. I'm sure they're here; I just don't look for them. Seeing one land on Steven Tyler's car seemed telling. So I named the Roadster "Ladybug" right then and there.
Craig and Mark took turns trying to take a clear picture of the bug on my Ladybug. (That's Craig above.) They both knew it would be great blog material. :)
Synchronicities like these are how I learn I'm on the right path. They are green flags.
Whenever I have a decision to make, I look for signs that I'm making the right one. "Right" meaning appropriate for me, not necessarily for you or anyone else.
I've written about signs and green/red flags before, of course. In The Attractor Factor I told the story of seeing a street sign that helped me decide what to do when I worked at a job I disliked.
The road sign was "Quitman."
My mind read it as a command: "Quit man" as in "Quit the job, man!"
Here's an example from today:
I heard comedian Steve Martin just published a new book, his autobiography, titled Born Standing Up. I like Martin and was curious about the book, but I didn't run out and buy it.
But then I saw a review of it in a magic magazine.
And then another review in another magazine.
And then someone sent me an Amazon gift certificate.
I bought the book, and something curious happened.
Amazon sent it to me overnight - and they sent two copies.
I guess I'm supposed to read it twice.
Turns out the book is riveting. It shows how much hard work goes into creating an "overnight" success.
But that's not the point of this blog post.
The point is to watch for the "ladybugs" in your life.
Try this: When you are considering getting a gift for someone for the holiday next week, see if there are signs that resonate with you suggesting what to get or affirming a choice you already made.
This is a fun way to enjoy each moment, as the signs remind you that you are one with all there is.
Enjoy.
PS - If you celebrate Christmas, please have a merry one. And if you don't, please have a merry one anyway.
Note: I have no idea what kind of ladybug landed on my car. Coccinellids are found worldwide, with over 5,000 species and more than 450 native to North America alone. Who knows what kind Texas has. So don't ask. :)
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Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Thursday, September 4, 2014
Don't Let Your Mind Run Over
There is an old tale about a Zen student who went to see his master in order to seek further knowledge. Eager to impress his teacher, he arrived at the man's doorstep with a skip in his step. Upon seeing his student, the Master gave a wide smile and eagerly invited his protégé in.
As they sat in the room talking to one another, the Zen Master asked his student to go fetch him two cups and a pot of tea. The student returned, placing the items on the table.
The Master listened as his apprentice boasted about all he had learned. While the student talked, the older man began carefully pouring his young apprentice a cup of tea. The cup, filled to the brim, yet the master kept pouring, even as the tea began gushing over the top and spilling down on the table.
"Stop!? the apprentice shouted. Do you not see that the cup is completely full? It won't hold any more tea." At this the wise Teacher smiled and answered, "It is like this with you. Your mind is also full of too many things. Only if you empty it will there be room for new knowledge to come in."
The point of this story is not to suggest that knowledge itself is a problem. It's meant to warn us about how easy it is for our current beliefs and assumptions to crowd out further knowledge, thereby limiting our capacity to see things in a more well-rounded way. When a person's head is full of its own accumulated wisdom, it tends to become possessive and protective of what it assumes to be true, which prevents new information from coming in. An arrogant mind that is packed too full of learned assumptions is like a teacup that has been filled to the top with cement.
When your mind is full of it's own ideas . . .
A mind that is too full of what it already assumes to know does more than just leave its owner woefully lacking in wisdom. It can create a lot of problems in our lives. For example . . .
A) Flexibility in thinking consistently shows up as a major factor in resilience, perhaps even the most important factor when it comes to overcoming difficult events in life. The ability to adopt new perspectives allows us to weather the storm like a young tree that can bend and sway in the wind, whereas a closed mind is like a rigid branch that won't bend, and instead snaps under pressure.
B) A lot of the stress and mental anguish we endure in life is born into existence through our rigid assumptions which lead us to interpret things in a narrow self-defeating way.
Certain experiences are inherently painful. None of us like to feel helpless or suffer a lack of control, and we all get upset over violence, conflict, ridicule, and other negative actions directed toward us. Yet most of the lingering pain we endure come about because our mind is too full of negative assumptions about WHAT CERTAIN EXPERIENCES SHOULD MEAN. Clearing our mind of this extra baggage will give us a more flexible cup that is better equipped to tolerate the stresses of life.
C) Maintaining a flexible mind that makes room for other perspectives will also help your social life. This is because most conflicts arise from stubborn thinking. We're too busy clinging to our repertoire of current knowledge about 'how things should be' that we're unwilling to open our mind to new ways of looking at things.
So the more rigid a person's thoughts, the more conflict they'll experience with the world at large. Not only will they get into more arguments with other people, but they'll also be subject to more inner turmoil, because the outside world will never conform to the inflexible ideology that exists inside their head.
How flexible is your cup?
Realizing that the knowledge we possess WILL ALWAYS BE INCOMPLETE is the psychological equivalent of advancing to a larger cup. To that end, please remember this story and take its lesson with you as you go about your own life. It's a lovely thing to possess a mind that is continually churning . . . turning over the old to make a place for the new.
It might be prudent to remind yourself that it's often the beliefs we've held the longest that will grow stale and are in the most need of being replaced. It is often those occasions when we're sure of ourselves that we are in the utmost need of a fresh cup of tea.
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Be sure to visit our website www.keepyourchildsafe.org/ for a variety of resources including safety coloring pictures to help keep your family safe, including understanding our moods and emotionsat http://www.keepyourchildsafe.org/psychology/moods-and-emotions.html and how they affect our thinking. You can also follow us on Twitter @GCFparents.
As they sat in the room talking to one another, the Zen Master asked his student to go fetch him two cups and a pot of tea. The student returned, placing the items on the table.
The Master listened as his apprentice boasted about all he had learned. While the student talked, the older man began carefully pouring his young apprentice a cup of tea. The cup, filled to the brim, yet the master kept pouring, even as the tea began gushing over the top and spilling down on the table.
"Stop!? the apprentice shouted. Do you not see that the cup is completely full? It won't hold any more tea." At this the wise Teacher smiled and answered, "It is like this with you. Your mind is also full of too many things. Only if you empty it will there be room for new knowledge to come in."
The point of this story is not to suggest that knowledge itself is a problem. It's meant to warn us about how easy it is for our current beliefs and assumptions to crowd out further knowledge, thereby limiting our capacity to see things in a more well-rounded way. When a person's head is full of its own accumulated wisdom, it tends to become possessive and protective of what it assumes to be true, which prevents new information from coming in. An arrogant mind that is packed too full of learned assumptions is like a teacup that has been filled to the top with cement.
When your mind is full of it's own ideas . . .
A mind that is too full of what it already assumes to know does more than just leave its owner woefully lacking in wisdom. It can create a lot of problems in our lives. For example . . .
A) Flexibility in thinking consistently shows up as a major factor in resilience, perhaps even the most important factor when it comes to overcoming difficult events in life. The ability to adopt new perspectives allows us to weather the storm like a young tree that can bend and sway in the wind, whereas a closed mind is like a rigid branch that won't bend, and instead snaps under pressure.
B) A lot of the stress and mental anguish we endure in life is born into existence through our rigid assumptions which lead us to interpret things in a narrow self-defeating way.
Certain experiences are inherently painful. None of us like to feel helpless or suffer a lack of control, and we all get upset over violence, conflict, ridicule, and other negative actions directed toward us. Yet most of the lingering pain we endure come about because our mind is too full of negative assumptions about WHAT CERTAIN EXPERIENCES SHOULD MEAN. Clearing our mind of this extra baggage will give us a more flexible cup that is better equipped to tolerate the stresses of life.
C) Maintaining a flexible mind that makes room for other perspectives will also help your social life. This is because most conflicts arise from stubborn thinking. We're too busy clinging to our repertoire of current knowledge about 'how things should be' that we're unwilling to open our mind to new ways of looking at things.
So the more rigid a person's thoughts, the more conflict they'll experience with the world at large. Not only will they get into more arguments with other people, but they'll also be subject to more inner turmoil, because the outside world will never conform to the inflexible ideology that exists inside their head.
How flexible is your cup?
Realizing that the knowledge we possess WILL ALWAYS BE INCOMPLETE is the psychological equivalent of advancing to a larger cup. To that end, please remember this story and take its lesson with you as you go about your own life. It's a lovely thing to possess a mind that is continually churning . . . turning over the old to make a place for the new.
It might be prudent to remind yourself that it's often the beliefs we've held the longest that will grow stale and are in the most need of being replaced. It is often those occasions when we're sure of ourselves that we are in the utmost need of a fresh cup of tea.
----------------------------------------------------
Be sure to visit our website www.keepyourchildsafe.org/ for a variety of resources including safety coloring pictures to help keep your family safe, including understanding our moods and emotionsat http://www.keepyourchildsafe.org/psychology/moods-and-emotions.html and how they affect our thinking. You can also follow us on Twitter @GCFparents.
Tuesday, September 2, 2014
Why I Gave Up Intentions
Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
I spent last Saturday with a small group of wonderful people from all over the world who just completed my year long Miracles Coaching Certification Program.
The day was upbeat and buzzing with energy.
But at lunch one person asked me a question that may be on your mind, too.
"In the movie The Secret and in your book The Attractor Factor you said you believe in intentions, but in your book Zero Limits you say you no longer believe in them. What do you do now?"
I can see where that could confuse people.
In my new Nightingale-Conant audio program, The Missing Secret, I explain my approach to life in a way that clears the air. I'll try to recap it here:
Today I realize that most intentions are limitations.
Intentions come from your ego and can actually limit what is possible for you to receive.
Intentions are wonderful when you are first awakening to your own power. It's thrilling to set goals and achieve them. But there's an easier, better, more magical and even miraculous way to go through life.
I explain this in Zero Limits, where I say there are three stages of awakening.
STAGE ONE:
In the first stage you are a victim. We're all born into it and most of us stay there. With coaching or the right books or the right movies, you one day break free.
STAGE TWO:
In the next stage you realize you have more power than you ever thought before. In this stage intentions are fun and exciting and useful. You aim your life where you want it to go. It's exhilarating to manifest things like new cars or a new house or anything else you can imagine.
But there's a stage after that.
STAGE THREE:
In the third stage you realize you have choice but you don't have control. You realize you don't have all power. This is where you surrender. This is where you can receive inspiration from something greater than your ego awareness.
I was filmed for two more movies last week. One of them is all about letting go to inspiration.
For me, I want inspiration.
When it comes, that becomes my new intention.
But the intention comes from inspiration, not from limitation.
The intention comes from the Divine, not my pipsqueak ego.
In short, when I receive an inspiration to do something, it becomes my intention.
So I still believe in intentions, but not those of the ego, but those of the Divine.
Intentions are for wimps.
When I set an intention to do something like, say, write a book, I use my conscious will and my energy and get it done.
But when I allow an inspiration to become my new intention, and combine my energy with it, than I often create something astonishingly unexpected like, say, my own television show.
Inspiration might also direct me to write another book, of course, but the point is, inspiration will often surprise me with something bigger and bolder than I ever imagined before.
As P.T. Barnum said, "Not my will, but thine, be done."
When you follow inspiration, you get to say (like the Blues Brothers), "I'm on a mission from God."
How do you know an intention from an inspiration?
Usually by how it feels.
When I was on Donny Deutsch's CNBC television show The Big Idea last November*, I told him and his audience that the directive to do anything needs to come from your heart, or your gut, not your mind.
When you follow that, you follow your divine path.
It's different for each person, of course. You may be inspired to enroll in Miracles Coaching or Executive Mentoring to better understand my marketing and metaphysical methods; somebody else may not.
I still use coaches today, and think everyone needs to. We all have beliefs and limitations to release.
For example, inspiration nudged me into creating my own TV show, called Expect Miracles.
But my ego was resisting it.
It was stretching my self-image limits.
For that reason, I needed Miracles Coaching to help me get and stay clear. As long as I stay clear, miracles happen.
I'm now clear and ready for this TV show to be a mega-success.
And now the investors, actors, directors, editors and writers are coming to me.
Why? How?
Because I cleared the blocks within me, with the help of my coaches, to allow it all to happen.
Another thing I've learned and have said repeatedly is that "The Universe likes speed."
When you are inspired, act and act fast.
If you are inspired and don't act, it's a sign you have some clearing to do.
What do you feel inspired to do?
Do it.
NOW.
* You can see my fiery five-minute appearance on Donny Deutsch's TV show at http://one.revver.com/watch/491047 or www.youtube.com/watch?v=YTYWyVm6NiI
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Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
I spent last Saturday with a small group of wonderful people from all over the world who just completed my year long Miracles Coaching Certification Program.
The day was upbeat and buzzing with energy.
But at lunch one person asked me a question that may be on your mind, too.
"In the movie The Secret and in your book The Attractor Factor you said you believe in intentions, but in your book Zero Limits you say you no longer believe in them. What do you do now?"
I can see where that could confuse people.
In my new Nightingale-Conant audio program, The Missing Secret, I explain my approach to life in a way that clears the air. I'll try to recap it here:
Today I realize that most intentions are limitations.
Intentions come from your ego and can actually limit what is possible for you to receive.
Intentions are wonderful when you are first awakening to your own power. It's thrilling to set goals and achieve them. But there's an easier, better, more magical and even miraculous way to go through life.
I explain this in Zero Limits, where I say there are three stages of awakening.
STAGE ONE:
In the first stage you are a victim. We're all born into it and most of us stay there. With coaching or the right books or the right movies, you one day break free.
STAGE TWO:
In the next stage you realize you have more power than you ever thought before. In this stage intentions are fun and exciting and useful. You aim your life where you want it to go. It's exhilarating to manifest things like new cars or a new house or anything else you can imagine.
But there's a stage after that.
STAGE THREE:
In the third stage you realize you have choice but you don't have control. You realize you don't have all power. This is where you surrender. This is where you can receive inspiration from something greater than your ego awareness.
I was filmed for two more movies last week. One of them is all about letting go to inspiration.
For me, I want inspiration.
When it comes, that becomes my new intention.
But the intention comes from inspiration, not from limitation.
The intention comes from the Divine, not my pipsqueak ego.
In short, when I receive an inspiration to do something, it becomes my intention.
So I still believe in intentions, but not those of the ego, but those of the Divine.
Intentions are for wimps.
When I set an intention to do something like, say, write a book, I use my conscious will and my energy and get it done.
But when I allow an inspiration to become my new intention, and combine my energy with it, than I often create something astonishingly unexpected like, say, my own television show.
Inspiration might also direct me to write another book, of course, but the point is, inspiration will often surprise me with something bigger and bolder than I ever imagined before.
As P.T. Barnum said, "Not my will, but thine, be done."
When you follow inspiration, you get to say (like the Blues Brothers), "I'm on a mission from God."
How do you know an intention from an inspiration?
Usually by how it feels.
When I was on Donny Deutsch's CNBC television show The Big Idea last November*, I told him and his audience that the directive to do anything needs to come from your heart, or your gut, not your mind.
When you follow that, you follow your divine path.
It's different for each person, of course. You may be inspired to enroll in Miracles Coaching or Executive Mentoring to better understand my marketing and metaphysical methods; somebody else may not.
I still use coaches today, and think everyone needs to. We all have beliefs and limitations to release.
For example, inspiration nudged me into creating my own TV show, called Expect Miracles.
But my ego was resisting it.
It was stretching my self-image limits.
For that reason, I needed Miracles Coaching to help me get and stay clear. As long as I stay clear, miracles happen.
I'm now clear and ready for this TV show to be a mega-success.
And now the investors, actors, directors, editors and writers are coming to me.
Why? How?
Because I cleared the blocks within me, with the help of my coaches, to allow it all to happen.
Another thing I've learned and have said repeatedly is that "The Universe likes speed."
When you are inspired, act and act fast.
If you are inspired and don't act, it's a sign you have some clearing to do.
What do you feel inspired to do?
Do it.
NOW.
* You can see my fiery five-minute appearance on Donny Deutsch's TV show at http://one.revver.com/watch/491047 or www.youtube.com/watch?v=YTYWyVm6NiI
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Saturday, August 30, 2014
Recommended Amounts Of Sleep For All Age Demographics And Life Phases
Regardless of your age, sleep is a crucial feature of life. Sleep produces well-being and beneficial health for your body. It's intriguing that how you sleep in the evening establishes how rested you are in the morning. If you're getting eight hours of restless sleep then you're likely to wake up feeling cranky. Really, the number of hours of sleep required changes according to our age, wellness, and life-style. The amount of sleep we require to really feel the most rested we can? Here's a short list of age groups and how sleep impacts each of them.
Infants
Sleep directly effects an infant's physical and mental changes. That's why they require 12 to 18 hours of sleep. Most of the time infants can sleep 9-12 hours in the evening and nap around 2-5 hours throughout the day. Infants will show tiredness in a multitude of varied ways, including fussing, crying, or rubbing their eyes.
Toddlers
It's natural for toddlers to have trouble going to sleep, or continuing to be asleep throughout the evening. They are pretty excited about numerous things, especially the independence that has come with a heightened personal and psychological capability. In spite of this, toddlers are in need of 12 to 14 hours of sleep. Like lots of people, if toddlers do not get ample sleep they can become grouchy and unsettled.
Children
Children under the age of 5 demand 11 to 13 hours, while all children older than five need about 10 to 11 hours of sleep a night time. Since children's creativities are at their peak, problems like sleepwalking and nightmares often tend to be prominent. Hassles, like schoolwork and peers, begin to impact their sleep habits as well. It's necessary to have a good amount of rest time in before the child turns in for the night. This ensures higher sleep quality and much better well being.
Teenagers
Upon teenage years, the body develops a 'sleep phase delay'. This means that their biological rhythm triggers them to sleep later in the nighttime and get up later in the morning. This body clock does totally reset itself, but it can have side effects on a teenager's daily life. Teens are starting to sense the first rushes of real strain from school and life. Also, many schools start early in the morning and could be part of the why teens lose out on rest.Many schools start classes early and could be part of the reason why teens miss out on sleep. It's important for teens to obtain 9 to 10 hours of sleep.
Adults
Adults need to have 7 to 9 hours of sleep. Many adults have failed to remember what a good night's sleep feels like and try to relieve their listlessness with large amounts of coffee. However, particular life events and overall health issues will start playing a large role in the amount of hours you should feel excellent.A number of life events and health concerns will start playing a large job in the amount of hours of sleep you need to feel very good. Here is a brief list of some of the ways adult's life-styles can alter and affect the way they sleep.
- Starting a career or family
-Job promotions or new members to the family
- Retired life
All of these lifestyle adjustments may substantially influence how long you sleep, and the quality too. All of these life changes may dramatically affect how long you sleep, and the quality.
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Jim Cooke is a sleep professional with over a decade of experience. He recognizes and understands the significance sleep plays in our life. He is an enthusiast of natural mattresses and understands their value within this modern life. http://www.austinnaturalmattress.com/
Infants
Sleep directly effects an infant's physical and mental changes. That's why they require 12 to 18 hours of sleep. Most of the time infants can sleep 9-12 hours in the evening and nap around 2-5 hours throughout the day. Infants will show tiredness in a multitude of varied ways, including fussing, crying, or rubbing their eyes.
Toddlers
It's natural for toddlers to have trouble going to sleep, or continuing to be asleep throughout the evening. They are pretty excited about numerous things, especially the independence that has come with a heightened personal and psychological capability. In spite of this, toddlers are in need of 12 to 14 hours of sleep. Like lots of people, if toddlers do not get ample sleep they can become grouchy and unsettled.
Children
Children under the age of 5 demand 11 to 13 hours, while all children older than five need about 10 to 11 hours of sleep a night time. Since children's creativities are at their peak, problems like sleepwalking and nightmares often tend to be prominent. Hassles, like schoolwork and peers, begin to impact their sleep habits as well. It's necessary to have a good amount of rest time in before the child turns in for the night. This ensures higher sleep quality and much better well being.
Teenagers
Upon teenage years, the body develops a 'sleep phase delay'. This means that their biological rhythm triggers them to sleep later in the nighttime and get up later in the morning. This body clock does totally reset itself, but it can have side effects on a teenager's daily life. Teens are starting to sense the first rushes of real strain from school and life. Also, many schools start early in the morning and could be part of the why teens lose out on rest.Many schools start classes early and could be part of the reason why teens miss out on sleep. It's important for teens to obtain 9 to 10 hours of sleep.
Adults
Adults need to have 7 to 9 hours of sleep. Many adults have failed to remember what a good night's sleep feels like and try to relieve their listlessness with large amounts of coffee. However, particular life events and overall health issues will start playing a large role in the amount of hours you should feel excellent.A number of life events and health concerns will start playing a large job in the amount of hours of sleep you need to feel very good. Here is a brief list of some of the ways adult's life-styles can alter and affect the way they sleep.
- Starting a career or family
-Job promotions or new members to the family
- Retired life
All of these lifestyle adjustments may substantially influence how long you sleep, and the quality too. All of these life changes may dramatically affect how long you sleep, and the quality.
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Jim Cooke is a sleep professional with over a decade of experience. He recognizes and understands the significance sleep plays in our life. He is an enthusiast of natural mattresses and understands their value within this modern life. http://www.austinnaturalmattress.com/
Tuesday, August 26, 2014
Finding Good People
Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
Five years ago I co-signed for my (then) web guy to get a car. I had never co-signed for anyone and I'll probably never do it again. But the experience was useful for me, and in a moment it will be useful for you, too.
Over the years he would miss car payments and I'd get a call from his bank. Then I'd have to find him, bail him out, and hope the situation improved.
It didn't.
A few months ago his bank called again. This time they said they couldn't find my web guy (who was by now no longer working for me) at all and that he was several months past due.
The bank was demanding complete payment of the loan.
And right now.
I began to search for the guy who skipped out on the car loan. I called every number I had for him. Wrote every email address. Searched online. Had my chief assistant spend time shaking trees to see if he would fall out of one of them.
Nothing.
One of my closest advisers said, "He's gone. You'll never find him. And if you did find him, you'd never get a dime out of him. Pay off the loan to close the case and protect your credit."
I paid off the loan.
I wasn't upset. I wasn't concerned. I just let it go and kept cleaning on any negative thought that might come up.
And then a curious thing happened.
My old web guy contacted me on Facebook, asking to be my friend. (!)
I instantly let him in.
I also wrote him and asked for his phone number.
He knew why I wanted it.
He wrote back, gave me his number, said he was sorry, and that he would do anything for me to resolve the issue.
He also said he didn't have any money.
I had already made peace with the situation so didn't really have an attachment to any outcome. I figured if I could get him to create a website or two for me, I'd let it all go and chalk it up to experience.
He agreed, and created a wonderful site and even a wonderful sales letter for it.
But he also did something else that stunned everyone around me, but just made me smile.
He sent me a cashier's check for the full amount he owed me (about six thousand dollars). (!)
He also said he would continue to do work for me, gratis, to show his good faith.
No one around me could believe it.
I found the guy who skipped town.
He did work for me.
And he paid me off.
How did this happen?
Here's my take on it:
First, I wasn't attached to him paying me back. I would welcome my money back, but I didn't need it. Too many people want something to happen in their lives but are desperate about it. That desperation creates/attracts more to be desperate about. I was cool whether the guy paid me or not. My energy was neutral.
Second, I saw the good in the guy. I know that people at their core are basically good. They want to do good. Sometimes when they are backed into a corner, they do things they regret. But I knew the guy and felt he was a good soul. He would do good in whatever way he could.
These two steps don't guarantee that you'll get your money back from someone who borrowed or stole from you, but they do guarantee you will be at peace with the moment.
It's from that place of inner peace that you can attract what you desire -- even if it's from someone who skipped town, couldn't be found, and was flat broke.
PS -- I'm sure any skeptic or critic could smugly say the above story was just a fluke, that I was just lucky. Maybe so. But I have several stories where people turned around and did good while everyone around them gave up on them. The lesson here is where do you want to put your focus: on what doesn't work or on what does? The Law of Attraction (as well as the fundamentals of psychology) states you get more of whatever you focus on with energy and intent. Where's your focus?
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Five years ago I co-signed for my (then) web guy to get a car. I had never co-signed for anyone and I'll probably never do it again. But the experience was useful for me, and in a moment it will be useful for you, too.
Over the years he would miss car payments and I'd get a call from his bank. Then I'd have to find him, bail him out, and hope the situation improved.
It didn't.
A few months ago his bank called again. This time they said they couldn't find my web guy (who was by now no longer working for me) at all and that he was several months past due.
The bank was demanding complete payment of the loan.
And right now.
I began to search for the guy who skipped out on the car loan. I called every number I had for him. Wrote every email address. Searched online. Had my chief assistant spend time shaking trees to see if he would fall out of one of them.
Nothing.
One of my closest advisers said, "He's gone. You'll never find him. And if you did find him, you'd never get a dime out of him. Pay off the loan to close the case and protect your credit."
I paid off the loan.
I wasn't upset. I wasn't concerned. I just let it go and kept cleaning on any negative thought that might come up.
And then a curious thing happened.
My old web guy contacted me on Facebook, asking to be my friend. (!)
I instantly let him in.
I also wrote him and asked for his phone number.
He knew why I wanted it.
He wrote back, gave me his number, said he was sorry, and that he would do anything for me to resolve the issue.
He also said he didn't have any money.
I had already made peace with the situation so didn't really have an attachment to any outcome. I figured if I could get him to create a website or two for me, I'd let it all go and chalk it up to experience.
He agreed, and created a wonderful site and even a wonderful sales letter for it.
But he also did something else that stunned everyone around me, but just made me smile.
He sent me a cashier's check for the full amount he owed me (about six thousand dollars). (!)
He also said he would continue to do work for me, gratis, to show his good faith.
No one around me could believe it.
I found the guy who skipped town.
He did work for me.
And he paid me off.
How did this happen?
Here's my take on it:
First, I wasn't attached to him paying me back. I would welcome my money back, but I didn't need it. Too many people want something to happen in their lives but are desperate about it. That desperation creates/attracts more to be desperate about. I was cool whether the guy paid me or not. My energy was neutral.
Second, I saw the good in the guy. I know that people at their core are basically good. They want to do good. Sometimes when they are backed into a corner, they do things they regret. But I knew the guy and felt he was a good soul. He would do good in whatever way he could.
These two steps don't guarantee that you'll get your money back from someone who borrowed or stole from you, but they do guarantee you will be at peace with the moment.
It's from that place of inner peace that you can attract what you desire -- even if it's from someone who skipped town, couldn't be found, and was flat broke.
PS -- I'm sure any skeptic or critic could smugly say the above story was just a fluke, that I was just lucky. Maybe so. But I have several stories where people turned around and did good while everyone around them gave up on them. The lesson here is where do you want to put your focus: on what doesn't work or on what does? The Law of Attraction (as well as the fundamentals of psychology) states you get more of whatever you focus on with energy and intent. Where's your focus?
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Monday, August 25, 2014
Why Encourage People?
Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
When I drove Mandy Evans back to the airport, she asked me an interesting question:
"Have you always encouraged people?"
She had spent four days with me and observed me encouraging complete strangers to go for their dreams.
There was an author at a booth and I bought his book and advised him on how to market it.
There was a waitress struggling to get to all her tables and I tipped her more than the bill to encourage her to have a great day.
There was the newbie restaurant owners that I encouraged by designing and distributing an insert ad to tell the locals about their great food.
There was of course Diane Watson, who is now The Property Hugger.
So Mandy wanted to know if I was always encouraging of others.
"No," I instantly replied. "When I was younger I was angry at the world and didn't encourage anybody. I was into survival and focused on trying to write, get published, and just generally survive."
I knew what question was coming next, and I knew I didn't have a quick answer for it.
"Then when did you start encouraging people?"
I thought for a long time. I honestly couldn't come up with an answer by the time I dropped off Mandy at the terminal.
But I've been chewing on it ever since.
I told Nerissa about the question. As I free associated an answer, she said she heard the word "love" used a lot.
"Love is part of why I do it," I said. "I love seeing a person come alive with the passion they secretly want to express. But I also know that when you love a person with total acceptance, they feel free to become whatever they desire."
But I still couldn't pin-point the time when I began to do this encouraging on a regular basis.
Pat O'Bryan and I had dinner one night and I told him the above story. He then began to probe, trying to get me to narrow down the year and possibly the event that caused me to become encouraging of others.
"I remember reading books that awakened me to the idea that if we focus on the good, we'll get more good," I explained.
Marva Collins is a school teacher in Chicago who taught me, through the stories and books by and about her, that when you focus on the positive in a person, and nurtured and encouraged them, they would blossom.
Marva took inner city kids that were considered retarded, special, and/or illiterate and transformed them within months into kids who read Shakespeare and tested at grade levels five times higher than kids of the same age.
Decades ago I was teaching adult education classes in Houston for a company called Leisure Learning. I would try the Marva Collins approach in my classes. I marveled to see people get excited, take action, and go on to write and publish their own books. They needed encouraged, not just informed.
Pat listened intently as I went on to explain that I also studied Win Wenger, the creativity genius who teaches people how to raise their IQ with simple exercises he created.
Win taught me that whatever you focus on expands. This was long before the movie The Secret or before the Law of Attraction hit mainstream media. Win called it the first law of psychology.
Whatever you focus on will expand.
"It didn't take long for me to begin using these methods on myself," I told Pat. "I'd encourage myself and focus on what I wanted. As it worked for me, I realized it would work for others. So I started encouraging people."
I was also lucky enough to have been married to a woman who was supportive of every idea I came up with, even when we were broke and taking risks could have been seen as a bad move. But Marian focused on the good in me, saw potential, and watered it with her love.
Over time it became easier to encourage people because it felt good, I saw results, and people loved it. So few of us get support that when we suddenly have it, we drink it up like a starving person in the desert.
I've taught my Miracles Coaches this same general idea. It's the prime directive of my life: Find the spark in a person and encourage it to come out in full glory.
Find the spark in a person and encourage it to come out in full glory.
During the meal, the waitress came to Pat and I and asked what we needed. Neither of us needed a thing. We were in the moment. We were happy. But I decided to ask what she needed.
"Nothing," she said. "One day I want to open my own restaurant but right now I'm just waiting tables."
Pat and I exchanged glances and he winked. He knew this was my opening. I turned to the waitress and began to encourage her to do something, anything, to make her dream come true.
I have no idea if she'll actually do anything, but she smiled big and thanked me for the encouragement.
In your own case, as you sit there and read these words, you might ask who is encouraging you and who are you encouraging?
Who are you encouraging?
If you want encouragement, consider my Miracles Coaching program. There's nothing like constant support and encouragement to achieve your goals and intentions.
If you want to encourage others, begin right now. Listen, really listen, when people talk to you. You'll often hear their secret wish. When you hear it, focus on it, if only for a moment.
It's how dreams come true.
PS -- I thank Mandy for asking her great question. I still don't know exactly when I started to encourage people, but I'd guess around 1982. Yet Mandy's question led to some deep self-reflection, some deep conversations, and to this blog post. If you liked it, please share it with others. Who knows, you just might encourage someone to dare something worthy.
Note: Pat O'Bryan interviewed me about this topic last night for his weekly online TV show. It was recorded and you can view it at www.portableempire.tv/ Simply look for the 6-17-08 show with me. Then click on it. Enjoy.
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Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
When I drove Mandy Evans back to the airport, she asked me an interesting question:
"Have you always encouraged people?"
She had spent four days with me and observed me encouraging complete strangers to go for their dreams.
There was an author at a booth and I bought his book and advised him on how to market it.
There was a waitress struggling to get to all her tables and I tipped her more than the bill to encourage her to have a great day.
There was the newbie restaurant owners that I encouraged by designing and distributing an insert ad to tell the locals about their great food.
There was of course Diane Watson, who is now The Property Hugger.
So Mandy wanted to know if I was always encouraging of others.
"No," I instantly replied. "When I was younger I was angry at the world and didn't encourage anybody. I was into survival and focused on trying to write, get published, and just generally survive."
I knew what question was coming next, and I knew I didn't have a quick answer for it.
"Then when did you start encouraging people?"
I thought for a long time. I honestly couldn't come up with an answer by the time I dropped off Mandy at the terminal.
But I've been chewing on it ever since.
I told Nerissa about the question. As I free associated an answer, she said she heard the word "love" used a lot.
"Love is part of why I do it," I said. "I love seeing a person come alive with the passion they secretly want to express. But I also know that when you love a person with total acceptance, they feel free to become whatever they desire."
But I still couldn't pin-point the time when I began to do this encouraging on a regular basis.
Pat O'Bryan and I had dinner one night and I told him the above story. He then began to probe, trying to get me to narrow down the year and possibly the event that caused me to become encouraging of others.
"I remember reading books that awakened me to the idea that if we focus on the good, we'll get more good," I explained.
Marva Collins is a school teacher in Chicago who taught me, through the stories and books by and about her, that when you focus on the positive in a person, and nurtured and encouraged them, they would blossom.
Marva took inner city kids that were considered retarded, special, and/or illiterate and transformed them within months into kids who read Shakespeare and tested at grade levels five times higher than kids of the same age.
Decades ago I was teaching adult education classes in Houston for a company called Leisure Learning. I would try the Marva Collins approach in my classes. I marveled to see people get excited, take action, and go on to write and publish their own books. They needed encouraged, not just informed.
Pat listened intently as I went on to explain that I also studied Win Wenger, the creativity genius who teaches people how to raise their IQ with simple exercises he created.
Win taught me that whatever you focus on expands. This was long before the movie The Secret or before the Law of Attraction hit mainstream media. Win called it the first law of psychology.
Whatever you focus on will expand.
"It didn't take long for me to begin using these methods on myself," I told Pat. "I'd encourage myself and focus on what I wanted. As it worked for me, I realized it would work for others. So I started encouraging people."
I was also lucky enough to have been married to a woman who was supportive of every idea I came up with, even when we were broke and taking risks could have been seen as a bad move. But Marian focused on the good in me, saw potential, and watered it with her love.
Over time it became easier to encourage people because it felt good, I saw results, and people loved it. So few of us get support that when we suddenly have it, we drink it up like a starving person in the desert.
I've taught my Miracles Coaches this same general idea. It's the prime directive of my life: Find the spark in a person and encourage it to come out in full glory.
Find the spark in a person and encourage it to come out in full glory.
During the meal, the waitress came to Pat and I and asked what we needed. Neither of us needed a thing. We were in the moment. We were happy. But I decided to ask what she needed.
"Nothing," she said. "One day I want to open my own restaurant but right now I'm just waiting tables."
Pat and I exchanged glances and he winked. He knew this was my opening. I turned to the waitress and began to encourage her to do something, anything, to make her dream come true.
I have no idea if she'll actually do anything, but she smiled big and thanked me for the encouragement.
In your own case, as you sit there and read these words, you might ask who is encouraging you and who are you encouraging?
Who are you encouraging?
If you want encouragement, consider my Miracles Coaching program. There's nothing like constant support and encouragement to achieve your goals and intentions.
If you want to encourage others, begin right now. Listen, really listen, when people talk to you. You'll often hear their secret wish. When you hear it, focus on it, if only for a moment.
It's how dreams come true.
PS -- I thank Mandy for asking her great question. I still don't know exactly when I started to encourage people, but I'd guess around 1982. Yet Mandy's question led to some deep self-reflection, some deep conversations, and to this blog post. If you liked it, please share it with others. Who knows, you just might encourage someone to dare something worthy.
Note: Pat O'Bryan interviewed me about this topic last night for his weekly online TV show. It was recorded and you can view it at www.portableempire.tv/ Simply look for the 6-17-08 show with me. Then click on it. Enjoy.
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Saturday, August 23, 2014
How to Handle Disappointment
Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
How do you handle setbacks?
How do you handle disappointments?
How do you handle being stuck?
Let me answer with a story...
As you probably know by now, I own Francine, a rare 2005 Panoz Esperante GTLM exotic sports car, as well as rock star Steven Tyler (of Aerosmith)'s even rarer 1998 Panoz AIV Roadster.
Obviously, I'm a fan of Panoz cars.
I've been to the Panoz factory, met part of the family, attended their racing school, and love everything by and about Panoz.
So you can imagine how excited I got when I heard that someone took a Panoz Esperante and turned it into a flying car.
Yes, a flying car.
When I checked, I found the story to be true. It was not only transformed into a car that could fly by Jesse James and his nine-man team, but it actually flew - and was broadcast on television.
The 2004 Panoz Esperante took flight on an episode of Monster Garage, making it off the ground for 280 feet before touching down safely.
I wanted that car.
Yes, I wanted that car.
But when I checked, I learned the person who owned the flying car didn't want to sell it. He just kept it in storage.
I thought that was pretty sad, but I let it go and forgot about it.
Until a few days ago, that is.
That's when I learned that the Panoz flying car sold at auction for only $45,000.
Not only was that a ridiculously low amount of money -- as the car alone is worth $105,000 and as a flying car it's worth three times that (at least) -- but the auction happened last January.
Six months ago!
I am rarely upset by things these days, but I have to confess learning the flying car sold for only $45,000 and six months ago almost caused me to blow a gasket.
How could I have missed the auction?
Why didn't anyone tell me?
Talk about disappointment.
I contacted the Panoz folks and shared my frustration. They told me they tried to buy the car at that auction by somehow couldn't get their bid high enough in time. They lost the car.
This seemed bizarre.
I'm obviously a collector of rare Panoz cars. The flying car would be a gem for me to own. It would be pure P.T. Barnum, who of course I wrote a book about.
But somehow I was out of tune, or not clear, or something.
Not only did I not get a chance to bid on the car, but the auction happened half a year ago.
What the - ?
But things got even more interesting and even more disappointing.
When I tired to find out the name of the person who actually won the car, so I could ask him if he'd sell it to me at a higher price, I hit dead ends.
I couldn't find him, and the auction house wouldn't give me his name for privacy reasons.
All of this caused me to be upset for three days.
Three days.
I'm not proud of it. But I'm trying to share a story here, as well as vent a little. This was an experience of deep disappointment to me. I took it personally, and judged myself harshly.
I felt stuck, unhappy, and un-clear.
So, what did I do?
As it turned out, I had to go back into the recording studio to record a few more segments to my forthcoming new audio program, The Awakening Course.
This is the most advanced material I've ever created. It covers the four stages of awakening and leads you through the first three stages, so you can experience them live. The fourth stage comes by grace, but can be described. I do it in the program.
As I recorded my new material about trust and letting go, I realized that I had been very attached to wanting that flying car.
VERY attached.
Yet a key secret to attracting whatever you want is to let go of attachment. Want it without needing it. As my friend Bootzie often says, "I'm perfectly satisfied, I just want more!"
"I'm perfectly satisfied, I just want more!" - Bootzie
That's the spirit of detachment that attracts results.
I wasn't detached.
And I wasn't trusting.
My ego felt things should be different from reality.
My ego felt the car was right for me.
My ego was upset when the car flew away from me.
But the Universe (Divine, God, Gaea, Collective Unconscious, etc) sees the bigger picture. It knows more than your ego. You have to trust IT.
There may be several reasons for me not attracting that car, including -
* Where do you park a car with wings?
* Where do you fly a flying car?
* How do you fly a flying car?
And there's the very real possibility that the person who won the flying car has better reasons for owning it than me.
In short, the way I handled this disappointment was by letting go, trusting, and moving on.
It's very possible the flying car will appear in my life at some later point, but I no longer need it to appear.
I'm happy with or without it.
That's where you want to be with everything in your life: at peace.
And that's the secret to attracting what you want and surviving setbacks, disappointments and stuck issues:
You trust it's all working out for your highest good, you do whatever is next for you to do in the moment, and you do it all from a place of serenity.
You move on - smiling, trusting, letting go.
You soar through life -- with no need for a flying car.
PS - You can see pictures of the Panoz flying car (complete with bullet holes) at http://www.autoblog.com/2008/01/19/barrett-jackson-2008-panoz-esperante-flying-car/ Enjoy.
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Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
How do you handle setbacks?
How do you handle disappointments?
How do you handle being stuck?
Let me answer with a story...
As you probably know by now, I own Francine, a rare 2005 Panoz Esperante GTLM exotic sports car, as well as rock star Steven Tyler (of Aerosmith)'s even rarer 1998 Panoz AIV Roadster.
Obviously, I'm a fan of Panoz cars.
I've been to the Panoz factory, met part of the family, attended their racing school, and love everything by and about Panoz.
So you can imagine how excited I got when I heard that someone took a Panoz Esperante and turned it into a flying car.
Yes, a flying car.
When I checked, I found the story to be true. It was not only transformed into a car that could fly by Jesse James and his nine-man team, but it actually flew - and was broadcast on television.
The 2004 Panoz Esperante took flight on an episode of Monster Garage, making it off the ground for 280 feet before touching down safely.
I wanted that car.
Yes, I wanted that car.
But when I checked, I learned the person who owned the flying car didn't want to sell it. He just kept it in storage.
I thought that was pretty sad, but I let it go and forgot about it.
Until a few days ago, that is.
That's when I learned that the Panoz flying car sold at auction for only $45,000.
Not only was that a ridiculously low amount of money -- as the car alone is worth $105,000 and as a flying car it's worth three times that (at least) -- but the auction happened last January.
Six months ago!
I am rarely upset by things these days, but I have to confess learning the flying car sold for only $45,000 and six months ago almost caused me to blow a gasket.
How could I have missed the auction?
Why didn't anyone tell me?
Talk about disappointment.
I contacted the Panoz folks and shared my frustration. They told me they tried to buy the car at that auction by somehow couldn't get their bid high enough in time. They lost the car.
This seemed bizarre.
I'm obviously a collector of rare Panoz cars. The flying car would be a gem for me to own. It would be pure P.T. Barnum, who of course I wrote a book about.
But somehow I was out of tune, or not clear, or something.
Not only did I not get a chance to bid on the car, but the auction happened half a year ago.
What the - ?
But things got even more interesting and even more disappointing.
When I tired to find out the name of the person who actually won the car, so I could ask him if he'd sell it to me at a higher price, I hit dead ends.
I couldn't find him, and the auction house wouldn't give me his name for privacy reasons.
All of this caused me to be upset for three days.
Three days.
I'm not proud of it. But I'm trying to share a story here, as well as vent a little. This was an experience of deep disappointment to me. I took it personally, and judged myself harshly.
I felt stuck, unhappy, and un-clear.
So, what did I do?
As it turned out, I had to go back into the recording studio to record a few more segments to my forthcoming new audio program, The Awakening Course.
This is the most advanced material I've ever created. It covers the four stages of awakening and leads you through the first three stages, so you can experience them live. The fourth stage comes by grace, but can be described. I do it in the program.
As I recorded my new material about trust and letting go, I realized that I had been very attached to wanting that flying car.
VERY attached.
Yet a key secret to attracting whatever you want is to let go of attachment. Want it without needing it. As my friend Bootzie often says, "I'm perfectly satisfied, I just want more!"
"I'm perfectly satisfied, I just want more!" - Bootzie
That's the spirit of detachment that attracts results.
I wasn't detached.
And I wasn't trusting.
My ego felt things should be different from reality.
My ego felt the car was right for me.
My ego was upset when the car flew away from me.
But the Universe (Divine, God, Gaea, Collective Unconscious, etc) sees the bigger picture. It knows more than your ego. You have to trust IT.
There may be several reasons for me not attracting that car, including -
* Where do you park a car with wings?
* Where do you fly a flying car?
* How do you fly a flying car?
And there's the very real possibility that the person who won the flying car has better reasons for owning it than me.
In short, the way I handled this disappointment was by letting go, trusting, and moving on.
It's very possible the flying car will appear in my life at some later point, but I no longer need it to appear.
I'm happy with or without it.
That's where you want to be with everything in your life: at peace.
And that's the secret to attracting what you want and surviving setbacks, disappointments and stuck issues:
You trust it's all working out for your highest good, you do whatever is next for you to do in the moment, and you do it all from a place of serenity.
You move on - smiling, trusting, letting go.
You soar through life -- with no need for a flying car.
PS - You can see pictures of the Panoz flying car (complete with bullet holes) at http://www.autoblog.com/2008/01/19/barrett-jackson-2008-panoz-esperante-flying-car/ Enjoy.
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Thursday, August 21, 2014
A Joyful Heart Is Good Medicine
You may not know that harboring negative feelings or being distraught emotionally makes us susceptible to poor health. Being angry, suppressing un-forgiveness, being depressed, sad, and even ignoring conflict causes stress in our bodies. Also, if you are in a continual negative state of mind and thought, your body is in a constant state of high stress, compromising and weakening your immune system. It is in this weakened state that makes it difficult for our bodies to fight off illnesses and disease.
Learning how to deal with our issues, practicing forgiveness, smiling more, combating negative thoughts, and avoiding drama, we can reduce the bad stress in our bodies. You will strengthen the body and enjoy life more.
Always pay attention to your body. You feel more energized when you're happy and will usually possess a polite disposition. When you are feeling the opposite, you may feel less energized, weighed down by burdens, and may even experience aches and pain within. One thing for sure, the body never lies and although we can't see the functioning of our bodies within, doesn't mean something is not happening. If you a show <a href="http://0a399k2aq9mplzbdoex4lrgj23.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=SUBART">negative outward appearance</a> due to a mindset that is cradled by negative feelings; there will be a negative inner affect going on as well.
If you're feeling stressed, make time for moderate exercise, it's a great stress-buster and can improve your mood. Always spend time doing things you enjoy whether it be going to a movie, fishing with the kids, or having lunch with a good friend.
Relaxation techniques such as deep breathing or meditation can work wonders for your state of mind. Treat your self well and make time for healthy meals and be sure to get the proper amount of rest.
We do have control over the stress and choices we make in our lives. It sometimes takes a little practice and some effort to put some of these techniques into play in your life. But once you do so, you may be pleasantly surprised at the positive benefits you'll receive.
Ultimately, pleasure and happiness are truly medicine to our bodies. However it is up to us to exercise healthy emotions and thoughts. When life throws you a curve ball, always try to respond in a healthy manner. I know we all experience the not so good feelings and think not so good things, that's just a part of life. The goal is to not stay in that negative <a href="http://66b0ed3frmowbxado9ripi3ud9.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=SUBART">place of mind</a> because it is what is in our hearts that will ultimately decide our well being as a whole.
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Always pay attention to your body. You feel more energized when you're happy and will usually possess a polite disposition. When you are feeling the opposite, you may feel less energized, weighed down by burdens, and may even experience aches and pain within. One thing for sure, the body never lies and although we can't see the functioning of our bodies within, doesn't mean something is not happening. If you a show <a href="http://0a399k2aq9mplzbdoex4lrgj23.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=SUBART">negative outward appearance</a> due to a mindset that is cradled by negative feelings; there will be a negative inner affect going on as well.
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Relaxation techniques such as deep breathing or meditation can work wonders for your state of mind. Treat your self well and make time for healthy meals and be sure to get the proper amount of rest.
We do have control over the stress and choices we make in our lives. It sometimes takes a little practice and some effort to put some of these techniques into play in your life. But once you do so, you may be pleasantly surprised at the positive benefits you'll receive.
Ultimately, pleasure and happiness are truly medicine to our bodies. However it is up to us to exercise healthy emotions and thoughts. When life throws you a curve ball, always try to respond in a healthy manner. I know we all experience the not so good feelings and think not so good things, that's just a part of life. The goal is to not stay in that negative <a href="http://66b0ed3frmowbxado9ripi3ud9.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=SUBART">place of mind</a> because it is what is in our hearts that will ultimately decide our well being as a whole.
Tuesday, August 19, 2014
How to Love Your Life More
How much do you actually love your life?
This might be the first time you have been asked this question, but you should really be asking yourself this almost every day. Our decisions and choices create the world we find ourselves in. It is possible, if you aren't focusing on where it is all headed, that you may end up in some places you never actually intended to go. While you can find no quick fixes, there are a few things you can do to begin your journey of getting back on track to loving your life.
1. Prioritize
In order to love our lives we should be spending a lot of our time and energy on aspects that mean the most to us. Yet often, we make decisions and say "yes" to incidentals that take away our time along with our energy.
For you to move forward, it may be well to begin by thinking about what the top 3 priorities in your life really are. If your answer is family, creativity, and adventure, for example then it would be difficult to enjoy a life where you are doing little more than mundane, repetitive tasks, and missing out on valuable time with your family. Consider whether your life, your job, your home, actually reflect you and those things you hold dear?
Get your diary out and be in charge of your schedule.
Bring what you value the most into what you do. If you adore cooking and you work in an office, bring home-made snacks to work for people to enjoy. If you are lacking family time, see if you are able to free up a little more non-negotiable time to spend with your children and partner every week. Start with little beginnings. Spend an extra hour here and there on those things that are important to you. Make your time suit your needs.
2. Manage Expectations
So often people are swamped in misery because their lives are just not meeting their expectations. It could be that your partner isn't the perfect true love you always fantasized about. Perhaps your job isn't the career that you thought it might be when you were studying. Maybe you are living week to week at an age when you thought you would be financially more secure.
There is no need to scale back your expectations of a happy, full life. But in these situations it's wise to sit down and figure out whether unhappiness is the result of a situation that isn't helping you, or if you are comparing your life with an illusion. Accepting people, jobs and life for what they are at this moment can be a healing experience for many. Your partner, husband or wife may not be the perfect soul mate you dreamed of - but comparing them to someone who doesn't exist will simply make you both unhappy.
3. Count What's There - Not What's Missing
Remind yourself about everything that is positive in your life. What does your partner do better than anyone else? What does your job provide you that you've stayed in it this long? What made you choose this job in the first instance? Some of the best things in life are not the plans that come to fruition, but the surprises along the route.
4. Take Time Out
Even if your life is fantastic, everyone needs a break every now and then. You may work in a job you love or have a wonderful family, but too large a serving of a fine thing can be bad for you. Fatigue sets in, you begin to feel depleted, resentful, and wonder about changing your situation. Maybe nothing is wrong with your situation - you just need to stand back and take a breather.
Research shows that people attain much more benefit before their holiday than during or after the holiday. This has led scientists to claim that anticipation of a holiday can be as important as the holiday itself. Plan and schedule regular holidays, spread out your annual leave to a few shorter holidays distributed throughout the year, and get regular mini-breaks such as a night out with friends, weekend camping trips to get a change of scenery, and taking time to just be by yourself and do absolutely nothing at all.
Time spent alone is beneficial for mental and emotional health. Take more control over your daily schedule and plan for regular alone time. Take yourself on a date to a theater, do the gardening, go for a run, or embark on an adventure.
5. Find Your Passion
Experiencing passion is an important part of living a full and meaningful life. Inject passion into every day, even weekdays when you have to work and don't feel particularly passionate. If you search hard enough, you can always find some aspect to be passionate about.
When passion is lacking, it can be re-ignited by your favorite meal, taking a course, or a night out with mates. Passion can come from anywhere - it may be reading, creativity, helping others, partiipating in sports, your friends, or visiting distant countries. Passion can come from something really small, like making a dish. There isn't any right or wrong. Notice things that evoke true excitement from within you, and also notice what kind of person inspires you.
What famous or notable person do you most wish you could emulate? This might be the first step in realizing how to live the life you love. If you really aren't sure what your passions are, start with a fresh slate and learn something you've never tried before.
Take a course in something you're interested in; visit a new city; try some exotic dishes; start meeting new people, or check online and start following blogs on specific subjects that draw your attention. Many of the world's greatest chefs, writers, artists, designers, architects, athletes, innovators and entrepeneurs blog on a regular basis about their thoughts, ideas and advice.
6. Learn to Love Yourself
Finding a life you love is only possible if you are able to love yourself. This does not mean arrogance or denying that you have faults. Loving yourself is more or less being your own best friend, a person who can accept you on both good days, and bad days when things don't go to plan.
Accept your flaws and shortcomings, but resolve to treat yourself well. You have the right to be loved and treated well, by yourself and by others. You deserve a good life that makes you happy. Not because you are perfect, but even though you are flawed and human, and even though you may struggle at times, nonetheless you still deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion.
This isn't always easy. We don't always learn to be good to ourselves while growing up. It is a skill that grows with time, and will continue to grow stronger provided we work at it. And the more love we give to ourself, the less we will need to run around fixing problems or struggling to find solutions. Loving your life can become a habit.
After all, foster an 'attitude of gratitude' for the gift that is your life, and for all there is in it. It may not be ideal, but it is yours -- and now is the time to live it.
----------------------------------------------------
Peter Field is a UK therapist and Fellow of the Royal Society of Health. More information on his hypnotherapy Birmingham and London practice can be found at http://www.peterfieldhypnotherapy.co.uk Peter's best selling book on hypnosis and hypnotherapy 'The Chi of Change' is now available http://www.chiofchange.com
This might be the first time you have been asked this question, but you should really be asking yourself this almost every day. Our decisions and choices create the world we find ourselves in. It is possible, if you aren't focusing on where it is all headed, that you may end up in some places you never actually intended to go. While you can find no quick fixes, there are a few things you can do to begin your journey of getting back on track to loving your life.
1. Prioritize
In order to love our lives we should be spending a lot of our time and energy on aspects that mean the most to us. Yet often, we make decisions and say "yes" to incidentals that take away our time along with our energy.
For you to move forward, it may be well to begin by thinking about what the top 3 priorities in your life really are. If your answer is family, creativity, and adventure, for example then it would be difficult to enjoy a life where you are doing little more than mundane, repetitive tasks, and missing out on valuable time with your family. Consider whether your life, your job, your home, actually reflect you and those things you hold dear?
Get your diary out and be in charge of your schedule.
Bring what you value the most into what you do. If you adore cooking and you work in an office, bring home-made snacks to work for people to enjoy. If you are lacking family time, see if you are able to free up a little more non-negotiable time to spend with your children and partner every week. Start with little beginnings. Spend an extra hour here and there on those things that are important to you. Make your time suit your needs.
2. Manage Expectations
So often people are swamped in misery because their lives are just not meeting their expectations. It could be that your partner isn't the perfect true love you always fantasized about. Perhaps your job isn't the career that you thought it might be when you were studying. Maybe you are living week to week at an age when you thought you would be financially more secure.
There is no need to scale back your expectations of a happy, full life. But in these situations it's wise to sit down and figure out whether unhappiness is the result of a situation that isn't helping you, or if you are comparing your life with an illusion. Accepting people, jobs and life for what they are at this moment can be a healing experience for many. Your partner, husband or wife may not be the perfect soul mate you dreamed of - but comparing them to someone who doesn't exist will simply make you both unhappy.
3. Count What's There - Not What's Missing
Remind yourself about everything that is positive in your life. What does your partner do better than anyone else? What does your job provide you that you've stayed in it this long? What made you choose this job in the first instance? Some of the best things in life are not the plans that come to fruition, but the surprises along the route.
4. Take Time Out
Even if your life is fantastic, everyone needs a break every now and then. You may work in a job you love or have a wonderful family, but too large a serving of a fine thing can be bad for you. Fatigue sets in, you begin to feel depleted, resentful, and wonder about changing your situation. Maybe nothing is wrong with your situation - you just need to stand back and take a breather.
Research shows that people attain much more benefit before their holiday than during or after the holiday. This has led scientists to claim that anticipation of a holiday can be as important as the holiday itself. Plan and schedule regular holidays, spread out your annual leave to a few shorter holidays distributed throughout the year, and get regular mini-breaks such as a night out with friends, weekend camping trips to get a change of scenery, and taking time to just be by yourself and do absolutely nothing at all.
Time spent alone is beneficial for mental and emotional health. Take more control over your daily schedule and plan for regular alone time. Take yourself on a date to a theater, do the gardening, go for a run, or embark on an adventure.
5. Find Your Passion
Experiencing passion is an important part of living a full and meaningful life. Inject passion into every day, even weekdays when you have to work and don't feel particularly passionate. If you search hard enough, you can always find some aspect to be passionate about.
When passion is lacking, it can be re-ignited by your favorite meal, taking a course, or a night out with mates. Passion can come from anywhere - it may be reading, creativity, helping others, partiipating in sports, your friends, or visiting distant countries. Passion can come from something really small, like making a dish. There isn't any right or wrong. Notice things that evoke true excitement from within you, and also notice what kind of person inspires you.
What famous or notable person do you most wish you could emulate? This might be the first step in realizing how to live the life you love. If you really aren't sure what your passions are, start with a fresh slate and learn something you've never tried before.
Take a course in something you're interested in; visit a new city; try some exotic dishes; start meeting new people, or check online and start following blogs on specific subjects that draw your attention. Many of the world's greatest chefs, writers, artists, designers, architects, athletes, innovators and entrepeneurs blog on a regular basis about their thoughts, ideas and advice.
6. Learn to Love Yourself
Finding a life you love is only possible if you are able to love yourself. This does not mean arrogance or denying that you have faults. Loving yourself is more or less being your own best friend, a person who can accept you on both good days, and bad days when things don't go to plan.
Accept your flaws and shortcomings, but resolve to treat yourself well. You have the right to be loved and treated well, by yourself and by others. You deserve a good life that makes you happy. Not because you are perfect, but even though you are flawed and human, and even though you may struggle at times, nonetheless you still deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion.
This isn't always easy. We don't always learn to be good to ourselves while growing up. It is a skill that grows with time, and will continue to grow stronger provided we work at it. And the more love we give to ourself, the less we will need to run around fixing problems or struggling to find solutions. Loving your life can become a habit.
After all, foster an 'attitude of gratitude' for the gift that is your life, and for all there is in it. It may not be ideal, but it is yours -- and now is the time to live it.
----------------------------------------------------
Peter Field is a UK therapist and Fellow of the Royal Society of Health. More information on his hypnotherapy Birmingham and London practice can be found at http://www.peterfieldhypnotherapy.co.uk Peter's best selling book on hypnosis and hypnotherapy 'The Chi of Change' is now available http://www.chiofchange.com
Monday, August 11, 2014
How to Stop Struggling
Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
ABC, CBS, Fox and many national television news shows are interested in my movement to stop homelessness, called Operation YES.
They want to hand me a family that has lost their home, or is about to, and have me work with them as they televise the process.
I'm game. I want to prove that any situation can be changed by handling your belief system, focusing on what you want, consciously implementing the law of attraction, and taking action.
But while I'm eager to make this happen and help millions of people, I also know the people I talk to have to be ready to change.
For example, one news station found a woman who had lost her voice box due to cancer, and then her job.
She has four kids and no way to talk to them. She now writes to them on a white board.
Her husband quit his job to help her, and now they may lose their home.
I asked for more details. I could see from the video footage the news station sent me that the woman is strong. She wrote "I am a fighter" on her white board and showed the camera. I'm convinced she can find new income and save her home with some direction and support.
But I wanted to know more about the husband.
As I wrote in my book The Attractor Factor, if two people are involved in a project, both have to be clear for them to achieve their intended result. If one isn't, he or she could hold up progress.
So I asked about the husband.
The reporter was impressed at my "astuteness," as she said the husband was the weak link.
He quit his job when he didn't have to. Neighbors were willing to drive the woman to her doctor appointments, and help with her children.
If I worked with this couple, I'd have to see that the husband was open to change. Apparently he isn't, as the news reporters themselves told me so. (The husband later wrecked the car.)
If I worked with the woman, but the husband resisted my help, there would be little if any permanent change.
But this isn't an excuse to blame other people.
If you're in a situation where you are struggling, ask yourself how you can get clear of the inner issues in you causing the struggle.
As I've explained in my book Zero Limits, and in The Key, the issues aren't with other people or outer circumstances: they are with you.
Get clear within you and those people will either change or move on.
I'm working on my own inner blocks so I can help anyone, even the husband who may be resistant.
Still, your "circle of support" (as I wrote about the other day) will uplift you or deflate you, depending on their mindset.
If that woman got inspired because of my personal help, but then went home to her husband who ridiculed her or me, she'd have less energy to make a change. She could still make a change, but it'd be much tougher.
If you want to stop struggling, you need at least these things -
1. The decision to have something better.
2. Support to take new actions.
3. Clearing of your beliefs.
With those three steps you can change any situation. Again, it's not the situation at issue. It's your inner state.
And you can change that - with help.
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
ABC, CBS, Fox and many national television news shows are interested in my movement to stop homelessness, called Operation YES.
They want to hand me a family that has lost their home, or is about to, and have me work with them as they televise the process.
I'm game. I want to prove that any situation can be changed by handling your belief system, focusing on what you want, consciously implementing the law of attraction, and taking action.
But while I'm eager to make this happen and help millions of people, I also know the people I talk to have to be ready to change.
For example, one news station found a woman who had lost her voice box due to cancer, and then her job.
She has four kids and no way to talk to them. She now writes to them on a white board.
Her husband quit his job to help her, and now they may lose their home.
I asked for more details. I could see from the video footage the news station sent me that the woman is strong. She wrote "I am a fighter" on her white board and showed the camera. I'm convinced she can find new income and save her home with some direction and support.
But I wanted to know more about the husband.
As I wrote in my book The Attractor Factor, if two people are involved in a project, both have to be clear for them to achieve their intended result. If one isn't, he or she could hold up progress.
So I asked about the husband.
The reporter was impressed at my "astuteness," as she said the husband was the weak link.
He quit his job when he didn't have to. Neighbors were willing to drive the woman to her doctor appointments, and help with her children.
If I worked with this couple, I'd have to see that the husband was open to change. Apparently he isn't, as the news reporters themselves told me so. (The husband later wrecked the car.)
If I worked with the woman, but the husband resisted my help, there would be little if any permanent change.
But this isn't an excuse to blame other people.
If you're in a situation where you are struggling, ask yourself how you can get clear of the inner issues in you causing the struggle.
As I've explained in my book Zero Limits, and in The Key, the issues aren't with other people or outer circumstances: they are with you.
Get clear within you and those people will either change or move on.
I'm working on my own inner blocks so I can help anyone, even the husband who may be resistant.
Still, your "circle of support" (as I wrote about the other day) will uplift you or deflate you, depending on their mindset.
If that woman got inspired because of my personal help, but then went home to her husband who ridiculed her or me, she'd have less energy to make a change. She could still make a change, but it'd be much tougher.
If you want to stop struggling, you need at least these things -
1. The decision to have something better.
2. Support to take new actions.
3. Clearing of your beliefs.
With those three steps you can change any situation. Again, it's not the situation at issue. It's your inner state.
And you can change that - with help.
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Friday, August 8, 2014
Meeting Louise Hay
Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
She met us at the door and smiled, her eyes twinkling and her smile charming.
Louise Hay is the queen of the new age, law of attraction, think-it-and-you'll-attract-it movement.
Her books are classics, from Heal Your Body to Empowering Women.
She's 81 years old young and as vibrant as a teenager.
Her I Can! events are sold out pep-fests where people get enough juice to last a year.
Louise is known as one of the founders of the self-help movement. Her first book, Heal Your Body, was published in 1976, long before it was fashionable to discuss the mind-body connection. It was revised and expanded in 1998. It's still considered a classic today.
Louise has helped me personally over the decades, without her knowing it, with her messages of insight and uplift.
I used to read her question and answer section in the back of Science of Mind magazine. It helped me hang in there and focus on what I wanted. It worked, too. Look at me today. :)
Given all of the above, you can imagine my delight to be able to have an evening with Louise Hay.
She invited me and my personal fitness trainer, Scott York, to her multi-million dollar penthouse overlooking everything in San Diego.
We were there for the Steve Reeves film and fitness festival, and to finally see the 1976 Jag XJS I bought that was originally owned by Hercules.
But the car will have to wait for another post.
The view from Louise's penthouse was spectacular.
She poured champagne for us while she pointed out the park, the ocean, the airport, and the other buildings.
She loves San Diego, saying, "It doesn't have any humidity or bugs."
She took us to dinner at another high rise location, where we could see planes come in over the top of office buildings as they landed at the in-city airport.
But the best part of all was getting to ask Louise questions.
Her joy in life is to find new authors and promote them to the world.
She's very excited to have acquired Abraham, brought to you by my friends Jerry and Esther Hicks. Their latest book, Money and the Law of Attraction, is already a bestseller.
Louise travels a lot. She has offices all over the planet. She had only returned from Australia two days earlier when we met her. She didn't seem travel weary at all, though. She radiated health. Scott and I had traveled from Austin to San Diego that very morning and showed more exhaustion than Louise.
She has an office, and an assistant, right in her penthouse.
She showed me some of her paintings, too, which I imagine is a rare treat. I had never heard of her art interests before.
Our conversation covered many topics, including health.
She said almost every health problem had to deal with anger and resentment.
When she got cancer, she realized she had to forgive in order to heal. She knew her issue was with her parents.
She looked at their childhood, saw how they had been raised, and was then better able to understand and forgive them.
As a result, she is cancer free.
Surprisingly, she didn't know much about me or my work. To resolve that, I gave her copies of The Attractor Factor and The Key.
I also told her about Operation YES, my upcoming infomercial on The Awakening Course, and other projects I'm involved in, including my upcoming Miracles Weekend.
Louise said she hadn't heard anything about the Miracles Weekend. That's when I realized I had marketed to my email list but not to San Diego. We can all use reminders. There's always more we can do.
She let me pick from whatever book I wanted in her office and I chose Letters to Louise, which she autographed.
She offered a book to Scott, who said "You don't have to do that."
"I know I don't have to," Louise countered, smiling. "Are you just going to dismiss the good you are offered?"
Of course, Scott then accepted a book.
I asked what she thought of all the movies coming out since The Secret.
She said there are more Indigo children born today, and they don't like to read. They need visuals. As a result, she made her own movie, too, You Can Heal Your Life.
I told her about a female friend of mine suffering from tumors in her uterus. I asked what Louise would do.
She said forgiveness, a nutritionist and a good oriental doctor would help.
She added that most women don't take care of themselves because they focus on others. She said my friend needs to express her creativity and love herself, too.
But what if someone isn't willing to change?
"They have to be ready," Louise asked.
"Can you make them ready?" I asked.
"No one knows why each of us has the challenges we do," she explained. "They have their lessons and we have ours. You have to take care of you."
I asked her what book influenced her the most.
She said The Game of Life and How to Play It by Florence Shinn. (Hay House now publishes it.)
I asked her what book she's reading now.
She said Success Intelligence by Robert Holden. (She said the photo on the book made the author look like he was twelve years old.)
As I looked around her penthouse, and saw the museum quality furnishings, I thought she reeked of prosperity. But Louise said she's never focused on money, saying "I just ask 'How can I serve?'"
Her first book was a twelve page pamphlet. It evolved into her bestselling classic Heal Your Body.
Three hours later, I hugged and thanked Louise for the evening.
I felt as though I had sat with a legend and was torn between asking loads of questions or just sitting in gratitude.
So I did a little of both.
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
She met us at the door and smiled, her eyes twinkling and her smile charming.
Louise Hay is the queen of the new age, law of attraction, think-it-and-you'll-attract-it movement.
Her books are classics, from Heal Your Body to Empowering Women.
She's 81 years old young and as vibrant as a teenager.
Her I Can! events are sold out pep-fests where people get enough juice to last a year.
Louise is known as one of the founders of the self-help movement. Her first book, Heal Your Body, was published in 1976, long before it was fashionable to discuss the mind-body connection. It was revised and expanded in 1998. It's still considered a classic today.
Louise has helped me personally over the decades, without her knowing it, with her messages of insight and uplift.
I used to read her question and answer section in the back of Science of Mind magazine. It helped me hang in there and focus on what I wanted. It worked, too. Look at me today. :)
Given all of the above, you can imagine my delight to be able to have an evening with Louise Hay.
She invited me and my personal fitness trainer, Scott York, to her multi-million dollar penthouse overlooking everything in San Diego.
We were there for the Steve Reeves film and fitness festival, and to finally see the 1976 Jag XJS I bought that was originally owned by Hercules.
But the car will have to wait for another post.
The view from Louise's penthouse was spectacular.
She poured champagne for us while she pointed out the park, the ocean, the airport, and the other buildings.
She loves San Diego, saying, "It doesn't have any humidity or bugs."
She took us to dinner at another high rise location, where we could see planes come in over the top of office buildings as they landed at the in-city airport.
But the best part of all was getting to ask Louise questions.
Her joy in life is to find new authors and promote them to the world.
She's very excited to have acquired Abraham, brought to you by my friends Jerry and Esther Hicks. Their latest book, Money and the Law of Attraction, is already a bestseller.
Louise travels a lot. She has offices all over the planet. She had only returned from Australia two days earlier when we met her. She didn't seem travel weary at all, though. She radiated health. Scott and I had traveled from Austin to San Diego that very morning and showed more exhaustion than Louise.
She has an office, and an assistant, right in her penthouse.
She showed me some of her paintings, too, which I imagine is a rare treat. I had never heard of her art interests before.
Our conversation covered many topics, including health.
She said almost every health problem had to deal with anger and resentment.
When she got cancer, she realized she had to forgive in order to heal. She knew her issue was with her parents.
She looked at their childhood, saw how they had been raised, and was then better able to understand and forgive them.
As a result, she is cancer free.
Surprisingly, she didn't know much about me or my work. To resolve that, I gave her copies of The Attractor Factor and The Key.
I also told her about Operation YES, my upcoming infomercial on The Awakening Course, and other projects I'm involved in, including my upcoming Miracles Weekend.
Louise said she hadn't heard anything about the Miracles Weekend. That's when I realized I had marketed to my email list but not to San Diego. We can all use reminders. There's always more we can do.
She let me pick from whatever book I wanted in her office and I chose Letters to Louise, which she autographed.
She offered a book to Scott, who said "You don't have to do that."
"I know I don't have to," Louise countered, smiling. "Are you just going to dismiss the good you are offered?"
Of course, Scott then accepted a book.
I asked what she thought of all the movies coming out since The Secret.
She said there are more Indigo children born today, and they don't like to read. They need visuals. As a result, she made her own movie, too, You Can Heal Your Life.
I told her about a female friend of mine suffering from tumors in her uterus. I asked what Louise would do.
She said forgiveness, a nutritionist and a good oriental doctor would help.
She added that most women don't take care of themselves because they focus on others. She said my friend needs to express her creativity and love herself, too.
But what if someone isn't willing to change?
"They have to be ready," Louise asked.
"Can you make them ready?" I asked.
"No one knows why each of us has the challenges we do," she explained. "They have their lessons and we have ours. You have to take care of you."
I asked her what book influenced her the most.
She said The Game of Life and How to Play It by Florence Shinn. (Hay House now publishes it.)
I asked her what book she's reading now.
She said Success Intelligence by Robert Holden. (She said the photo on the book made the author look like he was twelve years old.)
As I looked around her penthouse, and saw the museum quality furnishings, I thought she reeked of prosperity. But Louise said she's never focused on money, saying "I just ask 'How can I serve?'"
Her first book was a twelve page pamphlet. It evolved into her bestselling classic Heal Your Body.
Three hours later, I hugged and thanked Louise for the evening.
I felt as though I had sat with a legend and was torn between asking loads of questions or just sitting in gratitude.
So I did a little of both.
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Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Thursday, August 7, 2014
The What If Up Club
Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
Mindy Audlin is one of my favorite people.
She's charming, smart, upbeat, and a remarkable speaker and teacher. We held an event together two years ago where I first learned about her What If Up game.
It was life changing.
The best way to understand how it works is to realize the favorite question of the mind is "What if?"
But for most of us that question is asked in a negative, or down, way.
We ask "What if this doesn't work out?" or "What if I lose my job?" or "What if I'm wrong?"
Obviously, that negative seeking question doesn't feel good, and leads to attracting the fears it focuses on.
But Mindy asks you to do a what if UP.
You might ask, "What if this works out beautifully?" or "What if there was never a problem in the first place?" or "What if I get a raise?" or "What if my idea makes me a millionaire?"
This single adjustment in how you ask a question transforms you, your energy, and the very answers you get.
The idea is to look for new possibilities by letting your mind be free. When you do this, you feel fantastic. You also send this new energy into the Universe as an order or request.
I recently attended one of Mindy's local (Wimberley, Texas) What If Up parties. That's where people break into groups of five or so and take turns What If Up-ing each other. It's very juicy and even addictive (in a positive way).
For example, when it was my turn, I said I want the infomercial coming out this week for The Awakening Course to be a top seller in the self-help market.
When you state your goal or problem, you're not allowed to explain it or tell your story around it. It's not needed. You simply state your desire and let the magic begin.
So I stated mine about wanting my infomercial to be a hit.
Someone instantly said, "What if it is the number one bestseller in all categories?"
Someone else said, "What if it is the number one bestseller of this century?"
Another said, "What if it is the number one bestselling infomercial in all of history!?"
At this point I was feeling electricity pumping through my veins.
Mindy explains that the exercise isn't to create a to-do list. You don't make notes or how-tos or to-dos.
The point is to raise your energy, get into the feeling of what you want, and let that experience attract the end result to you.
You still take action, of course, but it's inspired action.
It comes from that place within you that feels great and naturally unfolds. You don't have to make yourself do it; you want to do it.
A beautiful side benefit of doing the what if up exercise a few times is it changes your thinking.
Suddenly you start asking what if up questions in your head rather than what if down questions.
Check this out at www.whatifup.com You'll find more information there, including how to host your own What If Up dinner party.
What if the site is the coolest thing you saw today?
What if it changed your life for the better instantly?
What if?
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Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Mindy Audlin is one of my favorite people.
She's charming, smart, upbeat, and a remarkable speaker and teacher. We held an event together two years ago where I first learned about her What If Up game.
It was life changing.
The best way to understand how it works is to realize the favorite question of the mind is "What if?"
But for most of us that question is asked in a negative, or down, way.
We ask "What if this doesn't work out?" or "What if I lose my job?" or "What if I'm wrong?"
Obviously, that negative seeking question doesn't feel good, and leads to attracting the fears it focuses on.
But Mindy asks you to do a what if UP.
You might ask, "What if this works out beautifully?" or "What if there was never a problem in the first place?" or "What if I get a raise?" or "What if my idea makes me a millionaire?"
This single adjustment in how you ask a question transforms you, your energy, and the very answers you get.
The idea is to look for new possibilities by letting your mind be free. When you do this, you feel fantastic. You also send this new energy into the Universe as an order or request.
I recently attended one of Mindy's local (Wimberley, Texas) What If Up parties. That's where people break into groups of five or so and take turns What If Up-ing each other. It's very juicy and even addictive (in a positive way).
For example, when it was my turn, I said I want the infomercial coming out this week for The Awakening Course to be a top seller in the self-help market.
When you state your goal or problem, you're not allowed to explain it or tell your story around it. It's not needed. You simply state your desire and let the magic begin.
So I stated mine about wanting my infomercial to be a hit.
Someone instantly said, "What if it is the number one bestseller in all categories?"
Someone else said, "What if it is the number one bestseller of this century?"
Another said, "What if it is the number one bestselling infomercial in all of history!?"
At this point I was feeling electricity pumping through my veins.
Mindy explains that the exercise isn't to create a to-do list. You don't make notes or how-tos or to-dos.
The point is to raise your energy, get into the feeling of what you want, and let that experience attract the end result to you.
You still take action, of course, but it's inspired action.
It comes from that place within you that feels great and naturally unfolds. You don't have to make yourself do it; you want to do it.
A beautiful side benefit of doing the what if up exercise a few times is it changes your thinking.
Suddenly you start asking what if up questions in your head rather than what if down questions.
Check this out at www.whatifup.com You'll find more information there, including how to host your own What If Up dinner party.
What if the site is the coolest thing you saw today?
What if it changed your life for the better instantly?
What if?
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Wednesday, July 16, 2014
Got Spirit?
Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
Years ago I wrote a dissertation for my Doctorate in Metaphysical Science called "Got Spirit"? It was an in-depth study of the most popular metaphysical, new thought and new age movements and the marketing practices their founders used to establish them.
I wrote it because so many people seem to have a negative attitude toward money and marketing that I wanted to see for myself how the biggest and most famous spiritual movements got that way.
I suspected the greatest meta-physicians -- from Jesus to Phineas Parker Quimby to Mary Baker Eddy to Ernest Holmes to Mother Teresa -- were all comfortable with money and either did marketing or had someone do it for them.
It was an illuminating study. Turns out every one of these spiritual teachers and their movements knew the value of money and marketing. Each did everything from writing, speaking and advertising to publicity events to get attention and attract followers.
If that's the case, then why do most metaphysical practitioners today -- most people, period -- dislike marketing and money?
The most obvious answer is they believe, "God will provide."
That reminds me of the story of the man with a beautiful garden in his backyard. One day a man walked by, saw it, and stopped to admire it.
"You have an amazing garden here," the stranger said.
"Thank you," said the owner.
"It's really God's garden, isn't it?"
"Yes, it is," replied the owner. "But you should have seen it when God had it all by Himself."
The point is, God (or the Divine or Nature) provides us with the basics, and we have to do something with what we've been given. If we just allow things to grow in the backyard, we'll have a jungle, not a garden. Someone has to tend to the earth. Even if we've been given (or learned) the talent to heal, we have to let people know we have it for us to be able to use it. In other words, we have to spread the word.
That's marketing.
It's no different than what Jesus, Phineas Parker Quimby (pictured above), Mary Baker Eddy, or even Mother Teresa did. If someone hadn't helped them spread the word, we wouldn't know of them today.
The success of Unity Church is a case in point. Charles and Myrtle Fillmore managed to raise all the money they needed to build and expand their business. It wasn't until 1942 that the real secret of their financial support was revealed. The Fillmores had created a now famous "Dedication and Covenant" on December 7, 1892, that read:
"We, Charles Fillmore and Myrtle Fillmore, husband and wife, hereby dedicate our selves, our time, our money, all we have and all we expect to have, to the Spirit of Truth, and through it, to the Society of Silent Unity.
"It being understood and agreed that the said Spirit of Truth shall render unto us an equivalent for this dedication, in peace of mind, health of body, wisdom, understanding, love, life and an abundant supply of all things necessary to meet every want without our making any of these things the object of our existence.
"In the presence of the Conscious Mind of Christ Jesus, this 7th day of December, 1892 A.D."
Please note that while the Fillmores signed an agreement with Spirit, they also wrote, published and distributed materials to market their message and their offerings. In short, they had to do both: Implement marketing and work with Spirit. I call it the phrase I coined: Spiritual Marketing. It could have easily been called Spiritual Money.
The point here is that money and marketing are not separate from Spirit at all. They are in fact Spirit.
When someone says, "I don't care about money, I just want to follow Spirit," they are revealing their own limitations about the reality of the world.
Money is Spirit.
Saying you aren't interested in money, or marketing, is a form of self-delusion. You don't need to be in love with money to appreciate it and attract it. When you realize it's a tool of Spirit, you are in a position to create miracles.
Dr. Hew Len, my coauthor for the book Zero Limits, is clear that money is of Spirit. He uses the Ho'oponopono practice to clean on everything, including any negativity around money. As a result, our book is a bestseller and I send him huge checks for half of everything that I ever receive from anything related to Zero Limits products. He simply receives.
When you have Spirit, you can have money.
They aren't separate.
Got Spirit?
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Years ago I wrote a dissertation for my Doctorate in Metaphysical Science called "Got Spirit"? It was an in-depth study of the most popular metaphysical, new thought and new age movements and the marketing practices their founders used to establish them.
I wrote it because so many people seem to have a negative attitude toward money and marketing that I wanted to see for myself how the biggest and most famous spiritual movements got that way.
I suspected the greatest meta-physicians -- from Jesus to Phineas Parker Quimby to Mary Baker Eddy to Ernest Holmes to Mother Teresa -- were all comfortable with money and either did marketing or had someone do it for them.
It was an illuminating study. Turns out every one of these spiritual teachers and their movements knew the value of money and marketing. Each did everything from writing, speaking and advertising to publicity events to get attention and attract followers.
If that's the case, then why do most metaphysical practitioners today -- most people, period -- dislike marketing and money?
The most obvious answer is they believe, "God will provide."
That reminds me of the story of the man with a beautiful garden in his backyard. One day a man walked by, saw it, and stopped to admire it.
"You have an amazing garden here," the stranger said.
"Thank you," said the owner.
"It's really God's garden, isn't it?"
"Yes, it is," replied the owner. "But you should have seen it when God had it all by Himself."
The point is, God (or the Divine or Nature) provides us with the basics, and we have to do something with what we've been given. If we just allow things to grow in the backyard, we'll have a jungle, not a garden. Someone has to tend to the earth. Even if we've been given (or learned) the talent to heal, we have to let people know we have it for us to be able to use it. In other words, we have to spread the word.
That's marketing.
It's no different than what Jesus, Phineas Parker Quimby (pictured above), Mary Baker Eddy, or even Mother Teresa did. If someone hadn't helped them spread the word, we wouldn't know of them today.
The success of Unity Church is a case in point. Charles and Myrtle Fillmore managed to raise all the money they needed to build and expand their business. It wasn't until 1942 that the real secret of their financial support was revealed. The Fillmores had created a now famous "Dedication and Covenant" on December 7, 1892, that read:
"We, Charles Fillmore and Myrtle Fillmore, husband and wife, hereby dedicate our selves, our time, our money, all we have and all we expect to have, to the Spirit of Truth, and through it, to the Society of Silent Unity.
"It being understood and agreed that the said Spirit of Truth shall render unto us an equivalent for this dedication, in peace of mind, health of body, wisdom, understanding, love, life and an abundant supply of all things necessary to meet every want without our making any of these things the object of our existence.
"In the presence of the Conscious Mind of Christ Jesus, this 7th day of December, 1892 A.D."
Please note that while the Fillmores signed an agreement with Spirit, they also wrote, published and distributed materials to market their message and their offerings. In short, they had to do both: Implement marketing and work with Spirit. I call it the phrase I coined: Spiritual Marketing. It could have easily been called Spiritual Money.
The point here is that money and marketing are not separate from Spirit at all. They are in fact Spirit.
When someone says, "I don't care about money, I just want to follow Spirit," they are revealing their own limitations about the reality of the world.
Money is Spirit.
Saying you aren't interested in money, or marketing, is a form of self-delusion. You don't need to be in love with money to appreciate it and attract it. When you realize it's a tool of Spirit, you are in a position to create miracles.
Dr. Hew Len, my coauthor for the book Zero Limits, is clear that money is of Spirit. He uses the Ho'oponopono practice to clean on everything, including any negativity around money. As a result, our book is a bestseller and I send him huge checks for half of everything that I ever receive from anything related to Zero Limits products. He simply receives.
When you have Spirit, you can have money.
They aren't separate.
Got Spirit?
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Saturday, July 12, 2014
How to Choose the Best Drug Rehab Center
Seeking help to overcome drug addiction can be the biggest or hardest decision of a person suffering from substance abuse. The decision is often made by an individual through the support of the people caring for him or her. Comes with this decision is another difficult task which is to find the <a href="%20http:/www.Best-Drug-Rehabilitation-Centers.com/">best drug rehab centers</a> suited for the patient. Finding the best one among the vast choices of rehab centers may be a tedious task not only for the patient but also for his or her loved ones. There are several factors that are usually considered in looking for a good drug rehab center which is best suited for the needs of the patient. Here are five things to consider in choosing the best drug rehab center.
• Treatment Programs
Rehabilitation centers offer different treatment options for patients to cater to individual needs. The usual treatment for substance abuse is the 12-step program. Also, there are programs catered for younger patients like teenagers and other programs that are suited for adults. Treatment programs usually include medical, psychological and some physical activities appropriate for the recovery of the patient.
• Length of Treatment
Drug rehab centers usually offer a short-term and a long-term treatment program. The short-term is commonly a month long process while the long-term may extend from three months or even longer depending on the patient's response to the program. Longer treatment is usually more effective than the shorter programs. There are also instances that patients return couple more times to the drug rehab facility for further treatment.
• Cost of Treatment
This is one of the major factors often considered by patients or their loved ones especially if the needed treatment program will not be covered by the individual's health insurance. The costs for treatment vary from one rehab center to another. Drug rehab centers with sophisticated facilities, accommodation and programs normally charge higher prices than the average ones.
• Location of the Facility
One significant factor for the immediate recovery of substance users is the constant support of the people they care about. This is one of the reasons why a patient or his or her loved ones consider the actual location of the facility for the treatment. Support system plays a vital role from the treatment period to the recovery. Some families choose <a href="%20http:/www.Best-Drug-Rehabilitation-Centers.com/">rehab centers</a> closer to their homes so they can easily visit their patients. Sometimes this is also favorable for the patient because it gives a comforting feeling of being close to home while undergoing treatment.
• After Treatment Programs
Overcoming substance addiction does not end from the treatment program alone. There are times that patients have to come back and start all over again simply because there are no follow through or after treatment programs for them. Some recovery centers provide support activities in which former patients can reach out to each other as part of their recovery. There are also some drug rehab facilities that offer transition programs for their patients which help them prepare for life after treatment.
Deciding to stop and heal from substance abuse is really tough. Most of the times, looking for the right rehab center becomes another obstacle to the person's road to recovery. This should not be the case if the factors and options are carefully considered in seeking for the best drug rehab center.
• Treatment Programs
Rehabilitation centers offer different treatment options for patients to cater to individual needs. The usual treatment for substance abuse is the 12-step program. Also, there are programs catered for younger patients like teenagers and other programs that are suited for adults. Treatment programs usually include medical, psychological and some physical activities appropriate for the recovery of the patient.
• Length of Treatment
Drug rehab centers usually offer a short-term and a long-term treatment program. The short-term is commonly a month long process while the long-term may extend from three months or even longer depending on the patient's response to the program. Longer treatment is usually more effective than the shorter programs. There are also instances that patients return couple more times to the drug rehab facility for further treatment.
• Cost of Treatment
This is one of the major factors often considered by patients or their loved ones especially if the needed treatment program will not be covered by the individual's health insurance. The costs for treatment vary from one rehab center to another. Drug rehab centers with sophisticated facilities, accommodation and programs normally charge higher prices than the average ones.
• Location of the Facility
One significant factor for the immediate recovery of substance users is the constant support of the people they care about. This is one of the reasons why a patient or his or her loved ones consider the actual location of the facility for the treatment. Support system plays a vital role from the treatment period to the recovery. Some families choose <a href="%20http:/www.Best-Drug-Rehabilitation-Centers.com/">rehab centers</a> closer to their homes so they can easily visit their patients. Sometimes this is also favorable for the patient because it gives a comforting feeling of being close to home while undergoing treatment.
• After Treatment Programs
Overcoming substance addiction does not end from the treatment program alone. There are times that patients have to come back and start all over again simply because there are no follow through or after treatment programs for them. Some recovery centers provide support activities in which former patients can reach out to each other as part of their recovery. There are also some drug rehab facilities that offer transition programs for their patients which help them prepare for life after treatment.
Deciding to stop and heal from substance abuse is really tough. Most of the times, looking for the right rehab center becomes another obstacle to the person's road to recovery. This should not be the case if the factors and options are carefully considered in seeking for the best drug rehab center.
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
The #1 Self-Help Book
Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
There are only a handful of books that have dramatically influenced my life. Considering how much I read (sometimes a book a day), that's pretty sad.
There's The Magic of Believing and The Robert Collier Letter Book.
But number one on the list is one you may never have heard of before: The Book of est.
It beat out Think and Grow Rich, and even the Bible. I know that's bold and controversial. But it's also the truth.
Here are two reasons why I love the book:
The book is the famous est experience in written form. est, or Erhard Seminar Training, was the controversial self-help movement of the 1970s and beyond.
Anyone who withstood the heat of the weekends was never the same again. Lives were transformed forever. You faced yourself and your story in a way that was confrontational and oh so real.
I never got to do est. I was a skeptic and a hold out. I made fun of it when I saw all the articles about it.
Truth is, I was afraid of it.
I was young and in college and unsure of everything, including myself. By the time I got around to wanting to do est, it was gone and reincarnated into something called The Forum.
I did the Forum and endorse it today.
But it's no est.
The Book of est puts you into the room and gets you to feel the intensity. You somehow experience est.
And it's hot.
When my late wife began to type up the book to be republished by me, she had to keep stopping. She said it was intense and dramatic.
She died during the transcription process. But that had nothing to do with the book. It had more to do with her choices and what the book urged her to face.
Obviously, a book isn't a drill sergeant self-help instructor yelling in your face about what isn't working in your life. But The Book of est comes close.
It's safe.
It's easy reading.
But it's still real.
Oh so very real.
Just reading it can cause you to awaken to your own patterns. And once you see them, you can let them go.
Or not.
After all, what you get from the book is what you get.
But that's only the first reason I love The Book of est.
The second reason I love this book is because the writing is, well, hypnotic. It's riveting.
Luke Rhinehart has the gift of writing dialogue and description that puts you in the room with the characters experiencing est.
In many ways, this was one of the first examples I ever found of what I eventually labeled as Hypnotic Writing. While I later wrote a book called Hypnotic Writing, it was Luke Rhinehart who paved the way for me to know what it was when a true master was at work.
For me, this is one of the best written books of all time.
The author wrote some other cult classics, too. The Dice Man is a masterpiece. It's well written, engaging, humorous and in some ways dangerous.
Just like The Book of est.
But where The Dice Man is alive and well in print, The Book of est has been gone for decades.
Search on eBay or Amazon and you might find original copies going for one hundred dollars on up to a thousand dollars. I've paid that much for copies, too. I collect them.
The Book of est is one of the rare life changing gems that I can't get enough of or read enough times.
Sometimes I give the book away. Usually I don't. Usually I just keep it for myself, as one of the most powerful books of all time kept hidden in my own secret vault of wisdom.
The good news for you is this: Luke is now a friend of mine. We've corresponded, shared books, and decided to join a partnership. With the help of my friend Mark Ryan, the most powerful self-help book of all time is now available to you.
And all you have to do is go here to get it as a downloadable ebook -
www.thebookofest.com
Go see.
I dare you.
PS - est was all about being real. The Book of est will challenge you as never before. How? And why is it the greatest self-help book of all time? Go see for yourself at www.thebookofest.com I double-dare you.
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
There are only a handful of books that have dramatically influenced my life. Considering how much I read (sometimes a book a day), that's pretty sad.
There's The Magic of Believing and The Robert Collier Letter Book.
But number one on the list is one you may never have heard of before: The Book of est.
It beat out Think and Grow Rich, and even the Bible. I know that's bold and controversial. But it's also the truth.
Here are two reasons why I love the book:
The book is the famous est experience in written form. est, or Erhard Seminar Training, was the controversial self-help movement of the 1970s and beyond.
Anyone who withstood the heat of the weekends was never the same again. Lives were transformed forever. You faced yourself and your story in a way that was confrontational and oh so real.
I never got to do est. I was a skeptic and a hold out. I made fun of it when I saw all the articles about it.
Truth is, I was afraid of it.
I was young and in college and unsure of everything, including myself. By the time I got around to wanting to do est, it was gone and reincarnated into something called The Forum.
I did the Forum and endorse it today.
But it's no est.
The Book of est puts you into the room and gets you to feel the intensity. You somehow experience est.
And it's hot.
When my late wife began to type up the book to be republished by me, she had to keep stopping. She said it was intense and dramatic.
She died during the transcription process. But that had nothing to do with the book. It had more to do with her choices and what the book urged her to face.
Obviously, a book isn't a drill sergeant self-help instructor yelling in your face about what isn't working in your life. But The Book of est comes close.
It's safe.
It's easy reading.
But it's still real.
Oh so very real.
Just reading it can cause you to awaken to your own patterns. And once you see them, you can let them go.
Or not.
After all, what you get from the book is what you get.
But that's only the first reason I love The Book of est.
The second reason I love this book is because the writing is, well, hypnotic. It's riveting.
Luke Rhinehart has the gift of writing dialogue and description that puts you in the room with the characters experiencing est.
In many ways, this was one of the first examples I ever found of what I eventually labeled as Hypnotic Writing. While I later wrote a book called Hypnotic Writing, it was Luke Rhinehart who paved the way for me to know what it was when a true master was at work.
For me, this is one of the best written books of all time.
The author wrote some other cult classics, too. The Dice Man is a masterpiece. It's well written, engaging, humorous and in some ways dangerous.
Just like The Book of est.
But where The Dice Man is alive and well in print, The Book of est has been gone for decades.
Search on eBay or Amazon and you might find original copies going for one hundred dollars on up to a thousand dollars. I've paid that much for copies, too. I collect them.
The Book of est is one of the rare life changing gems that I can't get enough of or read enough times.
Sometimes I give the book away. Usually I don't. Usually I just keep it for myself, as one of the most powerful books of all time kept hidden in my own secret vault of wisdom.
The good news for you is this: Luke is now a friend of mine. We've corresponded, shared books, and decided to join a partnership. With the help of my friend Mark Ryan, the most powerful self-help book of all time is now available to you.
And all you have to do is go here to get it as a downloadable ebook -
www.thebookofest.com
Go see.
I dare you.
PS - est was all about being real. The Book of est will challenge you as never before. How? And why is it the greatest self-help book of all time? Go see for yourself at www.thebookofest.com I double-dare you.
----------------------------------------------------
Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
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