While most of relationship endings are pretty miserable, those that happen during the holidays may be some of the worst imaginable. This is especially true for the partners that didn't want the breakup. In fact, they usually never see it coming so it hits them like a wall when it happens. Because you would think that waiting a few days isn't that big of a deal, the timing on these breakups can also seem vindictive.
When a holiday breakup happens, you may feel that there's no chance you can have a "normal" holiday. Obviously, you're going to be unhappy and hurt. Everywhere you look may remind you of something to do with your ex and how joyful you used to be. Yes, it may be very hard to enjoy the holidays when you've been dumped by someone with the worst timing in the world. However, there are ways to make it through the holiday season and emerge on the other side somewhat unscathed.
To start with, consider the reason for the breakup. If it was just one of those silly fights that couples have caused by the stress that comes with the happy season, things will most likely be all patched up and fine by Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. Yes, you'll have a few moments in there where you'll be miserable and feel like you want to just die, or you want HIM to die, but once both of you realize what was really going on, things will work themselves out. On top of that, you'll get to have some very amazing make up sex, which can only make the holidays even better.
Now, however, if he cheated on you or has met another person he's serious about, or for whatever reason, he's just not in love with you anymore, those are going to be difficult situations to deal with ANY time of the year, let alone holidays. This is when you need a great support system around you. These can be your closest friends as well as relatives that really appreciate you. Lean on them and accept whatever comfort they're offering. Just remember that it's the holiday season for them, too, and they probably kind of wanted to enjoy this time.
Don't hide up in your room or your home and refuse human contact. This is when you need it the most. It's perfectly fine to grieve, but your goal is going to be surviving a few days before completely breaking down. There will be eleven months and three weeks to do that the rest of the year, if you really want to spend that much time mourning someone that apparently didn't care all that much anyway. Do what you need to do to crawl through those holidays. Keep in mind not to do something totally stupid, though, like indulging in a series of ill-advised one night stands. Stranger sex isn't going to heal you or even put a bandaid on your distress.
One more thing to consider is that you may have hooked up with one of those guys that simply splits up around holidays, or special days, so that he doesn't have to buy gifts. He'll be back right after New Year's if that's your ex. Just expect him to pick a fight again right before Valentine's Day.
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Wednesday, December 18, 2013
Tuesday, December 17, 2013
Life Lessons: Courageous Living
The first thing we need to do when it comes to living more courageously is to understand what courage is and what it is not
There are a lot of misconceptions around the word, and many of us go through life never really understanding what it means to have courage or to be courageous.
From childhood we have known people who seemed to display courage. They might be real people we know, or simply know about, people who have won through despite the challenges or the odds. Or they might be fictional characters we've seen on television or read about in books. Usually they are people who don't seem to feel the fear that we feel. But if we pause for a moment to refelct, we might come to see that fear itself may not be the entire problem. It just might be our relationship with fear that keeps us from being courageous.
Courageous Preconceptions
Most of us like and admire courageous people. We want to be like them -- or at least feel like them. We want to never have to suffer fear, self-doubt, or anxiety again. The problem is that most of us will never experience this perfect 'fearless' self. That sort of courage might exist in story books and movies, but it is not real.
Psychologists now largely agree that courage is not the absence of fear; it is the determination to take action even in the presence of fear. It is pushing on, despite the fear, because you have a goal that you believe is worth the effort and discomfort. So many people feel bad about themselves for being afraid or anxious. They believe 'courageous' people simply don't experience these emotions. But they do. The difference is that courageous people don't let fearful emotions stop them doing what they want to do. Courageous people do uncomfortable, knee-shaking things all the time, and they, too, feel fear. It's just that they consider their fear and discomfort to be a necessary part of living a full life, and so they push on, in spite of it.
It's normal for anyone to feel a bit anxious on a first date, or with the first kiss. Driving for the first time can be both intimidating and exciting. The first day at school or in a new job can be absolutely terrifying! Yet fear is part of what makes these experiences meaningful. As Mark Twain once said, 'Courage is resistence to fear, mastery of fear -- not absence of fear'.
Normalizing Discomfort
One of the most important things to understand about fear, is that it is never going to completely go away. It's part of every single human being's emotional vocabulary, our repertoire of feelings. Doing something really new, daring, or important, is challenging, and will often bring with it those uncomfortable feelings we call 'fear'.
According to Brené Brown, psychologist and noted TED speaker, when we attempt to suppress one emotion -- such as fear -- we tend to numb all of our other emotions, even really positive ones such as excitement, enthusiasm, and joy.
Simply avoiding fear triggers -- snakes, job changes, public speaking, or a difficult mother-in-law, for example -- is no solution. Run, and you'll be forever running. Instead, Brown encourages people to face their feelings of vulnerability, and see them as a crucial part of being human -- courageous and daring -- even if it means opening up to judgement, hurt or disappointment.
Being daring is all about leaving your comfort zone and jumping into the arena of life. Choosing to live how you want and being yourself can be uncomfortable at times. Accepting feelings of discomfort is the first step towards becoming courageous.
Prepare Yourself
What gives a person courage can be deceptively simple at times. When you are feeling challenged in reaching a goal, realizing a dream, or making a decision (be it asking someone out on a date or climbing Mount Everest), sitting down and scribbling a list of what you need in order to move forward can be really helpful.
If you want to be a writer, and you haven't written anything since high school, then of course writing a novel is bound to feel overwhelming, even terrifying. What about joining a writer's group, or taking a single weekend workshop in writing where you'll meet others struggling with similar difficulties? The trick lies in beginning -- and then keeping on. Take things one chunk, one step at a time. Begin with those first few steps and let yourself be surprised by your own ability. If you're feeling nervous about asking someone out on a date, ask yourself what would help you feel more confident -- a new haircut, your best pair of shoes, a session at the gym? Off the top of your head, what are the two or three things that would make the biggest difference to you feeling braver?
Maybe you need more support, a new location, some more training, or just a new attitude. Perhaps it's something tangible, like equipment, software, clothing, money, or licensing. What are the first things you need to prepare in order to bring just a bit more courage into your life and help you realize your dreams? Don't use this as an excuse for inaction -- rationalizing that you can't do it because you don't yet have this or that. Decide what you need -- and then go for it!
Telling Stories
Our lives can be either enhanced or restricted by the stories we tell ourselves. A single, isolated event that produced feelings of intimidation or fear can alter a person's story, casting him or her into the role of victim, a role in which they live their life believing they are small, afraid and weak. A whole sense of identity can be based on such negative experiences. But it really doesn't need to be this way. It is within our power to change our stories, and we can do this whenever we choose. Here expert hypnotherapy can help clear past programing so that you can move forward, writing your own story.
You are the author of your life. Make a decision about how you want to progress, and who you want to be from now on. When things are getting tough, take another look at your situation, your script. See it from another perspective. Remember to acknowledge your accomplishments, your talents and your gifts. Write a list of the times when you have pushed through in spite of fear or anxiety, times when you acted courageously or in a more confident manner than usual. Is there a pattern? What can you learn from these experiences that you can apply going forward?
In your present circumstance, see yourself now as a person who is doing something (or contemplating doing something) that scares not only you, but possibly other people, as well. Maybe you'll want to overcome your fear of public speaking by joining a group of like-minded people in Toastmasters International, or be really brave and challenge your fear of heights by skydiving or bungy jumping. Hypnotherapy can be really useful here, too, helping you to condition your mind to let go of past experience, face your fears, and live much more in the now. Mindfulness can help, too. How about something a little less challenging to begin with? Learning to cook or ride a unicycle? You get the idea.
No matter the roadblocks, the setbacks, or the anxiety, praise yourself. You are ahead of the rest of the crowd who are not yet willing to try. Consider the worst case scenario, the one where you crash and burn and fail in every possible way. How bad is that, really? What is the positive that might come from that experience? Going there in your mind can de-sensitize the subconscious fear response, lessening the anxiety. This can take the sting out of our deepest fears; it demonstrates that even if the worst came to the worst, life still goes on; we will survive. Ask yourself to think of three or four positive things that you might get from such a worse case scenario that will help you going forward. Mental rehearsal in which you succeed can be a powerful way of conditioning the mind to do just that.
It takes effort to live courageously. It takes practice. Each time you do it you will strengthen your inner resolve, you will win through, and you will grow stronger. Go ahead now -- strike out! You just might surprise yourself.
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There are a lot of misconceptions around the word, and many of us go through life never really understanding what it means to have courage or to be courageous.
From childhood we have known people who seemed to display courage. They might be real people we know, or simply know about, people who have won through despite the challenges or the odds. Or they might be fictional characters we've seen on television or read about in books. Usually they are people who don't seem to feel the fear that we feel. But if we pause for a moment to refelct, we might come to see that fear itself may not be the entire problem. It just might be our relationship with fear that keeps us from being courageous.
Courageous Preconceptions
Most of us like and admire courageous people. We want to be like them -- or at least feel like them. We want to never have to suffer fear, self-doubt, or anxiety again. The problem is that most of us will never experience this perfect 'fearless' self. That sort of courage might exist in story books and movies, but it is not real.
Psychologists now largely agree that courage is not the absence of fear; it is the determination to take action even in the presence of fear. It is pushing on, despite the fear, because you have a goal that you believe is worth the effort and discomfort. So many people feel bad about themselves for being afraid or anxious. They believe 'courageous' people simply don't experience these emotions. But they do. The difference is that courageous people don't let fearful emotions stop them doing what they want to do. Courageous people do uncomfortable, knee-shaking things all the time, and they, too, feel fear. It's just that they consider their fear and discomfort to be a necessary part of living a full life, and so they push on, in spite of it.
It's normal for anyone to feel a bit anxious on a first date, or with the first kiss. Driving for the first time can be both intimidating and exciting. The first day at school or in a new job can be absolutely terrifying! Yet fear is part of what makes these experiences meaningful. As Mark Twain once said, 'Courage is resistence to fear, mastery of fear -- not absence of fear'.
Normalizing Discomfort
One of the most important things to understand about fear, is that it is never going to completely go away. It's part of every single human being's emotional vocabulary, our repertoire of feelings. Doing something really new, daring, or important, is challenging, and will often bring with it those uncomfortable feelings we call 'fear'.
According to Brené Brown, psychologist and noted TED speaker, when we attempt to suppress one emotion -- such as fear -- we tend to numb all of our other emotions, even really positive ones such as excitement, enthusiasm, and joy.
Simply avoiding fear triggers -- snakes, job changes, public speaking, or a difficult mother-in-law, for example -- is no solution. Run, and you'll be forever running. Instead, Brown encourages people to face their feelings of vulnerability, and see them as a crucial part of being human -- courageous and daring -- even if it means opening up to judgement, hurt or disappointment.
Being daring is all about leaving your comfort zone and jumping into the arena of life. Choosing to live how you want and being yourself can be uncomfortable at times. Accepting feelings of discomfort is the first step towards becoming courageous.
Prepare Yourself
What gives a person courage can be deceptively simple at times. When you are feeling challenged in reaching a goal, realizing a dream, or making a decision (be it asking someone out on a date or climbing Mount Everest), sitting down and scribbling a list of what you need in order to move forward can be really helpful.
If you want to be a writer, and you haven't written anything since high school, then of course writing a novel is bound to feel overwhelming, even terrifying. What about joining a writer's group, or taking a single weekend workshop in writing where you'll meet others struggling with similar difficulties? The trick lies in beginning -- and then keeping on. Take things one chunk, one step at a time. Begin with those first few steps and let yourself be surprised by your own ability. If you're feeling nervous about asking someone out on a date, ask yourself what would help you feel more confident -- a new haircut, your best pair of shoes, a session at the gym? Off the top of your head, what are the two or three things that would make the biggest difference to you feeling braver?
Maybe you need more support, a new location, some more training, or just a new attitude. Perhaps it's something tangible, like equipment, software, clothing, money, or licensing. What are the first things you need to prepare in order to bring just a bit more courage into your life and help you realize your dreams? Don't use this as an excuse for inaction -- rationalizing that you can't do it because you don't yet have this or that. Decide what you need -- and then go for it!
Telling Stories
Our lives can be either enhanced or restricted by the stories we tell ourselves. A single, isolated event that produced feelings of intimidation or fear can alter a person's story, casting him or her into the role of victim, a role in which they live their life believing they are small, afraid and weak. A whole sense of identity can be based on such negative experiences. But it really doesn't need to be this way. It is within our power to change our stories, and we can do this whenever we choose. Here expert hypnotherapy can help clear past programing so that you can move forward, writing your own story.
You are the author of your life. Make a decision about how you want to progress, and who you want to be from now on. When things are getting tough, take another look at your situation, your script. See it from another perspective. Remember to acknowledge your accomplishments, your talents and your gifts. Write a list of the times when you have pushed through in spite of fear or anxiety, times when you acted courageously or in a more confident manner than usual. Is there a pattern? What can you learn from these experiences that you can apply going forward?
In your present circumstance, see yourself now as a person who is doing something (or contemplating doing something) that scares not only you, but possibly other people, as well. Maybe you'll want to overcome your fear of public speaking by joining a group of like-minded people in Toastmasters International, or be really brave and challenge your fear of heights by skydiving or bungy jumping. Hypnotherapy can be really useful here, too, helping you to condition your mind to let go of past experience, face your fears, and live much more in the now. Mindfulness can help, too. How about something a little less challenging to begin with? Learning to cook or ride a unicycle? You get the idea.
No matter the roadblocks, the setbacks, or the anxiety, praise yourself. You are ahead of the rest of the crowd who are not yet willing to try. Consider the worst case scenario, the one where you crash and burn and fail in every possible way. How bad is that, really? What is the positive that might come from that experience? Going there in your mind can de-sensitize the subconscious fear response, lessening the anxiety. This can take the sting out of our deepest fears; it demonstrates that even if the worst came to the worst, life still goes on; we will survive. Ask yourself to think of three or four positive things that you might get from such a worse case scenario that will help you going forward. Mental rehearsal in which you succeed can be a powerful way of conditioning the mind to do just that.
It takes effort to live courageously. It takes practice. Each time you do it you will strengthen your inner resolve, you will win through, and you will grow stronger. Go ahead now -- strike out! You just might surprise yourself.
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Peter Field is a leading UK hypno-psychotherapist and counsellor. Information on 1-2-1 therapy sessions can be found on his website http://www.peterfieldhypnotherapy.co.uk Peter's self-hypnosis for anxiety download and CD is now available at http://www.hypnosiscdmp3downloads.com
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Sunday, December 15, 2013
6 Common Communication Barriers in The Workplace
There are several ways that individuals can go wrong when they're trying to communicate. Unfortunately, the barriers to communication in the workplace could lead to co-worker alienation, misunderstandings, arguments, and failure to make a good impression. Both psychological, physiological, language, perceptual, physical, and cultural barriers may hinder effective communication.
Psychological Barriers
Negative attitude and boredom can influence employees' receptiveness to messages sent. If employees attend a meeting about a company's bankruptcy, their anger or fear may lead them to misinterpret the message being conveyed. Also, communication could shut down when a listener gets embarrassed by what the speaker is discussing. For example, a salesperson can become inattentive due to failure in meeting sales quota. Other professionals in the meeting may also be focusing on on-going tasks and deadlines rather than listening to the comments of the speaker. These situations could result in communication barriers that could be hard to overcome.
Physiological Barriers
These barriers are the characteristics of the listener or speaker that hinder the reception or transmission of messages or information. For example, sleepiness or allergy can make it difficult to focus and be attentive to conversations. Depression and physical pain can also negatively affect the hearing and interpretation of messages. Other issues such as fatigue, emotional distress, and hunger can also affect communication.
Language Barriers
Words can have varying meanings for different people, complicating communication. A security engineer may hear the word "trust" and associate it with a computer system's integrity, while an attorney may think of real property. Language barriers can also be caused by using jargons such as "web 2.0" and "value-add" or discriminatory and insensitive language. Complex sentences, incorrect pronunciation, faulty spelling and grammar, can confuse a listener.
Perceptual Barriers
Employees are used to perceiving things in specific ways, making it hard to recognize new meanings. For instance, a manager who prefers hiring university graduates may overlook the great contributions that can be made by a graduate from a community college. Differing values, life experiences, interests may prevent two employees from perceiving a message the same manner. An employee may recommend solutions that are not sound or correct due to invalid or wrong perceptions. Intelligence and education can also affect people's perceptions, as well as their social and safety needs.
Physical Barriers
The physical communication barriers are the environmental elements affecting the ability of an employee to bring across or acquire information. Any type of noise and loud talking will affect hearing. Also, the mannerisms and overall appearance of the speaker could negatively affect his ability to send his message to an audience. The seating arrangements of the listeners as well as their physical comfort level can also affect communications, since sitting at the back row of a huge auditorium can prevent them from clearly hearing the full message.
Cultural Barriers
These workplace communication barriers go beyond language. Those who speak English with excellence may have different approaches and attitudes that come from the manner they were raised or their places of origin. Typically, a person who's born and raised in the U.S. may have cultural differences from someone from another country. How people react, see, and react to the many things can vary vastly because of culture.
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Psychological Barriers
Negative attitude and boredom can influence employees' receptiveness to messages sent. If employees attend a meeting about a company's bankruptcy, their anger or fear may lead them to misinterpret the message being conveyed. Also, communication could shut down when a listener gets embarrassed by what the speaker is discussing. For example, a salesperson can become inattentive due to failure in meeting sales quota. Other professionals in the meeting may also be focusing on on-going tasks and deadlines rather than listening to the comments of the speaker. These situations could result in communication barriers that could be hard to overcome.
Physiological Barriers
These barriers are the characteristics of the listener or speaker that hinder the reception or transmission of messages or information. For example, sleepiness or allergy can make it difficult to focus and be attentive to conversations. Depression and physical pain can also negatively affect the hearing and interpretation of messages. Other issues such as fatigue, emotional distress, and hunger can also affect communication.
Language Barriers
Words can have varying meanings for different people, complicating communication. A security engineer may hear the word "trust" and associate it with a computer system's integrity, while an attorney may think of real property. Language barriers can also be caused by using jargons such as "web 2.0" and "value-add" or discriminatory and insensitive language. Complex sentences, incorrect pronunciation, faulty spelling and grammar, can confuse a listener.
Perceptual Barriers
Employees are used to perceiving things in specific ways, making it hard to recognize new meanings. For instance, a manager who prefers hiring university graduates may overlook the great contributions that can be made by a graduate from a community college. Differing values, life experiences, interests may prevent two employees from perceiving a message the same manner. An employee may recommend solutions that are not sound or correct due to invalid or wrong perceptions. Intelligence and education can also affect people's perceptions, as well as their social and safety needs.
Physical Barriers
The physical communication barriers are the environmental elements affecting the ability of an employee to bring across or acquire information. Any type of noise and loud talking will affect hearing. Also, the mannerisms and overall appearance of the speaker could negatively affect his ability to send his message to an audience. The seating arrangements of the listeners as well as their physical comfort level can also affect communications, since sitting at the back row of a huge auditorium can prevent them from clearly hearing the full message.
Cultural Barriers
These workplace communication barriers go beyond language. Those who speak English with excellence may have different approaches and attitudes that come from the manner they were raised or their places of origin. Typically, a person who's born and raised in the U.S. may have cultural differences from someone from another country. How people react, see, and react to the many things can vary vastly because of culture.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=ZANwgStn1Hs
http://www.vervepotential1.webgarden.com/blog/communication-skills-how-to
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Saturday, December 14, 2013
Creative Visualization And The Law Of Attraction
You may have heard of creative visualization from interviews with athletes who have used this powerful technique to win more gold medals and titles than perhaps any other single training method. By actually sensing, feeling and being in a perfect race or competition within their own heads, professional and amateur athletes are able to use these mental images to help them prepare for the actual race. What you may not realize is that the technique is essentially the very same as the Law of Attraction as popularised in the film and book, The Secret.
In 1984, Dr. Denis Waitley began using his idea for visualization with Olympic athletes. In his very popular 1986 book, The Psychology of Winning, Waitley outlined how to form and really use visualization as a tool for success. The athletes he coached were so effective in Olympic competition; his books became a de facto standard that even high school athletes have since tried his method.
Of course, really feeling and being in your chosen future demands you spend some time and make an effort to help get the picture solid in your mind, no matter what your goal is. This means not only knowing what you want, but also giving some thought as to how your best future will come about. That doesn't mean you'll know how it will happen, but even just actively imagining yourself achieving your success will help make it happen.
Because it's often easier to envision objects, asking for physical manifestations of your intentions is often a good place to start. The Law of Attraction doesn't differentiate between large and small requests, but human minds do. You'll feel far more convinced of your own abilities to encourage good fortune to come your way when you start small.
What makes visualization actually useful are the little details. One needs to actually see and feel and essentially "be" in your own future. The more detailed your image of the future you desire is; the more likely you are to make it come true. This may involve visiting the objects you desire, or even cutting a picture of what you want out of a catalogue.
For instance, if you want a car, decide what car that is, right down to every detail. Then go test drive one. If you have no idea how you'll be able to afford it, don't think about it - you don't want to re-enforce any negative messages. Drive that car around, then go home, and clearly remember every little aspect of that test drive. Imagine yourself behind the wheel and how good it did and will feel. The more convincing the image, the more powerful it is.
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In 1984, Dr. Denis Waitley began using his idea for visualization with Olympic athletes. In his very popular 1986 book, The Psychology of Winning, Waitley outlined how to form and really use visualization as a tool for success. The athletes he coached were so effective in Olympic competition; his books became a de facto standard that even high school athletes have since tried his method.
Of course, really feeling and being in your chosen future demands you spend some time and make an effort to help get the picture solid in your mind, no matter what your goal is. This means not only knowing what you want, but also giving some thought as to how your best future will come about. That doesn't mean you'll know how it will happen, but even just actively imagining yourself achieving your success will help make it happen.
Because it's often easier to envision objects, asking for physical manifestations of your intentions is often a good place to start. The Law of Attraction doesn't differentiate between large and small requests, but human minds do. You'll feel far more convinced of your own abilities to encourage good fortune to come your way when you start small.
What makes visualization actually useful are the little details. One needs to actually see and feel and essentially "be" in your own future. The more detailed your image of the future you desire is; the more likely you are to make it come true. This may involve visiting the objects you desire, or even cutting a picture of what you want out of a catalogue.
For instance, if you want a car, decide what car that is, right down to every detail. Then go test drive one. If you have no idea how you'll be able to afford it, don't think about it - you don't want to re-enforce any negative messages. Drive that car around, then go home, and clearly remember every little aspect of that test drive. Imagine yourself behind the wheel and how good it did and will feel. The more convincing the image, the more powerful it is.
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Friday, December 13, 2013
Time Management Tips - 3 Insights To Using Collaboration To Increase Your Priority Power
Time management tips' success depend on your constructive work relationships with others. Collaboration is a complex and highly rewarding skill to master. So when you work in tandem, keep these significant variables in mind.
To combine forces as effectively as possible, think in terms of dependencies. When you do, your Priority Power will rise appreciably.
A. Collaboration, Dependencies and Efficiency
Perhaps you have encountered the project management term, "dependency" before.
In essence, when a task you share responsibility for requires collaboration, the "dependency" is someone outside of your immediate work group who plays an essential role in your achieving your goals. When you prioritize tasks, dependencies must be factored in and accounted for.
For example, let's say that you work closely with a few different departments at your job. You need to establish a working budget every quarter, so you look to the finance department to supply you with accurate figures. Because they generally take about a month to assemble and present you with the necessary data, prioritize your request. Therefore, you need to make it well in advance of your due date. This way, you get the data you need with time to spare.
B. When You Play a Prominent Role In Others' Plans
And then there are the instances when others look to you to assist them in reaching their objectives.
Perhaps your son is counting on you to create his costume for the upcoming school play. To be ready to play his part, he depends on you to do yours. Now without a second thought, you assign this task top priority. Your open-hearted commitment to support your child, and his reliance on you, establish this project's high priority as you create your weekly schedule.
C. The Benefits of Considering Dependencies As You Schedule And Assign Priorities
Thinking in terms of dependencies and consciously welcoming them as you structure your collaborative work rewards you in more ways than one.
1. Chances are that your productivity increases with every incremental step forward.
2. The more you think in terms of coordination, the more understanding you develop of the entire working system. In the same way that defensive driving helps you view the traffic patterns more astutely, you'll find that a holistic overview of your workplace helps you establish more realistic priorities and due dates.
3. Finally, note how staying attuned to others' needs and time constraints often promotes good will and flow. As you understand others' priorities, they may in turn relate with more sensitivity to yours. Your time is enhanced, you become more efficient and effective, and general morale increases.
Remember, there are always new ways to develop more productivity while clarifying important relationships.
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To combine forces as effectively as possible, think in terms of dependencies. When you do, your Priority Power will rise appreciably.
A. Collaboration, Dependencies and Efficiency
Perhaps you have encountered the project management term, "dependency" before.
In essence, when a task you share responsibility for requires collaboration, the "dependency" is someone outside of your immediate work group who plays an essential role in your achieving your goals. When you prioritize tasks, dependencies must be factored in and accounted for.
For example, let's say that you work closely with a few different departments at your job. You need to establish a working budget every quarter, so you look to the finance department to supply you with accurate figures. Because they generally take about a month to assemble and present you with the necessary data, prioritize your request. Therefore, you need to make it well in advance of your due date. This way, you get the data you need with time to spare.
B. When You Play a Prominent Role In Others' Plans
And then there are the instances when others look to you to assist them in reaching their objectives.
Perhaps your son is counting on you to create his costume for the upcoming school play. To be ready to play his part, he depends on you to do yours. Now without a second thought, you assign this task top priority. Your open-hearted commitment to support your child, and his reliance on you, establish this project's high priority as you create your weekly schedule.
C. The Benefits of Considering Dependencies As You Schedule And Assign Priorities
Thinking in terms of dependencies and consciously welcoming them as you structure your collaborative work rewards you in more ways than one.
1. Chances are that your productivity increases with every incremental step forward.
2. The more you think in terms of coordination, the more understanding you develop of the entire working system. In the same way that defensive driving helps you view the traffic patterns more astutely, you'll find that a holistic overview of your workplace helps you establish more realistic priorities and due dates.
3. Finally, note how staying attuned to others' needs and time constraints often promotes good will and flow. As you understand others' priorities, they may in turn relate with more sensitivity to yours. Your time is enhanced, you become more efficient and effective, and general morale increases.
Remember, there are always new ways to develop more productivity while clarifying important relationships.
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