Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
The other day my Subliminal Manifestation partner Mark Ryan and my Inspired Marketing coauthor Craig Perrine got to experience the exhilaration of a ride in Steven Tyler (Aerosmith)'s rare 1998 Panoz AIV Roadster, which I now own and call Ladybug.
They also got to drive the car.
They were like little kids experiencing their first roller coaster thrill ride.
But the really interesting experience took place after we were done driving and drooling and stood around the car, admiring her.
Craig noticed that a ladybug landed on the car.
When I first received the car a few months ago, and wondered what to name it, a ladybug landed on it.
I rarely see ladybugs here in Texas. I'm sure they're here; I just don't look for them. Seeing one land on Steven Tyler's car seemed telling. So I named the Roadster "Ladybug" right then and there.
Craig and Mark took turns trying to take a clear picture of the bug on my Ladybug. (That's Craig above.) They both knew it would be great blog material. :)
Synchronicities like these are how I learn I'm on the right path. They are green flags.
Whenever I have a decision to make, I look for signs that I'm making the right one. "Right" meaning appropriate for me, not necessarily for you or anyone else.
I've written about signs and green/red flags before, of course. In The Attractor Factor I told the story of seeing a street sign that helped me decide what to do when I worked at a job I disliked.
The road sign was "Quitman."
My mind read it as a command: "Quit man" as in "Quit the job, man!"
Here's an example from today:
I heard comedian Steve Martin just published a new book, his autobiography, titled Born Standing Up. I like Martin and was curious about the book, but I didn't run out and buy it.
But then I saw a review of it in a magic magazine.
And then another review in another magazine.
And then someone sent me an Amazon gift certificate.
I bought the book, and something curious happened.
Amazon sent it to me overnight - and they sent two copies.
I guess I'm supposed to read it twice.
Turns out the book is riveting. It shows how much hard work goes into creating an "overnight" success.
But that's not the point of this blog post.
The point is to watch for the "ladybugs" in your life.
Try this: When you are considering getting a gift for someone for the holiday next week, see if there are signs that resonate with you suggesting what to get or affirming a choice you already made.
This is a fun way to enjoy each moment, as the signs remind you that you are one with all there is.
Enjoy.
PS - If you celebrate Christmas, please have a merry one. And if you don't, please have a merry one anyway.
Note: I have no idea what kind of ladybug landed on my car. Coccinellids are found worldwide, with over 5,000 species and more than 450 native to North America alone. Who knows what kind Texas has. So don't ask. :)
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Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Monday, September 15, 2014
Thursday, September 4, 2014
Don't Let Your Mind Run Over
There is an old tale about a Zen student who went to see his master in order to seek further knowledge. Eager to impress his teacher, he arrived at the man's doorstep with a skip in his step. Upon seeing his student, the Master gave a wide smile and eagerly invited his protégé in.
As they sat in the room talking to one another, the Zen Master asked his student to go fetch him two cups and a pot of tea. The student returned, placing the items on the table.
The Master listened as his apprentice boasted about all he had learned. While the student talked, the older man began carefully pouring his young apprentice a cup of tea. The cup, filled to the brim, yet the master kept pouring, even as the tea began gushing over the top and spilling down on the table.
"Stop!? the apprentice shouted. Do you not see that the cup is completely full? It won't hold any more tea." At this the wise Teacher smiled and answered, "It is like this with you. Your mind is also full of too many things. Only if you empty it will there be room for new knowledge to come in."
The point of this story is not to suggest that knowledge itself is a problem. It's meant to warn us about how easy it is for our current beliefs and assumptions to crowd out further knowledge, thereby limiting our capacity to see things in a more well-rounded way. When a person's head is full of its own accumulated wisdom, it tends to become possessive and protective of what it assumes to be true, which prevents new information from coming in. An arrogant mind that is packed too full of learned assumptions is like a teacup that has been filled to the top with cement.
When your mind is full of it's own ideas . . .
A mind that is too full of what it already assumes to know does more than just leave its owner woefully lacking in wisdom. It can create a lot of problems in our lives. For example . . .
A) Flexibility in thinking consistently shows up as a major factor in resilience, perhaps even the most important factor when it comes to overcoming difficult events in life. The ability to adopt new perspectives allows us to weather the storm like a young tree that can bend and sway in the wind, whereas a closed mind is like a rigid branch that won't bend, and instead snaps under pressure.
B) A lot of the stress and mental anguish we endure in life is born into existence through our rigid assumptions which lead us to interpret things in a narrow self-defeating way.
Certain experiences are inherently painful. None of us like to feel helpless or suffer a lack of control, and we all get upset over violence, conflict, ridicule, and other negative actions directed toward us. Yet most of the lingering pain we endure come about because our mind is too full of negative assumptions about WHAT CERTAIN EXPERIENCES SHOULD MEAN. Clearing our mind of this extra baggage will give us a more flexible cup that is better equipped to tolerate the stresses of life.
C) Maintaining a flexible mind that makes room for other perspectives will also help your social life. This is because most conflicts arise from stubborn thinking. We're too busy clinging to our repertoire of current knowledge about 'how things should be' that we're unwilling to open our mind to new ways of looking at things.
So the more rigid a person's thoughts, the more conflict they'll experience with the world at large. Not only will they get into more arguments with other people, but they'll also be subject to more inner turmoil, because the outside world will never conform to the inflexible ideology that exists inside their head.
How flexible is your cup?
Realizing that the knowledge we possess WILL ALWAYS BE INCOMPLETE is the psychological equivalent of advancing to a larger cup. To that end, please remember this story and take its lesson with you as you go about your own life. It's a lovely thing to possess a mind that is continually churning . . . turning over the old to make a place for the new.
It might be prudent to remind yourself that it's often the beliefs we've held the longest that will grow stale and are in the most need of being replaced. It is often those occasions when we're sure of ourselves that we are in the utmost need of a fresh cup of tea.
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Be sure to visit our website www.keepyourchildsafe.org/ for a variety of resources including safety coloring pictures to help keep your family safe, including understanding our moods and emotionsat http://www.keepyourchildsafe.org/psychology/moods-and-emotions.html and how they affect our thinking. You can also follow us on Twitter @GCFparents.
As they sat in the room talking to one another, the Zen Master asked his student to go fetch him two cups and a pot of tea. The student returned, placing the items on the table.
The Master listened as his apprentice boasted about all he had learned. While the student talked, the older man began carefully pouring his young apprentice a cup of tea. The cup, filled to the brim, yet the master kept pouring, even as the tea began gushing over the top and spilling down on the table.
"Stop!? the apprentice shouted. Do you not see that the cup is completely full? It won't hold any more tea." At this the wise Teacher smiled and answered, "It is like this with you. Your mind is also full of too many things. Only if you empty it will there be room for new knowledge to come in."
The point of this story is not to suggest that knowledge itself is a problem. It's meant to warn us about how easy it is for our current beliefs and assumptions to crowd out further knowledge, thereby limiting our capacity to see things in a more well-rounded way. When a person's head is full of its own accumulated wisdom, it tends to become possessive and protective of what it assumes to be true, which prevents new information from coming in. An arrogant mind that is packed too full of learned assumptions is like a teacup that has been filled to the top with cement.
When your mind is full of it's own ideas . . .
A mind that is too full of what it already assumes to know does more than just leave its owner woefully lacking in wisdom. It can create a lot of problems in our lives. For example . . .
A) Flexibility in thinking consistently shows up as a major factor in resilience, perhaps even the most important factor when it comes to overcoming difficult events in life. The ability to adopt new perspectives allows us to weather the storm like a young tree that can bend and sway in the wind, whereas a closed mind is like a rigid branch that won't bend, and instead snaps under pressure.
B) A lot of the stress and mental anguish we endure in life is born into existence through our rigid assumptions which lead us to interpret things in a narrow self-defeating way.
Certain experiences are inherently painful. None of us like to feel helpless or suffer a lack of control, and we all get upset over violence, conflict, ridicule, and other negative actions directed toward us. Yet most of the lingering pain we endure come about because our mind is too full of negative assumptions about WHAT CERTAIN EXPERIENCES SHOULD MEAN. Clearing our mind of this extra baggage will give us a more flexible cup that is better equipped to tolerate the stresses of life.
C) Maintaining a flexible mind that makes room for other perspectives will also help your social life. This is because most conflicts arise from stubborn thinking. We're too busy clinging to our repertoire of current knowledge about 'how things should be' that we're unwilling to open our mind to new ways of looking at things.
So the more rigid a person's thoughts, the more conflict they'll experience with the world at large. Not only will they get into more arguments with other people, but they'll also be subject to more inner turmoil, because the outside world will never conform to the inflexible ideology that exists inside their head.
How flexible is your cup?
Realizing that the knowledge we possess WILL ALWAYS BE INCOMPLETE is the psychological equivalent of advancing to a larger cup. To that end, please remember this story and take its lesson with you as you go about your own life. It's a lovely thing to possess a mind that is continually churning . . . turning over the old to make a place for the new.
It might be prudent to remind yourself that it's often the beliefs we've held the longest that will grow stale and are in the most need of being replaced. It is often those occasions when we're sure of ourselves that we are in the utmost need of a fresh cup of tea.
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Be sure to visit our website www.keepyourchildsafe.org/ for a variety of resources including safety coloring pictures to help keep your family safe, including understanding our moods and emotionsat http://www.keepyourchildsafe.org/psychology/moods-and-emotions.html and how they affect our thinking. You can also follow us on Twitter @GCFparents.
Tuesday, September 2, 2014
Why I Gave Up Intentions
Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
I spent last Saturday with a small group of wonderful people from all over the world who just completed my year long Miracles Coaching Certification Program.
The day was upbeat and buzzing with energy.
But at lunch one person asked me a question that may be on your mind, too.
"In the movie The Secret and in your book The Attractor Factor you said you believe in intentions, but in your book Zero Limits you say you no longer believe in them. What do you do now?"
I can see where that could confuse people.
In my new Nightingale-Conant audio program, The Missing Secret, I explain my approach to life in a way that clears the air. I'll try to recap it here:
Today I realize that most intentions are limitations.
Intentions come from your ego and can actually limit what is possible for you to receive.
Intentions are wonderful when you are first awakening to your own power. It's thrilling to set goals and achieve them. But there's an easier, better, more magical and even miraculous way to go through life.
I explain this in Zero Limits, where I say there are three stages of awakening.
STAGE ONE:
In the first stage you are a victim. We're all born into it and most of us stay there. With coaching or the right books or the right movies, you one day break free.
STAGE TWO:
In the next stage you realize you have more power than you ever thought before. In this stage intentions are fun and exciting and useful. You aim your life where you want it to go. It's exhilarating to manifest things like new cars or a new house or anything else you can imagine.
But there's a stage after that.
STAGE THREE:
In the third stage you realize you have choice but you don't have control. You realize you don't have all power. This is where you surrender. This is where you can receive inspiration from something greater than your ego awareness.
I was filmed for two more movies last week. One of them is all about letting go to inspiration.
For me, I want inspiration.
When it comes, that becomes my new intention.
But the intention comes from inspiration, not from limitation.
The intention comes from the Divine, not my pipsqueak ego.
In short, when I receive an inspiration to do something, it becomes my intention.
So I still believe in intentions, but not those of the ego, but those of the Divine.
Intentions are for wimps.
When I set an intention to do something like, say, write a book, I use my conscious will and my energy and get it done.
But when I allow an inspiration to become my new intention, and combine my energy with it, than I often create something astonishingly unexpected like, say, my own television show.
Inspiration might also direct me to write another book, of course, but the point is, inspiration will often surprise me with something bigger and bolder than I ever imagined before.
As P.T. Barnum said, "Not my will, but thine, be done."
When you follow inspiration, you get to say (like the Blues Brothers), "I'm on a mission from God."
How do you know an intention from an inspiration?
Usually by how it feels.
When I was on Donny Deutsch's CNBC television show The Big Idea last November*, I told him and his audience that the directive to do anything needs to come from your heart, or your gut, not your mind.
When you follow that, you follow your divine path.
It's different for each person, of course. You may be inspired to enroll in Miracles Coaching or Executive Mentoring to better understand my marketing and metaphysical methods; somebody else may not.
I still use coaches today, and think everyone needs to. We all have beliefs and limitations to release.
For example, inspiration nudged me into creating my own TV show, called Expect Miracles.
But my ego was resisting it.
It was stretching my self-image limits.
For that reason, I needed Miracles Coaching to help me get and stay clear. As long as I stay clear, miracles happen.
I'm now clear and ready for this TV show to be a mega-success.
And now the investors, actors, directors, editors and writers are coming to me.
Why? How?
Because I cleared the blocks within me, with the help of my coaches, to allow it all to happen.
Another thing I've learned and have said repeatedly is that "The Universe likes speed."
When you are inspired, act and act fast.
If you are inspired and don't act, it's a sign you have some clearing to do.
What do you feel inspired to do?
Do it.
NOW.
* You can see my fiery five-minute appearance on Donny Deutsch's TV show at http://one.revver.com/watch/491047 or www.youtube.com/watch?v=YTYWyVm6NiI
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Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
I spent last Saturday with a small group of wonderful people from all over the world who just completed my year long Miracles Coaching Certification Program.
The day was upbeat and buzzing with energy.
But at lunch one person asked me a question that may be on your mind, too.
"In the movie The Secret and in your book The Attractor Factor you said you believe in intentions, but in your book Zero Limits you say you no longer believe in them. What do you do now?"
I can see where that could confuse people.
In my new Nightingale-Conant audio program, The Missing Secret, I explain my approach to life in a way that clears the air. I'll try to recap it here:
Today I realize that most intentions are limitations.
Intentions come from your ego and can actually limit what is possible for you to receive.
Intentions are wonderful when you are first awakening to your own power. It's thrilling to set goals and achieve them. But there's an easier, better, more magical and even miraculous way to go through life.
I explain this in Zero Limits, where I say there are three stages of awakening.
STAGE ONE:
In the first stage you are a victim. We're all born into it and most of us stay there. With coaching or the right books or the right movies, you one day break free.
STAGE TWO:
In the next stage you realize you have more power than you ever thought before. In this stage intentions are fun and exciting and useful. You aim your life where you want it to go. It's exhilarating to manifest things like new cars or a new house or anything else you can imagine.
But there's a stage after that.
STAGE THREE:
In the third stage you realize you have choice but you don't have control. You realize you don't have all power. This is where you surrender. This is where you can receive inspiration from something greater than your ego awareness.
I was filmed for two more movies last week. One of them is all about letting go to inspiration.
For me, I want inspiration.
When it comes, that becomes my new intention.
But the intention comes from inspiration, not from limitation.
The intention comes from the Divine, not my pipsqueak ego.
In short, when I receive an inspiration to do something, it becomes my intention.
So I still believe in intentions, but not those of the ego, but those of the Divine.
Intentions are for wimps.
When I set an intention to do something like, say, write a book, I use my conscious will and my energy and get it done.
But when I allow an inspiration to become my new intention, and combine my energy with it, than I often create something astonishingly unexpected like, say, my own television show.
Inspiration might also direct me to write another book, of course, but the point is, inspiration will often surprise me with something bigger and bolder than I ever imagined before.
As P.T. Barnum said, "Not my will, but thine, be done."
When you follow inspiration, you get to say (like the Blues Brothers), "I'm on a mission from God."
How do you know an intention from an inspiration?
Usually by how it feels.
When I was on Donny Deutsch's CNBC television show The Big Idea last November*, I told him and his audience that the directive to do anything needs to come from your heart, or your gut, not your mind.
When you follow that, you follow your divine path.
It's different for each person, of course. You may be inspired to enroll in Miracles Coaching or Executive Mentoring to better understand my marketing and metaphysical methods; somebody else may not.
I still use coaches today, and think everyone needs to. We all have beliefs and limitations to release.
For example, inspiration nudged me into creating my own TV show, called Expect Miracles.
But my ego was resisting it.
It was stretching my self-image limits.
For that reason, I needed Miracles Coaching to help me get and stay clear. As long as I stay clear, miracles happen.
I'm now clear and ready for this TV show to be a mega-success.
And now the investors, actors, directors, editors and writers are coming to me.
Why? How?
Because I cleared the blocks within me, with the help of my coaches, to allow it all to happen.
Another thing I've learned and have said repeatedly is that "The Universe likes speed."
When you are inspired, act and act fast.
If you are inspired and don't act, it's a sign you have some clearing to do.
What do you feel inspired to do?
Do it.
NOW.
* You can see my fiery five-minute appearance on Donny Deutsch's TV show at http://one.revver.com/watch/491047 or www.youtube.com/watch?v=YTYWyVm6NiI
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Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Saturday, August 30, 2014
Recommended Amounts Of Sleep For All Age Demographics And Life Phases
Regardless of your age, sleep is a crucial feature of life. Sleep produces well-being and beneficial health for your body. It's intriguing that how you sleep in the evening establishes how rested you are in the morning. If you're getting eight hours of restless sleep then you're likely to wake up feeling cranky. Really, the number of hours of sleep required changes according to our age, wellness, and life-style. The amount of sleep we require to really feel the most rested we can? Here's a short list of age groups and how sleep impacts each of them.
Infants
Sleep directly effects an infant's physical and mental changes. That's why they require 12 to 18 hours of sleep. Most of the time infants can sleep 9-12 hours in the evening and nap around 2-5 hours throughout the day. Infants will show tiredness in a multitude of varied ways, including fussing, crying, or rubbing their eyes.
Toddlers
It's natural for toddlers to have trouble going to sleep, or continuing to be asleep throughout the evening. They are pretty excited about numerous things, especially the independence that has come with a heightened personal and psychological capability. In spite of this, toddlers are in need of 12 to 14 hours of sleep. Like lots of people, if toddlers do not get ample sleep they can become grouchy and unsettled.
Children
Children under the age of 5 demand 11 to 13 hours, while all children older than five need about 10 to 11 hours of sleep a night time. Since children's creativities are at their peak, problems like sleepwalking and nightmares often tend to be prominent. Hassles, like schoolwork and peers, begin to impact their sleep habits as well. It's necessary to have a good amount of rest time in before the child turns in for the night. This ensures higher sleep quality and much better well being.
Teenagers
Upon teenage years, the body develops a 'sleep phase delay'. This means that their biological rhythm triggers them to sleep later in the nighttime and get up later in the morning. This body clock does totally reset itself, but it can have side effects on a teenager's daily life. Teens are starting to sense the first rushes of real strain from school and life. Also, many schools start early in the morning and could be part of the why teens lose out on rest.Many schools start classes early and could be part of the reason why teens miss out on sleep. It's important for teens to obtain 9 to 10 hours of sleep.
Adults
Adults need to have 7 to 9 hours of sleep. Many adults have failed to remember what a good night's sleep feels like and try to relieve their listlessness with large amounts of coffee. However, particular life events and overall health issues will start playing a large role in the amount of hours you should feel excellent.A number of life events and health concerns will start playing a large job in the amount of hours of sleep you need to feel very good. Here is a brief list of some of the ways adult's life-styles can alter and affect the way they sleep.
- Starting a career or family
-Job promotions or new members to the family
- Retired life
All of these lifestyle adjustments may substantially influence how long you sleep, and the quality too. All of these life changes may dramatically affect how long you sleep, and the quality.
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Jim Cooke is a sleep professional with over a decade of experience. He recognizes and understands the significance sleep plays in our life. He is an enthusiast of natural mattresses and understands their value within this modern life. http://www.austinnaturalmattress.com/
Infants
Sleep directly effects an infant's physical and mental changes. That's why they require 12 to 18 hours of sleep. Most of the time infants can sleep 9-12 hours in the evening and nap around 2-5 hours throughout the day. Infants will show tiredness in a multitude of varied ways, including fussing, crying, or rubbing their eyes.
Toddlers
It's natural for toddlers to have trouble going to sleep, or continuing to be asleep throughout the evening. They are pretty excited about numerous things, especially the independence that has come with a heightened personal and psychological capability. In spite of this, toddlers are in need of 12 to 14 hours of sleep. Like lots of people, if toddlers do not get ample sleep they can become grouchy and unsettled.
Children
Children under the age of 5 demand 11 to 13 hours, while all children older than five need about 10 to 11 hours of sleep a night time. Since children's creativities are at their peak, problems like sleepwalking and nightmares often tend to be prominent. Hassles, like schoolwork and peers, begin to impact their sleep habits as well. It's necessary to have a good amount of rest time in before the child turns in for the night. This ensures higher sleep quality and much better well being.
Teenagers
Upon teenage years, the body develops a 'sleep phase delay'. This means that their biological rhythm triggers them to sleep later in the nighttime and get up later in the morning. This body clock does totally reset itself, but it can have side effects on a teenager's daily life. Teens are starting to sense the first rushes of real strain from school and life. Also, many schools start early in the morning and could be part of the why teens lose out on rest.Many schools start classes early and could be part of the reason why teens miss out on sleep. It's important for teens to obtain 9 to 10 hours of sleep.
Adults
Adults need to have 7 to 9 hours of sleep. Many adults have failed to remember what a good night's sleep feels like and try to relieve their listlessness with large amounts of coffee. However, particular life events and overall health issues will start playing a large role in the amount of hours you should feel excellent.A number of life events and health concerns will start playing a large job in the amount of hours of sleep you need to feel very good. Here is a brief list of some of the ways adult's life-styles can alter and affect the way they sleep.
- Starting a career or family
-Job promotions or new members to the family
- Retired life
All of these lifestyle adjustments may substantially influence how long you sleep, and the quality too. All of these life changes may dramatically affect how long you sleep, and the quality.
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Jim Cooke is a sleep professional with over a decade of experience. He recognizes and understands the significance sleep plays in our life. He is an enthusiast of natural mattresses and understands their value within this modern life. http://www.austinnaturalmattress.com/
Tuesday, August 26, 2014
Finding Good People
Copyright (c) 2014 Joe Vitale
Five years ago I co-signed for my (then) web guy to get a car. I had never co-signed for anyone and I'll probably never do it again. But the experience was useful for me, and in a moment it will be useful for you, too.
Over the years he would miss car payments and I'd get a call from his bank. Then I'd have to find him, bail him out, and hope the situation improved.
It didn't.
A few months ago his bank called again. This time they said they couldn't find my web guy (who was by now no longer working for me) at all and that he was several months past due.
The bank was demanding complete payment of the loan.
And right now.
I began to search for the guy who skipped out on the car loan. I called every number I had for him. Wrote every email address. Searched online. Had my chief assistant spend time shaking trees to see if he would fall out of one of them.
Nothing.
One of my closest advisers said, "He's gone. You'll never find him. And if you did find him, you'd never get a dime out of him. Pay off the loan to close the case and protect your credit."
I paid off the loan.
I wasn't upset. I wasn't concerned. I just let it go and kept cleaning on any negative thought that might come up.
And then a curious thing happened.
My old web guy contacted me on Facebook, asking to be my friend. (!)
I instantly let him in.
I also wrote him and asked for his phone number.
He knew why I wanted it.
He wrote back, gave me his number, said he was sorry, and that he would do anything for me to resolve the issue.
He also said he didn't have any money.
I had already made peace with the situation so didn't really have an attachment to any outcome. I figured if I could get him to create a website or two for me, I'd let it all go and chalk it up to experience.
He agreed, and created a wonderful site and even a wonderful sales letter for it.
But he also did something else that stunned everyone around me, but just made me smile.
He sent me a cashier's check for the full amount he owed me (about six thousand dollars). (!)
He also said he would continue to do work for me, gratis, to show his good faith.
No one around me could believe it.
I found the guy who skipped town.
He did work for me.
And he paid me off.
How did this happen?
Here's my take on it:
First, I wasn't attached to him paying me back. I would welcome my money back, but I didn't need it. Too many people want something to happen in their lives but are desperate about it. That desperation creates/attracts more to be desperate about. I was cool whether the guy paid me or not. My energy was neutral.
Second, I saw the good in the guy. I know that people at their core are basically good. They want to do good. Sometimes when they are backed into a corner, they do things they regret. But I knew the guy and felt he was a good soul. He would do good in whatever way he could.
These two steps don't guarantee that you'll get your money back from someone who borrowed or stole from you, but they do guarantee you will be at peace with the moment.
It's from that place of inner peace that you can attract what you desire -- even if it's from someone who skipped town, couldn't be found, and was flat broke.
PS -- I'm sure any skeptic or critic could smugly say the above story was just a fluke, that I was just lucky. Maybe so. But I have several stories where people turned around and did good while everyone around them gave up on them. The lesson here is where do you want to put your focus: on what doesn't work or on what does? The Law of Attraction (as well as the fundamentals of psychology) states you get more of whatever you focus on with energy and intent. Where's your focus?
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Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
Five years ago I co-signed for my (then) web guy to get a car. I had never co-signed for anyone and I'll probably never do it again. But the experience was useful for me, and in a moment it will be useful for you, too.
Over the years he would miss car payments and I'd get a call from his bank. Then I'd have to find him, bail him out, and hope the situation improved.
It didn't.
A few months ago his bank called again. This time they said they couldn't find my web guy (who was by now no longer working for me) at all and that he was several months past due.
The bank was demanding complete payment of the loan.
And right now.
I began to search for the guy who skipped out on the car loan. I called every number I had for him. Wrote every email address. Searched online. Had my chief assistant spend time shaking trees to see if he would fall out of one of them.
Nothing.
One of my closest advisers said, "He's gone. You'll never find him. And if you did find him, you'd never get a dime out of him. Pay off the loan to close the case and protect your credit."
I paid off the loan.
I wasn't upset. I wasn't concerned. I just let it go and kept cleaning on any negative thought that might come up.
And then a curious thing happened.
My old web guy contacted me on Facebook, asking to be my friend. (!)
I instantly let him in.
I also wrote him and asked for his phone number.
He knew why I wanted it.
He wrote back, gave me his number, said he was sorry, and that he would do anything for me to resolve the issue.
He also said he didn't have any money.
I had already made peace with the situation so didn't really have an attachment to any outcome. I figured if I could get him to create a website or two for me, I'd let it all go and chalk it up to experience.
He agreed, and created a wonderful site and even a wonderful sales letter for it.
But he also did something else that stunned everyone around me, but just made me smile.
He sent me a cashier's check for the full amount he owed me (about six thousand dollars). (!)
He also said he would continue to do work for me, gratis, to show his good faith.
No one around me could believe it.
I found the guy who skipped town.
He did work for me.
And he paid me off.
How did this happen?
Here's my take on it:
First, I wasn't attached to him paying me back. I would welcome my money back, but I didn't need it. Too many people want something to happen in their lives but are desperate about it. That desperation creates/attracts more to be desperate about. I was cool whether the guy paid me or not. My energy was neutral.
Second, I saw the good in the guy. I know that people at their core are basically good. They want to do good. Sometimes when they are backed into a corner, they do things they regret. But I knew the guy and felt he was a good soul. He would do good in whatever way he could.
These two steps don't guarantee that you'll get your money back from someone who borrowed or stole from you, but they do guarantee you will be at peace with the moment.
It's from that place of inner peace that you can attract what you desire -- even if it's from someone who skipped town, couldn't be found, and was flat broke.
PS -- I'm sure any skeptic or critic could smugly say the above story was just a fluke, that I was just lucky. Maybe so. But I have several stories where people turned around and did good while everyone around them gave up on them. The lesson here is where do you want to put your focus: on what doesn't work or on what does? The Law of Attraction (as well as the fundamentals of psychology) states you get more of whatever you focus on with energy and intent. Where's your focus?
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Dr. Joe Vitale is the star of the hit movie, "The Secret." He is also the author of way too many bestselling books to mention here. To name a few: The Attractor Factor, Zero Limits and his latest, Attract Money Now. He's also recorded many Nightingale Conant audio programs, and most recently, "The Abundance Paradigm." He also created a Miracles Coaching program and much more! For more information on Joe Vitale, go to: http://www.mrfire.com
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