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"A love coach? I've heard of a life coach or a therapist, but I don't see why I personally need someone to dictate my love life."
It is normal to be skeptical of something you have not experienced before. The only way to get rid of your doubts on healers is to experience healing for yourself.
You may have wondered why love coaches exist. It's because problematic love lives - or a lack of a love life itself - exist. It is these people who will help you be better at handling yourself, your partner, and your relationship. You may have had a relationship that was full of twists and turns at one point in your life--it may already be happening to you now. Sometimes people think it is better to walk away from such relationships and find someone else. What these people don't know is that relationships can be fixed; it doesn't have to end so quickly and easily.
While others may get through relationship situations unscathed and unaffected, there are those who may need that little push to move on with their life. With that in mind, here are some advantages of seeking help from a love coach.
A love coach teaches you about hope. Whatever challenge you are in, with or without a partner, keep in mind that there is always hope that you (and your partner) can get through it. Sometimes couples or individuals lose their way and believe that their relationship is going nowhere but downhill, especially when they have been together for so long. A love coach will help remind you about all the good things about your relationship, and why you started it in the first place, and then guide you into recapturing that desire and passion to breathe life to your relationship again.
A love coach empowers you to not just become hopeful, but also to be a better person your partner or future partner deserves, and vice versa. Every single day, you are moved by everything around you, you show it to your partner, and you become more and more aware of all the good things in life, and focus on that for you and your partner.
A love coach helps you understand yourself and your partner. It is by understanding yourself, and embracing who you are, that you will love yourself. And that will result in confidence, self-esteem, self-love, respect, and empathy--just some of the traits that make a person become attractive to another.
A love coach also shows you why it is important to celebrate the love you have or going to have. Because love is such a beautiful and precious gift to give, have, and/or be given, it is only right that you recognize and appreciate its presence and the people you love. If you have no partner yet, a love coach shows you how to share this happiness to the person you care about.
These are just some of the many things you will learn from a professional love coach. Aside from individual sessions, a love coach may also offer workshops and courses. Whether you are attending a workshop alone or with your partner, you can be sure that you will come out a better and more enlightened loving individual.
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Having relationship problems? Let love coach and healer at Robert Kirby Heart Centred Living help you become a better person to your partner and yourself. Discover how you can open your heart to the many possibilities that love has to offer at https://www.robertkirby.com.
Wednesday, March 25, 2015
Tuesday, March 10, 2015
How To Get Over Nervousness When Public Speaking
Few things can trigger complete blinding panic like public speaking.
So many of us would prefer to bungy jump off a sky scraper than get up in front of a group of people and deliver a 15 minute presentation. Altering how you perceive public speaking and how you go about it, can turn a dreaded experience into a joyful one.
One of the first things to consider is ditching the script.
When public speaking, it is good to have a list of bullet points prepared so you know the various points you need to communicate. When you are reading a pre-written script to a crowd of people, there is more opportunity to notice how you are feeling on the inside, and to allow this to negatively influence you. Also, most people respond better to a spontaneous, conversational style of delivery, rather than something that sounds premeditated and repeated parrot-style.
Get your bullet points ready, and then go about communicating those points however you like. You will become more absorbed in what you are saying, and less so in how nervous you feel.
Causes of Public Speaking Anxiety
Often, speaking anxiety is connected to events from childhood. Embarrassing experiences involving having to perform in front of our family or our class while in school, for example, can cause discomfort around public speaking for decades.
When we are children and adolescents we want nothing more than to be accepted and to fit in. Standing alone in front of a crowd of peers and feeling judged can be an awful experience. If it doesn't go well, the memory of that negative event may be triggered later, on a subconscious level, bringing with it those same difficult feelings.
Sometimes recognizing and giving validation to those memories is enough to sever and shift the connection from your modern-day public speaking fears. If past experiences still continue to haunt, working with an experienced hypnotherapist can aid in rewriting the script and help you move forward with conficence.
Expectations of Yourself
The very best advice, when it comes to speaking in public is: Just be yourself. Don't try to be a "public speaker" or a "presenter" or a "lecturer". Use any notes you have prepared, but be willing to let go and deviate. Tell stories. Above all, be prepared to have fun. If you're enjoying yourself, chances are you audience will, too.
Let your natural personality flow, and remind yourself that YOU are not the subject of your public speaking. Once you stop trying to be something you are not, public speaking really can be a liberating, freeing experience.
Breathing
Breathing properly helps to reduce tension and calm nerves, but improper breathing can enhance feelings of anxiety. When we are nervous, we tend to hurry through whatever we are saying, and this interupts our natural breathing pattern, all to easily making us gasp for air. So breathe deeply and slowly, speaking as you exhale. Be sure to pause often -- and remember it's almost impossible to speak too slowly.
Follow these few tips and you might even find yourself enjoying speaking in front of others.
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Peter Field is a British counselor and hypno-psychotherapist with busy clinics in London and Birmingham. He is Fellow of the Royal Society of Health, Member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy, and Member of the National Guild of Hypnotists. For 1-2-1 sessions please visit http://www.peterfieldhypnotherapy.co.uk
So many of us would prefer to bungy jump off a sky scraper than get up in front of a group of people and deliver a 15 minute presentation. Altering how you perceive public speaking and how you go about it, can turn a dreaded experience into a joyful one.
One of the first things to consider is ditching the script.
When public speaking, it is good to have a list of bullet points prepared so you know the various points you need to communicate. When you are reading a pre-written script to a crowd of people, there is more opportunity to notice how you are feeling on the inside, and to allow this to negatively influence you. Also, most people respond better to a spontaneous, conversational style of delivery, rather than something that sounds premeditated and repeated parrot-style.
Get your bullet points ready, and then go about communicating those points however you like. You will become more absorbed in what you are saying, and less so in how nervous you feel.
Causes of Public Speaking Anxiety
Often, speaking anxiety is connected to events from childhood. Embarrassing experiences involving having to perform in front of our family or our class while in school, for example, can cause discomfort around public speaking for decades.
When we are children and adolescents we want nothing more than to be accepted and to fit in. Standing alone in front of a crowd of peers and feeling judged can be an awful experience. If it doesn't go well, the memory of that negative event may be triggered later, on a subconscious level, bringing with it those same difficult feelings.
Sometimes recognizing and giving validation to those memories is enough to sever and shift the connection from your modern-day public speaking fears. If past experiences still continue to haunt, working with an experienced hypnotherapist can aid in rewriting the script and help you move forward with conficence.
Expectations of Yourself
The very best advice, when it comes to speaking in public is: Just be yourself. Don't try to be a "public speaker" or a "presenter" or a "lecturer". Use any notes you have prepared, but be willing to let go and deviate. Tell stories. Above all, be prepared to have fun. If you're enjoying yourself, chances are you audience will, too.
Let your natural personality flow, and remind yourself that YOU are not the subject of your public speaking. Once you stop trying to be something you are not, public speaking really can be a liberating, freeing experience.
Breathing
Breathing properly helps to reduce tension and calm nerves, but improper breathing can enhance feelings of anxiety. When we are nervous, we tend to hurry through whatever we are saying, and this interupts our natural breathing pattern, all to easily making us gasp for air. So breathe deeply and slowly, speaking as you exhale. Be sure to pause often -- and remember it's almost impossible to speak too slowly.
Follow these few tips and you might even find yourself enjoying speaking in front of others.
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Peter Field is a British counselor and hypno-psychotherapist with busy clinics in London and Birmingham. He is Fellow of the Royal Society of Health, Member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy, and Member of the National Guild of Hypnotists. For 1-2-1 sessions please visit http://www.peterfieldhypnotherapy.co.uk
Sunday, March 8, 2015
Overcoming Procrastination: Crucial Guidance
In the current fast-paced world, many people struggle with meeting their personal or professional objectives. They are told to return to the drawing board and develop timetables. However, what people forget to realize is that no matter how complex the timetable is, if they do not have the will to adhere to it, then it serves no purpose. Those who suffer from procrastination may keep even the most gifted of individuals from getting goals.
Even though it's much easier to identify than solve this challenge, you can conquer it by setting easy routines for slow, constant progress. This article offers advice on helping you get over procrastination. Read on and learn how to overcome procrastination and the way to make the most of your time.
Arranging to do your tasks from the most important to the least important is one of the surefire ways to kill procrastination. While you ultimately want to accomplish all of the tasks on this list, there are going to be some that are more time sensitive or important than others. If you pile similar jobs together, you will end up spending less time when compared with when you do them individually. In addition, you should also attack your checklist by starting with items that are interrelated.
When you undertake similar tasks together, you end up spending less time than you could have undertaken if you did the tasks aimlessly. The other thing that you should consider is the time. Should you do similar tasks after each other, you'll find them easier and more convenient to finish which also helps you to overcome procrastination.
Consider how much time you have to complete everything. This will help you know if you can complete all the work, and the time that you need to assign to every task The reason many people end up procrastinating is the fact that they overestimate the time they have to conduct a particular task. In the same vein, you should allocate time to each and every activity, know the time available and then where to start.
Finally, you need to continually remind yourself that there is work for you to do. This cushions you from establishing overambitious schedules that you are unable to keep. In the event that you haven't estimated the time correctly, then rapidly look over your list and readjust your schedule to fit what you can inside the remaining time.
Finally, make use of the multiple reminders available such as alarms to track your progress and get away from any backsliding into procrastination again so that you figure out <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PNR96ZCU9zc">how to get motivated</a> more easily. With so many electronic gadgets on the market now, it should be quite easy to evaluate how you're progressing from time to time. This will help you to increase your pace or even readjust your routine in order to make the most out of the rest of the time.
What defines most procrastinators is the fact they always quit every time they sense failure. This doesn't mean you are a failure. As an example, if your plans entailed going to the bank, finishing up with a novel you were reading and then performing laundry, you may run out of time before you fit everything in.
Your success is not defined by your ability to perform everything perfectly. It is simply your ability to accomplish much using the time and means accessible to you.
Even though it's much easier to identify than solve this challenge, you can conquer it by setting easy routines for slow, constant progress. This article offers advice on helping you get over procrastination. Read on and learn how to overcome procrastination and the way to make the most of your time.
Arranging to do your tasks from the most important to the least important is one of the surefire ways to kill procrastination. While you ultimately want to accomplish all of the tasks on this list, there are going to be some that are more time sensitive or important than others. If you pile similar jobs together, you will end up spending less time when compared with when you do them individually. In addition, you should also attack your checklist by starting with items that are interrelated.
When you undertake similar tasks together, you end up spending less time than you could have undertaken if you did the tasks aimlessly. The other thing that you should consider is the time. Should you do similar tasks after each other, you'll find them easier and more convenient to finish which also helps you to overcome procrastination.
Consider how much time you have to complete everything. This will help you know if you can complete all the work, and the time that you need to assign to every task The reason many people end up procrastinating is the fact that they overestimate the time they have to conduct a particular task. In the same vein, you should allocate time to each and every activity, know the time available and then where to start.
Finally, you need to continually remind yourself that there is work for you to do. This cushions you from establishing overambitious schedules that you are unable to keep. In the event that you haven't estimated the time correctly, then rapidly look over your list and readjust your schedule to fit what you can inside the remaining time.
Finally, make use of the multiple reminders available such as alarms to track your progress and get away from any backsliding into procrastination again so that you figure out <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PNR96ZCU9zc">how to get motivated</a> more easily. With so many electronic gadgets on the market now, it should be quite easy to evaluate how you're progressing from time to time. This will help you to increase your pace or even readjust your routine in order to make the most out of the rest of the time.
What defines most procrastinators is the fact they always quit every time they sense failure. This doesn't mean you are a failure. As an example, if your plans entailed going to the bank, finishing up with a novel you were reading and then performing laundry, you may run out of time before you fit everything in.
Your success is not defined by your ability to perform everything perfectly. It is simply your ability to accomplish much using the time and means accessible to you.
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