While most of relationship endings are pretty miserable, those that happen during the holidays may be some of the worst imaginable. This is especially true for the partners that didn't want the breakup. In fact, they usually never see it coming so it hits them like a wall when it happens. Because you would think that waiting a few days isn't that big of a deal, the timing on these breakups can also seem vindictive.
When a holiday breakup happens, you may feel that there's no chance you can have a "normal" holiday. Obviously, you're going to be unhappy and hurt. Everywhere you look may remind you of something to do with your ex and how joyful you used to be. Yes, it may be very hard to enjoy the holidays when you've been dumped by someone with the worst timing in the world. However, there are ways to make it through the holiday season and emerge on the other side somewhat unscathed.
To start with, consider the reason for the breakup. If it was just one of those silly fights that couples have caused by the stress that comes with the happy season, things will most likely be all patched up and fine by Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. Yes, you'll have a few moments in there where you'll be miserable and feel like you want to just die, or you want HIM to die, but once both of you realize what was really going on, things will work themselves out. On top of that, you'll get to have some very amazing make up sex, which can only make the holidays even better.
Now, however, if he cheated on you or has met another person he's serious about, or for whatever reason, he's just not in love with you anymore, those are going to be difficult situations to deal with ANY time of the year, let alone holidays. This is when you need a great support system around you. These can be your closest friends as well as relatives that really appreciate you. Lean on them and accept whatever comfort they're offering. Just remember that it's the holiday season for them, too, and they probably kind of wanted to enjoy this time.
Don't hide up in your room or your home and refuse human contact. This is when you need it the most. It's perfectly fine to grieve, but your goal is going to be surviving a few days before completely breaking down. There will be eleven months and three weeks to do that the rest of the year, if you really want to spend that much time mourning someone that apparently didn't care all that much anyway. Do what you need to do to crawl through those holidays. Keep in mind not to do something totally stupid, though, like indulging in a series of ill-advised one night stands. Stranger sex isn't going to heal you or even put a bandaid on your distress.
One more thing to consider is that you may have hooked up with one of those guys that simply splits up around holidays, or special days, so that he doesn't have to buy gifts. He'll be back right after New Year's if that's your ex. Just expect him to pick a fight again right before Valentine's Day.
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